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Serious Don't fall under the trap of hating yourself.

Inbuddhist

Inbuddhist

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Our predicament is hard, brothers, there is no denying that, and i promise i won't give you any platitude at the end, we all share the same hell. We are also constantly bombarded by bluepilled messages about "meritocracy", "desert" about how "what you get is what you deserve" that even in the mind of the most blackpilled person here, even the people who know intellectually, rationnaly that it's not their fault that they have bad looks, that it's only due to shitty hands dealt to them, there is a cucked part inside each of us that screams "It's your fault, you're an awful person, you deserves this"

Repeating words like "Subhuman" also reinforces this internal voice, you may very well understand intellectually that you aren't blaming yourself, that you just mean by that "Subhuman in a genetic level", but like i said, we were indonctrinated by society to associate bad predicaments with being a bad person, with having deserving it, at the gut level if you keep repeating sentences like that, you'll end believing that you are a bad person, that you should hate yourself because you deserve it.

Add to that the fallacious, erroneous and simplistic understanding that some people have of Natural Selection, where they see it from a human value-ridden point of view, and start imparting values to it, like "the GOAL of life is to procreate" (false), or "Procreating = winning" (false), if you read the book the selfish gene posted by @Fontaine you'll understand that natural selection consists just of selfish genes using bodies as vessels to perpetuate themselves, often AT THE DETRIMENT OF THE PERSON own well-being, it's a blind, dumb process that has no morality inscribed in it, no "value" in it, of "winning" "losing" and we shouldn't confuse the drive of selfish genes with the goals we should have for ourselves, as if it was a bible, a moral guide, or what leads to happiness.

Don't get me wrong, obviously sex/validation is more than important, but it's important because it enhances OUR WELL-BEING, that's what matters, not because it's "The goal of evolution", for instance, if you don't want a child, it doesn't matter that the selfish gene has a "drive" to perpetuate itself, you aren't "losing" by not having it if you don't want any, everybody dies and loses at the end, you won't share the subjective feeling of your child just because you had one, you won't float in an eternity of "Evolution winners" everyone loses at the end and everyones dies, and once dead, it makes absolutely no difference what you did before. Also, i'm not saying one shouldn't feel bad, even awful, even suicidal to be in our predicament, that's absolutely not what i'm saying, but even if you want to rope tomorrow, DON'T HATE YOURSELF, Rope or don't rope to make the situation better for you, or because you don't wanna endure it anymore, don't feed the internal voice that wants to make you hate yourself !

Don't ever forget, that what separated you from the chads, the people having validation/love/sex, feeling awesome and with high self-esteem is nothing but a strike of luck.
 
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It's a nice cope if you can trick yourself into believing it
 
It's a nice cope if you can trick yourself into believing it

What is the cope ?

I didn't say "love yourself" i think you misunderstood the point i'm trying to make, or didn't read at all.
 
i am a manlet, how can i NOT hate myself? I live my life in a 14 year old boys body.
 
What is the cope ?

I didn't say "love yourself" i think you misunderstood the point i'm trying to make, or didn't read at all.

You're just rephrasing empty platitudes and self acceptance
 
You're just rephrasing empty platitudes and self acceptance

You just have basic reading comprehension.

Absolutely not what i said.

Didn't say "You should love yourself"

Didn't say "You should accept yourself or shit"

All i said is you shouldn't hate yourself in the sense of believing you are a bad person, that's ALL.

Hate yourself as much as you want, just remember that it's not your fault for any of that (including hating yourself).
i am a manlet, how can i NOT hate myself? I live my life in a 14 year old boys body.

My face looks like a shit.

I didn't say you shouldn't hate yourself, i don't give any prescription. Just remember in some part of your mind that you DIDN'T DESERVE ANY OF THIS, that it's pure, dumb luck. That you aren't a "subhuman", you aren't a bad person for being dealt a shitty hand. Don't hate yourself for those reasons is all i meant.
 
You just have basic reading comprehension.

Absolutely not what i said.

Didn't say "You should love yourself"

Didn't say "You should accept yourself or shit"

All i said is you shouldn't hate yourself in the sense of believing you are a bad person, that's ALL.

Hate yourself as much as you want, just remember that it's not your fault for any of that (including hating yourself).


Your post is an explanation of why you think one shouldn't hate himself for being born ugly. The motivation of writing such a long post about this is pretty much self evident. Just remember, whether or not someone should hate himself for being born ugly is an opinion. What I don't like is that you're trying to present your opinion as objective reality based on facts - which are not actually facts but your opinion.

Can you prove that objectively, the goal of life is not procreation?
 
I'm ethnic, why shouldn't I hate myself? everyone else hates me too.
 
Your post is an explanation of why you think one shouldn't hate himself for being born ugly. The motivation of writing such a long post about this is pretty much self evident. Just remember, whether or not someone should hate himself for being born ugly is an opinion. What I don't like is that you're trying to present your opinion as objective reality based on facts - which are not actually facts but your opinion.

Can you prove that objectively, the goal of life is not procreation?

See, that's not what i meant at all.

My post is an explanation for why one shouldn't forget that he didn't deserve his lot, and hate himself for being an unworthy person that deserved that.

Not "for being ugly"

I can know i don't deserve it, it says nothing about my worth and still hate myself when i look at it at the mirror, or when i'm rejected and feel soul-crushing loneliness etc.
 
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Don't ever forget, that what separated you from the chads, the people having validation/love/sex, feeling awesome and with high self-esteem is nothing but a strike of luck.

Very true. I think about this all the time, we really were doomed from birth.
 
See, that's not what i meant at all.

My post is an explanation for why one shouldn't forget that he didn't deserve his lot, and hate himself for being an unworthy person that deserved that.

Not "for being ugly"


It is the same as hating yourself for being ugly since being ugly is the root cause of inceldom. You can hate the cause of your symptoms, or you can hate the symptoms themselves, makes no difference. Also, you're coping.
 
It is the same as hating yourself for being ugly since being ugly is the root cause of inceldom. You can hate the cause of your symptoms, or you can hate the symptoms themselves, makes no difference. Also, you're coping.

Ok.
 
i don't hate myself


i hate normies and clueless foids :feelsree:
 
There's wisdom in OP's message. I hate how shitty my life is, but I don't hate myself. We incels were just dealt a bad hand in life.

We should also watch out for the trolls and normie LARPers who try to tell us that we "deserve" harassment, abuse, and false accusations from foids.
 
High iq post. Your self worth should comes from within. Not from how society treats you.
i don't hate myself


i hate normies and clueless foids :feelsree:
Hating other is a projection of self hatred.
 

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