Serious Don't blame yourself, you never started at the same footing as the other kids

[Tetsuya]

A lot of where we end up in life is only a little bit related to our own choices, it's mostly due to our environment and how our parents shaped us. If it was so easy to figure shit out while starting from a poor foundation, everyone would've done it. Fat kids come from fat parents, poor kids stay poor and come from poor parents.

I actually never met anyone who started from zero or the negative and rose above it dramatically, I am sure they're out there but nearly everyone who has it good got there because of parental investment, even if the parents themselves may not be super rich or successful. But the parents were present, or they tried, or they weren't complete fuckups.

The older I get the more I gain a frame of reference and realize looking at my childhood that I never had a chance to be normal. It also helps me blame myself less.

 

[Baasskap]

Yeah, in few cases are you the one that is at fault.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

A lot of where we end up in life is only a little bit related to our own choices, it's mostly due to our environment and how our parents shaped us. If it was so easy to figure shit out while starting from a poor foundation, everyone would've done it. Fat kids come from fat parents, poor kids stay poor and come from poor parents.

I actually never met anyone who started from zero or the negative and rose above it dramatically, I am sure they're out there but nearly everyone who has it good got there because of parental investment, even if the parents themselves may not be super rich or successful. But the parents were present, or they tried, or they weren't complete fuckups.

The older I get the more I gain a frame of reference and realize looking at my childhood that I never had a chance to be normal. It also helps me blame myself less.

well i just have to look at (many, but not all) modern parents to see that i was right.

somewhere in the late 2000s it became much more common for parents to invest massively in their offspring, especially boys, organizing weeklong activities and gigantic birthday parties and just generally spending as much money on them as possible.
this, combined with both parents and teachers encouraging kids to exchange social media contacts and have a big social circle.

meanwhile my childhood was basically doing homework and getting socks and sweaters for christmas and birthdays.

 

[Caesercel]

The older I get the more I gain a frame of reference and realize looking at my childhood that I never had a chance to be normal.

 

[Maikowski]

who told u i blame myself?

 

[Spiteful Mutant]

My parents didn't invest much into my upbringing.

All my basic material needs were met I suppose, but they were almost completely emotionally absent.

I think they just expected everything to simply work out for me in the end. Didn't really go like that.

 

[VanGobbel]

Genetics decided our fate from the day we were born

 

[Caichan]

who told u i blame myself?

Swear

 

[kingjeff]

How can people deny this is what is the issue.

They get mad and say you are maxing excuses

Even with my diagnosed autism people get mad and say dont use it as an excuse?

It is a fucking excuse dumbass you wouldnt expect a paraplegic to suddenly get up and walk. My brain is litterally broken because my mom had kids in her late 30s and my sister has bad anxiety likely for the same reason

Oh but the foid can use it an an excuse but i cant is what ive noticed lmao

 

[guessthatsit]

My controlling parents raised me to be a isolated loser with no friends.

 

[Pikacel]

How can people deny this is what is the issue.

They get mad and say you are maxing excuses

Even with my diagnosed autism people get mad and say dont use it as an excuse?

It is a fucking excuse dumbass you wouldnt expect a paraplegic to suddenly get up and walk. My brain is litterally broken because my mom had kids in her late 30s and my sister has bad anxiety likely for the same reason

Oh but the foid can use it an an excuse but i cant is what ive noticed lmao

My controlling parents raised me to be a isolated loser with no friends.

 

[Pray to Yukon Koala]

How can people deny this is what is the issue.

They get mad and say you are maxing excuses

Even with my diagnosed autism people get mad and say dont use it as an excuse?

It is a fucking excuse dumbass you wouldnt expect a paraplegic to suddenly get up and walk. My brain is litterally broken because my mom had kids in her late 30s and my sister has bad anxiety likely for the same reason

Oh but the foid can use it an an excuse but i cant is what ive noticed lmao

You just made me realize how my parents believe my ''sister'' but not me in shit like that even though im the one whos been sent to therapy, not her lol

 

[retardfuel30]

Genetics decided our fate from the day we were born

 

[Wizardmaxxer]

Never had any good oppurtunity in life, i started life dead and with crippled legs