Do your grandparents know that you're an incel?

[Chuddington]

When I last saw my grandfather he asked if I had a girlfriend and I said no. He asked if I was going to get one and I just said "I don't know". He's probably going to die thinking I'm gay or something.

 

[zangano1]

yes I never leave the house and im subhuman

 

[UnwantedVirgin]

Most of mine are dead and one gave me shit for not having a gf back in the mid 2010's right before he died, the rest all knew I was subhuman. Grandma used to ask if I was courting anyone and the answer was always no.

 

[The Wolf]

Mine are all dead, the last one in 2015, the second-last one in 2011. If they were alive, they'd know but they wouldn't know the actual term "incel".

 

[diedlonely]

3 out of 4 are dead and they all lived on an entirely different continent. They probably had other shit to worry about, as far as they're concerned they've done their duty by having children then it's up to those children to make sure the family tree continues.

 

[CrackingYs]

they're dead

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

My maternal grandfather is deceased. My paternal grandfather is distant from me; I know little to nothing of him, aside from having his Q haplogroup.

 

[Incedel]

nah they're dead

 

[LeFrenchCel]

I guess they can have an idea idk

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Yes, I was always anxious when my relatives would have gatherings. My mother and grandmother would harshly criticize me for being sweaty and unable to make eye contact due to anxiety.

Years ago, I often told my psychologist how much I disliked being patronized by my grandmother. She would tell me, "Talk! Use your mouth and talk! Look! Look at the object in front of you! Put your head up, no one did anything to you!"(I have visual processing problems and severe anxiety. She didn't care at all.) - I recall being sad when I had to return and see her after leaving my IEP evaluation appointment.

My psychologist told me I was just "hypersensitive" to her tone.

In group therapy, psychologists would frequently criticize my inability to make eye contact or chat with other youth. I was told to be more social with my grandparents, even though my grandmother criticized me constantly over the slightest mistake(I stayed in the room I shared with my mother most of the time).

Yes I was fearful of making eye contact with Black Joshua or White Giovanni. S.R.B wanted Italian genes.

My grandmother would aggressively patronize me and tell me "All of us were shy as kids". All of those older relatives are taller than I am.

Yes.

My maternal half-cousins and half-aunt would chat with my step-grandfather about myself and Mother living elsewhere. (I heard their conversations often)

"She never does any housework" (Objectively false. I have other problems with her, however...)

"They're leeching from us" (I never asked them for food or even clothing. I very rarely spoke to them.)

He would get upset when Mother would ask him to pick up our prescriptions from stores. He'd also get upset when Mother asked to visit grocery stores. This is despite taking my half-relatives to stores/fast food restaurants multiple times weekly. Medical appointments as well(When medical transportation wasn't an option).

My half-aunt's lovely statements:

"[Mother] sits around all day"

"I thought [Mother] said they had no food" (Me and Mother relied on food pantry boxes/SNAP)

"[Intellau] will tell his mother if we bully him" (Maternal half-cousins; they abused my younger half-cousin somewhat since she was reluctant to do so.)

As a child, my half-aunt would patronize me for my autistic behavior. She would criticize my sluggish movements and depressed demeanor. "Hurry up [Intellau]!" - I also had social cue problems and misunderstood instructions from her.

They are kleptomaniacs; they would take portions of our food home after "visiting".

Lastly:

"(I never asked them for food or even clothing. I very rarely spoke to them.)"

Indeed. I was very grateful when my grandmother stopped giving me meals at the age of seventeen due to her view of me as an ingrate. She often said "[Intellau] was born with a silver spoon in his mouth" because I was anxious and struggling to help her with house tasks due to my NLD(I would help them with laundry, unpacking groceries, washing dishes, fetching items they needed, ...).

When I was a child, my father and I would regularly visit my paternal grandmother's house at 5:00 AM to complain about Mother.

"She isn't helping me with the biils!" (Mother was working two jobs)

He would spend over an hour each day complaining to them before picking her up from work. This is despite Mother "bargaining" over the phone to keep our utilities and home available. (We lived with my paternal grandparents several times)

Exactly.

I was told to chat with my maternal grandmother - Someone who criticized me for my (at the time) inability to speak to her comfortably, which later became stuttering.

"Talk? Can't you talk?"

"Stop speaking in such a high-pitched voice"

"Speak up!"

"Speak louder"

"I don't know why he can't talk" (To Mother; Post-Stuttering)

"You can speak to your mother, can't you? Then you can speak to me normally"

"Talk!"

Prior to group therapy, I started scratching my hands and nose as a defense in social situations. My maternal grandmother told me to "Stop doing that", "Quit all that scratching", "And don't put your hands in your face".

Mother would've recorded me fidgeting and showed it to my grandmother so she could criticize me and tell me, "What are you doing with your hands? Stop all that". She also would've told me I was an embarrassment for fidgeting.

My maternal grandmother conceived Mother when she was eighteen, out of wedlock. My grandfather didn't care for Mother much. She later met Mother's step-father and conceived my half-uncles/aunt with him. Mother's mother and her siblings were originally from Arkansas, and their mother had three children with another man before meeting my grandmother's father. My paternal grandparents are also from Arkansas.

Yes. Well...Mother is much lighter than I am("Sand"). Her grandmother carries genes for lighter skin, and this is why her paternal cousins are also lighter.

My paternal grandmother attended an Arkansas university and met my paternal grandfather.

Indeed. Mother would've asked my grandmother to denigrate me if I had refused to attend group therapy in 2013.

Mother and her mother denigrated me because I was always extremely anxious.

I returned from group therapy once. My grandmother denigrated me while my half-aunt was present because I was too anxious to eat.

"Look. Intellau doesn't want to eat!"

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

My maternal grandfather is deceased. My paternal grandfather is distant from me; I know little to nothing of him, aside from having his Q haplogroup.

As for my Grandfather:

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

I guess they can have an idea idk

This will not be pleasant for them. I'm being supervised though, for obvious reasons.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

This will not be pleasant for them.

They will more likely die before I get pussy, which is quite brutal to imagine, although realistic.

I'm being supervised though, for obvious reasons.

Hope feds won't get you

 

[N-Digger]

Its obvious to anyone who knows me that I'm an incel as no-one ever sees me with foids, but no-one asks any questions about it. It's probably because my uncle was single for a long time and eventually ended up getting married, so they might think that I will find a Foid one day.
They act like it's okay but my grandparents met each other when they were 18 and got married around my age (23). Meanwhile I haven't even held hands with a Foid.

 

[CircumcisedClown]

I guess they can have an idea idk

My paternal grandparents were both dead by the time I was 12. They didn’t see any of their grandkids hit adulthood. My paternal grandfather was such a giant asshole that his name became synonymous with being an asshole even years after his death. People would say,

>You’re acting like a real Dave right now

Which meant you were acting like a fucking dick and nobody wanted to be around you. It’s actually impressive that over a decade after his death, people were still talking about what an asshole he was. Even at his funeral, my dad spoke and said,

>He was a hard man, but a good father deep down.

Which is probably the worst thing your son could say at your funeral. What a legacy. You have to work hard to leave that kind of asshole legacy, because usually people just ignore you if you’re a dick. Elite level assholery. Like the Lebron James of being a stick in the mud.

My maternal grandparents are still alive. They’re extremely religious, and very proud of their Godly family, despite their son getting divorce raped, half their grandkids being unmarried, having single women in their 30s, highschool pregancies, divorces and second marriages, etc.

They don’t care though because they already have 4 great-granddaughters, and their son (who turned out tall) married a tallish woman and had three Chad sons (tallest son is 6’6”, shortest is 6’1”). Their lineage is secured, despite my maternal grandfather personally ensuring every male baby born after him got circumcised. My maternal grandfather isn’t circumcised, but he kept that secret from the whole family until I started asking about it.

I don’t think they care about my single status because there’s enough grandkids getting married that it doesn’t matter if I die alone.

Basically, my family is a bunch of Jew-worshipping Evangelical hypocrites that worship the grandparents despite admitting that they’re shitty people. However, they got lucky because most of the men are tall white Chads, so it doesn’t matter if they were raised by narcissists.

That’s basically life. You can be raised by fucking inbred felons and serial killers, and it doesn’t matter as long as you’re tall and good looking. You can always find your own way in life, unless you’re ugly.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

Basically, my family is a bunch of Jew-worshipping Evangelical hypocrites that worship the grandparents despite admitting that they’re shitty people. However, they got lucky because most of the men are tall white Chads, so it doesn’t matter if they were raised by narcissists.

 

[WuhanFriedPuppies]

The spirits of my ancestors are very disappointed in me.