do you pitty yourself in public like you say you are subhuman or you
look shit i.e. do you give any obvious signs that you are suffering
from your inceldom?
Or can you hide the sadness really well?
So are you sad? If yes do you reveal this sadness infront of other people
often? If you dont what do you do? Do people stll confront you of the
source of your sadness? How do you manage this situation if so and if
they dont why do you think they not confront you about that, is it
because you act in a certain way or more the way the people you are
talking to are?
Do you think people always treat you like shit?
Do you think if they
would treat you less like shit that you would pitty yourself less and
be more accepting and open about your sadness?
Do you think friendships
where the one person is sad and the other one is not can exist?
Do you give yourself the fault that your social life sucks or has a poor
quality (assuming it does) ?
Do you think that Escortmaxxxing and having a social life can substitute
a girlfriend?
look shit i.e. do you give any obvious signs that you are suffering
from your inceldom?
Or can you hide the sadness really well?
So are you sad? If yes do you reveal this sadness infront of other people
often? If you dont what do you do? Do people stll confront you of the
source of your sadness? How do you manage this situation if so and if
they dont why do you think they not confront you about that, is it
because you act in a certain way or more the way the people you are
talking to are?
For me personally I often reveal very soon that I am an incel and that
I pitty myself, I also look very sad and behave very depressed and bitter
around other people. If someone is nice to me for some reason or if they
are forced to talk me I behave like a dog and am grateful and clingy
towards this person that talked with me and reveal everything about me
and also in general very emotional. When I am in new environments where I
am forced to interact with other people I try to hide my inceldom as much
as possible first but I always fail like I said in the beginning of this
paragraph, through my behaviour and words on the one hand but also
of course because people just treat me like shit because of my face on
the other hand.
I pitty myself, I also look very sad and behave very depressed and bitter
around other people. If someone is nice to me for some reason or if they
are forced to talk me I behave like a dog and am grateful and clingy
towards this person that talked with me and reveal everything about me
and also in general very emotional. When I am in new environments where I
am forced to interact with other people I try to hide my inceldom as much
as possible first but I always fail like I said in the beginning of this
paragraph, through my behaviour and words on the one hand but also
of course because people just treat me like shit because of my face on
the other hand.
Do you think people always treat you like shit?
Do you think if they
would treat you less like shit that you would pitty yourself less and
be more accepting and open about your sadness?
Do you think friendships
where the one person is sad and the other one is not can exist?
Do you give yourself the fault that your social life sucks or has a poor
quality (assuming it does) ?
Do you think that Escortmaxxxing and having a social life can substitute
a girlfriend?
The first question I have to answer with a No
The second a Yes
The third also a Yes
The fourth is a No
The fifth is a Yes but I will not go into detail here
I think people will treat you badly almost all of the time and you just
react to it accordingly - it has nothing to do with your attitutde and
everything with your face but its not the ugliness itself that keeps
me from getting friends, it is my self pitty that I cant compensate.
(So people treat me bad because I look like shit and then I feel like a shit
because I am treated like shit and I also have nothing to get rid off this
shittiness of myself)
but I am not a believer of this mindset-bullshit, you actually need
something real like a lot of money or a lot of knowledge in some subject,
or you have the capacity to at least pretend or actually be interested
in other people's affairs and problems, the so called "good listener/emotional tampon"
or some kind of other talent that you can display frequently and also
most incels like me have either none of or not enough of it;
For example if some of our parents' had more money available when we grew up and
provide us with more luxury we maybe could get instrument lessons or be member
of some other sport club and thus acquire a skill and meet more people by having
another place where peers can meet early on or just by hosting house parties
or having access to higher quality possession we could make more friend
(maybe even ascend which otherwise would be not possible).
but every 2 years
or so depending on your situation where you are forced to talk with somebody
for a longer period of time (I am in college- so I became friends with the
guy I shared an appartment with) you can build a friendship.
I also have some aqcuinatece with a fellow incel in denail I know from hs.
I wish I could talk more often with my buddies but the demand is one sided.
I often vent and express my frustration and sometimes it might be
the only thing I do, I am also a really bad listener and usually I have to
either buy some food or distance myself or plan some common activity or talk about something
else which is difficult if I am currently unsuccessful but if I am
sucessfull in something I also like to talk about that, so basically
what I want to say is that sometimes it seems like it is not a real
friendship because I only vent and the other one does not really care
and I put in more effort than the other one
but some other times the friendship seems more genuine and looking
at in in a binary black-white fashion wouldnt do it justice.
But I cannot be sad all the time and I have to compensate/make up for it.
That means I am also not capeable to shut up about my inceldom either,
I either have, at least in my eyes, strong friendships because I can be very open
about everything or I dont have anything. I cannot keep any casual
friendships alive and I always have to vent about my personal problems,
if anyone here who has such casual friendships. What do you think about
the merit of such a casual friendships? Or maybe there are also very
good friendships where inceldom is just not a topic, like gymbros, classmates from college.
or clubmates or old high school friends where you also spend or at least
used to spend time together in a common activity/place but then also outside of your regular
common activity, like you also hang around together outside in private or
visit each other's place and eat/drink together and talk and play videogames or something
else you would otherwise usually do allone.
The second a Yes
The third also a Yes
The fourth is a No
The fifth is a Yes but I will not go into detail here
I think people will treat you badly almost all of the time and you just
react to it accordingly - it has nothing to do with your attitutde and
everything with your face but its not the ugliness itself that keeps
me from getting friends, it is my self pitty that I cant compensate.
(So people treat me bad because I look like shit and then I feel like a shit
because I am treated like shit and I also have nothing to get rid off this
shittiness of myself)
but I am not a believer of this mindset-bullshit, you actually need
something real like a lot of money or a lot of knowledge in some subject,
or you have the capacity to at least pretend or actually be interested
in other people's affairs and problems, the so called "good listener/emotional tampon"
or some kind of other talent that you can display frequently and also
most incels like me have either none of or not enough of it;
For example if some of our parents' had more money available when we grew up and
provide us with more luxury we maybe could get instrument lessons or be member
of some other sport club and thus acquire a skill and meet more people by having
another place where peers can meet early on or just by hosting house parties
or having access to higher quality possession we could make more friend
(maybe even ascend which otherwise would be not possible).
but every 2 years
or so depending on your situation where you are forced to talk with somebody
for a longer period of time (I am in college- so I became friends with the
guy I shared an appartment with) you can build a friendship.
I also have some aqcuinatece with a fellow incel in denail I know from hs.
I wish I could talk more often with my buddies but the demand is one sided.
I often vent and express my frustration and sometimes it might be
the only thing I do, I am also a really bad listener and usually I have to
either buy some food or distance myself or plan some common activity or talk about something
else which is difficult if I am currently unsuccessful but if I am
sucessfull in something I also like to talk about that, so basically
what I want to say is that sometimes it seems like it is not a real
friendship because I only vent and the other one does not really care
and I put in more effort than the other one
but some other times the friendship seems more genuine and looking
at in in a binary black-white fashion wouldnt do it justice.
But I cannot be sad all the time and I have to compensate/make up for it.
That means I am also not capeable to shut up about my inceldom either,
I either have, at least in my eyes, strong friendships because I can be very open
about everything or I dont have anything. I cannot keep any casual
friendships alive and I always have to vent about my personal problems,
if anyone here who has such casual friendships. What do you think about
the merit of such a casual friendships? Or maybe there are also very
good friendships where inceldom is just not a topic, like gymbros, classmates from college.
or clubmates or old high school friends where you also spend or at least
used to spend time together in a common activity/place but then also outside of your regular
common activity, like you also hang around together outside in private or
visit each other's place and eat/drink together and talk and play videogames or something
else you would otherwise usually do allone.
