Do you go out of your way to avoid people? Do you hate every interaction with another human?

[Deleted member 7448]

I realize it's not like this for everyone since this is to the point of disorder for me, but I think many of us might be avoidant of people after a lifetime of being outcasts.

Idk when it started, but it's really bad now. I'm usually so blissfully hidden in my room and away from any and all interaction, but every now and then when I do have to interact with a human, it becomes a shitshow.

Spoiler: How avoidant I am.

For example even in group projects in class, I go out of my way doing the projects solo just so I don't have to group up and interact with people.

If a person ever wants to befriend me or even contact me in a personal manner (not that it happens often, maybe a few times at most in this life, and I suspect they were trying to fuck with me), I try to make excuses and distance myself asap.

Shit, even online I'm avoidant. Even in fucking anonymous games where you don't even talk to people, I hate having to group up and work together with someone, I much prefer going at it alone, otherwise I keep thinking about that person and it's draining me to have to interact and share with them.

An extreme example, there was this dude from highschool that I encountered on the street. Took me by surprise, total fucking shock. He wanted to shake hands with me, I just walked forward and didn't even look at him. That's how avoidant I am. If I wasn't a fucking retard I would've shook hands and said I was busy and had to go or something. But no, for a month afterwards I cringed and couldn't fucking sleep at the mere memory. But that case is a bit special cause I'm scared of encountering anyone from highschool cause by now they probably heard that I was a huge alcoholic drinking alone so I am mortified of seeing any of them.

 

[Deleted member 24125]

i don't go outside much, but i do hate when people do certain things. for example when i sit in the bus and its pretty empty and someone sits in the seats that face the wrong direction so they end up looking in my direction. idk why but it pisses me off

 

[Deleted member 22999]

I wouldn’t say I’m really that avoidant. I act fairly normal in public I think, it’s only early morning or late night that someone would notice something off even looking in my head

 

[Copemaxx]

dont need to, they go out of their way to avoid me

 

[TheGambler2]

Can relate to almost everything,although some days I'm in pretty good mood so I chat to some people,however I do not want any closer contact(as in giving a phone number/becoming closer friends),this is just temporary need to socialize that happens every once in a while.Often times it hurts though,because most other days I want to be left alone and I have to be around same people I chatted with few times.

 

[Capable_Onion]

I used to, but now I just wish that I had some friends.

 

[Deleted member 23820]

I am definitely not cut for interacting with people - it causes me a lot of stress and a huge loss of energy. I don't have an idea how people can talk without stopping for hours. I either have avoidant or schizoid personality disorder, but I am not sure, because I check off all the symptoms of both. When I am forced to go outside, I always do it with a cap on my head and staring down when walking, in order not to get recognised in case of some former classmate from school happening to be nearby. I am so fucking paranoid and high inhib, jfl.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I am definitely not cut for interacting with people - it causes me a lot of stress and a huge loss of energy. I don't have an idea how people can talk without stopping for hours. I either have avoidant or schizoid personality disorder, but I am not sure, because I check off the symptoms of both. When I am forced to go outside, I always do it with a cap on my head and staring down when walking, in order not to get recognised in case of some former classmate from school being nearby.

I totally get that. I fantasized about wearing masks outside just to not be recognized by former classmates. I literally look around all the time to make sure nobody I know sees me. Whenever I leave the house I'm slightly worried about running into anyone. All of this would've been slightly less of a problem if I hadn't publicly humiliated myself many times when I was an alcoholic, but I still dreaded running into people way before that.

I used to, but now I just wish that I had some friends.

Ehh, I realized that wish is an illusion. We're just looking at an idealized version of friendship, an idea in our mind of happily interacting with people without stress or worries. Irl that's very rare and human interactions are mostly miserable. The very fact that I avoided people my entire life shows that interacting with humans ain't that great and even extreme isolation is preferable to putting myself through it.

 

[Deleted member 23820]

I totally get that. I fantasized about wearing masks outside just to not be recognized by former classmates. I literally look around all the time to make sure nobody I know sees me. Whenever I leave the house I'm slightly worried about running into anyone. All of this would've been slightly less of a problem if I hadn't publicly humiliated myself many times when I was an alcoholic, but I still dreaded running into people way before that.

I totally relate to you. There were times when I was walking towards home and I think I was hearing someone calling my name and I freaked out and promptly started walking faster, almost running in fear, in order to avoid possible contact, because I thought that it might have been some former classmate. The thing is that I am not sure whether the voice calling my name was indeed some other person and or it was just in my head. I very possibly might suffer from schizophrenia.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

i kind of do, but I also fight it sometimes in order to connect with others, tryhard shit (struggling, fighting) however always leads to failure nowadays. you need leverage not tryharding

i don't go outside much, but i do hate when people do certain things. for example when i sit in the bus and its pretty empty and someone sits in the seats that face the wrong direction so they end up looking in my direction. idk why but it pisses me off

based withnailcel

 

[Personalityinkwell]

dont need to, they go out of their way to avoid me

 

[JohnDcel]

I hated interactions ever since I was a kid, teachers warned my parents very often about that. I even had insisted to have my desk away from all the other kids back in elementary school and I also used to get mad at the other kids pretty much all the time for any stupid thing, which led me to isolate myself even more.

Nowadays I can't stay around other people without starting to sweat, can barely talk properly and it's insanely hard to not look at the ground all the time. Back in November I was forced to go outside with my parents for my documents and my mother had to talk for me since I was almost unable to speak. I hate being watched and I hate to converse with anyone, even with my parents.

 

[Seth MistWraith]

Yes I do. It's not that I want to but most people just don't give a fuck about you and then they wonder why I'm so apathetic and most people are full of shit anyways. They will always try to use you in some way or another.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I totally relate to you. There were times when I was walking towards home and I think I was hearing someone calling my name and I freaked out and promptly started walking faster, almost running in fear, in order to avoid possible contact, because I thought that it might have been some former classmate. The thing is that I am not sure whether the voice calling my name was indeed some other person and or it was just in my head. I very possibly might suffer from schizophrenia.

Ehh, don't worry about it. Schizophrenia has much worse symptoms. That was most likely just extreme anxiety.

 

[ChronicPaincel]

Can relate to almost everything,although some days I'm in pretty good mood so I chat to some people,however I do not want any closer contact(as in giving a phone number/becoming closer friends),this is just temporary need to socialize that happens every once in a while.Often times it hurts though,because most other days I want to be left alone and I have to be around same people I chatted with few times.

 

[FlamingCel]

I avoid as much as poosible

 

[AlexanderTheGreat11]

Sometimes yeah

 

[Stalin]

Schizophrenia is just a formal label normies like to classify outcasts with.

I was hearing someone calling my name and I freaked out

I have this in a way that being called by my name gives me a micro(several seconds) panic attack. I think its a pretty common since outcast can not perceive the new situation being dangerous or not always assuming the worst case. Also this leads to additional cortisol(stress hormone) release.

 

[Deleted member 23820]

Schizophrenia is just a formal label normies like to classify outcasts with.



I have this in a way that being called by my name gives me a micro(several seconds) panic attack. I think its a pretty common since outcast can not perceive the new situation being dangerous or not always assuming the worst case. Also this leads to additional cortisol(stress hormone) release.

True indeed.

 

[nystagmuscel]

If I was able to never interact with anyone ever again that would be paradise

 

[Yerberito]

I can enjoy with some friends tbh

 

[crestfallencel]

I honestly can't think of a single person I enjoy interacting with

 

[Deleted member 22685]

Yes.

I honestly can't think of a single person I enjoy interacting with

 

[Of Manlets and Men]

dont need to, they go out of their way to avoid me

 

[Atavistic Autist]

I much prefer going at it alone, otherwise I keep thinking about that person and it's draining me to have to interact and share with them

This is why trumentalcels are especially screwed in friendships/relationships. Even if you get past the surface-level barricades of looks and social stature (in theory), your autism and avoidant personaliteehee, not to mention other disorders, often rooted in childhood abandonment and neglect, will rise to the surface, rendering you alone again.

B-but just get a better personaliteehee bro, easy, just make up for not being socialized properly during childhood because you didn't have a neurotypical brain, and, yeah, go ahead and make up for that one too

 

[Deleted member 7448]

This is why trumentalcels are especially screwed in friendships/relationships. Even if you get past the surface-level barricades of looks and social stature (in theory), your autism and avoidant personaliteehee, not to mention other disorders, often rooted in childhood abandonment and neglect, will rise to the surface, rendering you alone again.

B-but just get a better personaliteehee bro, easy, just make up for not being socialized properly during childhood because you didn't have a neurotypical brain, and, yeah, go ahead and make up for that one too

People just can't understand other's difficulties and pain. Everybody's just so caught up in their own world. Humans are just a bunch of solipsists interacting.