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Maybe it’s because I live under a rock, but I’ve never in my life actually seen men approach women in public. I’ve seen it happen a couple times to female family members, but that’s about it I think. I almost never see guys just ask a girl out in a public setting.
And I also recently learned that it is common for guys to try to show women interest. I’m in my 20s and I just recently learned this. My entire life I thought that you don’t actually have to actively pursue people you like, things will just magically happen. I feel lied to. Like I knew people did it, but it wasn’t until recently that I learned that guys regularly show romantic interest in women. I honestly feel like my whole life was a fucking lie. I always believed the bluepilled cope of “things happen when you least expect it”. I didn’t think that I had to actually make an effort to talk to women to get a relationship.
I saw a comment on reddit saying “many men get used to being rejected at a relatively early age” and it blew my mind because I didn’t know it was normal to approach women as often as most guys apparently do? Did you guys know about this? Apparently there are dudes out there who have asked out dozens of women in their life like it is nothing. And meanwhile I can only count like a couple times in my whole fucking life where I have shown interest in a girl. What the fuck? I feel like if you are Chad you can approach several women like it’s a breeze because you already know your success rate is going to be higher than your failure rate. For a lot of us incels, we likely don’t approach for the opposite reason. Our minds can intuitively sense that we are going to be rejected more often than not so we don’t even bother.
And I also recently learned that it is common for guys to try to show women interest. I’m in my 20s and I just recently learned this. My entire life I thought that you don’t actually have to actively pursue people you like, things will just magically happen. I feel lied to. Like I knew people did it, but it wasn’t until recently that I learned that guys regularly show romantic interest in women. I honestly feel like my whole life was a fucking lie. I always believed the bluepilled cope of “things happen when you least expect it”. I didn’t think that I had to actually make an effort to talk to women to get a relationship.
I saw a comment on reddit saying “many men get used to being rejected at a relatively early age” and it blew my mind because I didn’t know it was normal to approach women as often as most guys apparently do? Did you guys know about this? Apparently there are dudes out there who have asked out dozens of women in their life like it is nothing. And meanwhile I can only count like a couple times in my whole fucking life where I have shown interest in a girl. What the fuck? I feel like if you are Chad you can approach several women like it’s a breeze because you already know your success rate is going to be higher than your failure rate. For a lot of us incels, we likely don’t approach for the opposite reason. Our minds can intuitively sense that we are going to be rejected more often than not so we don’t even bother.
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