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shortcel69420

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Hi again guys, I’m back. As you can tell from my username, I’m a shortie. Height for me is basically my biggest concern, and I also realize that it is unchangeable. So I’m stuck with this harsh reality.

The purposes of this post is to share my personal coping mechanisms for this, and hopefully open up a discussion as to how you guys deal with your inceldom on a personal level. This doesn’t necessarily have to be about height, it can be about a whole host of other problems that are the cause of your inceldom.

Anyways, I can basically boil down my distractions to a few things:

  • Going to the gym
  • Playing music
  • Studying (when I have the mental clarity/motivation to)
  • Occasional recreational drug use
I will elaborate on each one of these, why I do it, and how it helps distract me from everyday life and makes me a generally happier person. I think it goes without saying that I can add “furiously beating off to porn” as a way to vent out my sexual frustration alongside these points. But these are just the non-sexual things I do with my time:

  • Going to the gym: This honestly is a really nice goal-oriented task that never fails to brighten my day. Following a simple program and watching my macros is amazingly simple once you understand the science behind it, and it’s a measurable way to gain self-confidence. Forget about girls with this – it gives an immense feeling of self-satisfaction. Seeing the fat go away, or the muscle gained, or the increasing number of plates being added to that Olympic bar is such a great sense of achievement. And it’s nothing like trying to get girls. If you respect the science, you WILL get the results. If you eat less than you expend, you will get smaller. If you eat more than you expend, you will get bigger. The laws of thermodynamics will not cheat you, play you, or lie to you. If you don’t get the results, then you are making an error (or multiple) somewhere in your program/lifestyle. It builds discipline, character, physical energy, and mental energy in ways that I can’t really describe unless you experience it yourself.

  • Playing music: This also goes along much of the same premise of the gym, where you don’t have to rely on “luck” or unpredictability of other people (unless you compose music for the purpose of showing it to others). But it doesn’t have to be about that. It can be learning about music theory, learning to play a song, learning how to perform a certain technique on the instrument that you play (which will then expand your ability to play more things and give a sense of self-satisfaction). It’s a never-ending feedback loop of self-criticism, improvement, and self-criticism all over again. There is no “finish line” where you know everything there is to know about music. Even if there was, you would never be able to climb that mountain of knowledge in 1,000 lifetimes. It’s precisely the fact that there’s such a vast arena of unknown information which motivates me to explore in the first place. Most people are intimidated by this and therefore get demotivated to climb the mountain in the first place. I, however, am not like this at all. I guess this is more a philosophical (or maybe psychological) point as to why I like to delve into intellectual pursuits and get lost in the details of it all. It’s an endless desire to know more things that makes me never wanna stop. I would be very depressed if I reached a point in my life where I knew everything there was to know.

  • Studying: I really don’t like this that much, but when it goes well, it’s an amazing feeling. Generally speaking, I hate the concept of having deadlines, predetermined tests based on a fixed set of concepts, and a time limit for them. My mind doesn’t really work like that. I like to explore things on my own, and have the mental reassurance that there’s all the time in the world to learn what I want to learn. I’ve contemplated many times quitting university, doing some online courses on computer science stuff, and getting an online certificate that way. I have ideas and business plans, I’m just a complete fucking retard at actually executing them. Because university doesn’t teach you these things - most people have to actually step out into the real world and experience how things work and learn from their mistakes. For now, I just have to learn concepts and apply them to a test. Plus, having anxiety/bipolar disorder and having to negotiate accommodations with professors regarding your condition is a really fucking exhausting (and sometimes humiliating) task. I hate being agitated as fuck, taking Xanax (prescribed), and then being a retarded piece of shit for the next 4 hours. And good goodness, isn’t that a great segway into…

  • Recreational drug use: I have tried a lot of drugs in my life, and each type has a different feel to it. Context matters, and I feel that certain classes of recreational drugs are good for certain situations. Granted, your “drug of choice” may feel amazing no matter what the fuck you’re doing, but given the right environment, that same experience can be x10 better with a good setting than it would’ve been without it. I am a libertarian at heart, and I think if you want to ingest a certain chemical into your body, that should be your prerogative. I am a heavy smoker (a pack a day, give or take 5 cigarettes depending on my mood) and I find that it’s a great add-on to my day to day. Nothing is better than waking up in the morning and going for a cigarette with a cup of coffee, and experiencing the synergy of both these psychoactive chemicals. Once or twice a month I’ll smoke some hash :smonk:, and once every 3-6 months I’ll do a psychedelic like LSD/MDMA/psilocybin. I find that when I do the psychedelics, it’s almost like a “reset button” is hit. I feel that my fears and insecurities (for a few weeks to a month) dissolve, I feel less wedded to my “self” or “ego” (I’m not a new-age guy, I just find it hard to articulate such an experience in everyday language), and I just feel inexplicably happier. I dabbled a bit with cocaine, meth, and heroin, but I felt that these didn’t really add a positive experience to my life. Sure, they felt really good, but I didn’t get anything meaningful out of it other than a really strong desire to do them again. They’re just addictive for no good reason. If there’s any “guideline” I would follow if you wanna dabble into this area, it would be this: psychedelics and weed. Don’t go any further. Even psychedelics might be too much for some people. For me however, they are truly amazing experiences that I don’t think can be passed up given that we only have this life to live once.


I could go on forever about the ways in which I cope. But these are the main ones. I probably rambled on a bit too much, but I think I got the gist of it. I tried to keep it as short as I possibly could.

I would love some feedback/input from any of you guys as to your personal experiences when it comes to this stuff. Maybe I could pursue other things that I never thought of doing. Maybe I might’ve convinced you guys to try one of my coping mechanisms (it should go without saying that I am not liable for any damages as a result of your conscious choice to take drugs). Whatever the case may be, I would certainly like it to be positive. After all, we can’t get laid. That’s a huge blow to the essence of our character. My philosophy is that we might as well make the best of our situation, and try to have an open discussion to try to help each other and make each other feel better. After all, we’re only human.
 
22yearoldcel

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you sound like a redditor
 
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Height doesnt matter
 
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IamLost said:
Height doesnt matter
Yeah its all about the personality am I right:) Fuck off
 
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Luxury said:
Yeah its all about the personality am I right:) Fuck off
No, face is everything.
 
MACHETE

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i agree fellow brocel,

I just posted this regarding your topic


Let me know if you wanna discuss self improvement. This place is plagued with rotterz :feelspuke:
 
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Luxury said:
Yeah its all about the personality am I right:) Fuck off
no it's about hygiene, proof:
 
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MACHETE said:
i agree fellow brocel,

I just posted this regarding your topic


Let me know if you wanna discuss self improvement. This place is plagued with rotterz :feelspuke:
How can you still have motivation to selfimprove?
How old are you?
 
tenta

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Study, write music, learn an instrument, go to the gym bro!

Fuck you, I'll continue watching 30 second yt vids and playing video-games :)
 
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I work. I guess that's a distraction
 
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IamLost said:
How can you still have motivation to selfimprove?
How old are you?
weed and (prescribed) mitarzapine
im 29
 

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