Discussion Cycles of Inceldom

[Freetard]

In my life, I've noticed a cycle consisting of 3 unique stages of inceldom. These stages include:

Lonely & Sad -> MSTOW Coping -> Temporary Acceptance -> Repeat

Lonely & Sad:
• Browse a lot incel content online (writing this post because I'm in this stage now).
• Bargaining with the possibility of finding a partner if I just do x, y, and z
• Often develop limerance for random internet girls.
• Consider hard looksmaxing techniques like leg lengthening to escape my situation.
• Lurk in online chats trying to make new friends so I can feel better again.

MSTOW Coping:
• I begin to accept my situation but also start coping by telling myself I can be perfectly content without being desired.
• Research and indulge in new ways of getting off by using VR porn, onaholes, and whores.
• Watch a lot of MGTOW content talking about how you don't need women.
• AI and ASMRmax

Temporary Acceptance:
• Drop all the fapping accessories and focus on my work and hobbies.
• Usually very happy in this stage and struggle to remember why I was disappointed previously.
• Work on cool projects that I can show off on my portfolio.
• Days and weeks fly by.

Repeat:
• Usually the cycle comes back to the beginning after I've worked myself until failure. You can only take so much work and studying with little reward or meaningful change for so long.
• Tried and failed to make new friends in the acceptance stage.
• Feel burnt out.

Do you guys relate to this cycle? This has gone on since I was 12 and I'm 20 now.

 

[SirEstudo]

Damn bro, you described my life exactly in that text (i m 17)

 

[SirEstudo]

Damn bro, you described my life exactly in that text (i m 17)

and start with 12 too

 

[Ambatukam Alone]

(i m 17)

Bro, the site is for adults.

In my life, I've noticed a cycle consisting of 3 unique stages of inceldom. These stages include:

Lonely & Sad -> MSTOW Coping -> Temporary Acceptance -> Repeat

Lonely & Sad:
• Browse a lot incel content online (writing this post because I'm in this stage now).
• Bargaining with the possibility of finding a partner if I just do x, y, and z
• Often develop limerance for random internet girls.
• Consider hard looksmaxing techniques like leg lengthening to escape my situation.
• Lurk in online chats trying to make new friends so I can feel better again.

MSTOW Coping:
• I begin to accept my situation but also start coping by telling myself I can be perfectly content without being desired.
• Research and indulge in new ways of getting off by using VR porn, onaholes, and whores.
• Watch a lot of MGTOW content talking about how you don't need women.
• AI and ASMRmax

Temporary Acceptance:
• Drop all the fapping accessories and focus on my work and hobbies.
• Usually very happy in this stage and struggle to remember why I was disappointed previously.
• Work on cool projects that I can show off on my portfolio.
• Days and weeks fly by.

Repeat:
• Usually the cycle comes back to the beginning after I've worked myself until failure. You can only take so much work and studying with little reward or meaningful change for so long.
• Tried and failed to make new friends in the acceptance stage.
• Feel burnt out.

Do you guys relate to this cycle? This has gone on since I was 12 and I'm 20 now.

I did go through cycles more previously. Kind of hyped up motivational/delusional periods, followed by crashouts and maybe some acceptance/reframing middle ground, to simplify. Now it's kind of a more stable mood with the motivational/positive cycles becoming less and less frequent and less and less intense; but I'm less likely to crash out and that's also less intense. (Late 20s).

 

[Sir Silentium]

In my life, I've noticed a cycle consisting of 3 unique stages of inceldom. These stages include:

Lonely & Sad -> MSTOW Coping -> Temporary Acceptance -> Repeat

Lonely & Sad:
• Browse a lot incel content online (writing this post because I'm in this stage now).
• Bargaining with the possibility of finding a partner if I just do x, y, and z
• Often develop limerance for random internet girls.
• Consider hard looksmaxing techniques like leg lengthening to escape my situation.
• Lurk in online chats trying to make new friends so I can feel better again.

MSTOW Coping:
• I begin to accept my situation but also start coping by telling myself I can be perfectly content without being desired.
• Research and indulge in new ways of getting off by using VR porn, onaholes, and whores.
• Watch a lot of MGTOW content talking about how you don't need women.
• AI and ASMRmax

Temporary Acceptance:
• Drop all the fapping accessories and focus on my work and hobbies.
• Usually very happy in this stage and struggle to remember why I was disappointed previously.
• Work on cool projects that I can show off on my portfolio.
• Days and weeks fly by.

Repeat:
• Usually the cycle comes back to the beginning after I've worked myself until failure. You can only take so much work and studying with little reward or meaningful change for so long.
• Tried and failed to make new friends in the acceptance stage.
• Feel burnt out.

Do you guys relate to this cycle? This has gone on since I was 12 and I'm 20 now.

I can relate heavily.
My cycle:

1. Develop a limerence for a female.
2. Constantly think about her, fantasising or in dreams
3. Become quite saddened as I understand I will probably never see her, nor would she want to be with me
4. Start my looks-maximising process I've had for years that barely makes a difference, whilst browsing RP and BP content
5. Lurk forums

 

[Enigmaz]

I'm in a constant cycle of having pure hatred for normies, foids, niggers, jews, and chads.

 

[SirEstudo]

Bro, the site is for adults.


I did go through cycles more previously. Kind of hyped up motivational/delusional periods, followed by crashouts and maybe some acceptance/reframing middle ground, to simplify. Now it's kind of a more stable mood with the motivational/positive cycles becoming less and less frequent and less and less intense; but I'm less likely to crash out and that's also less intense. (Late 20s).

It’s not like my life is going to change much after one year .

 

[Freetard]

Bro, the site is for adults.


I did go through cycles more previously. Kind of hyped up motivational/delusional periods, followed by crashouts and maybe some acceptance/reframing middle ground, to simplify. Now it's kind of a more stable mood with the motivational/positive cycles becoming less and less frequent and less and less intense; but I'm less likely to crash out and that's also less intense. (Late 20s).

I suspect that things will mellow out for me when I get out of college. I won't have any more night classes and a bunch of homework causing sleep deprivation. I felt a lot better over the summer when I had a chill teaching gig and could get into a consistant routine.

I can relate heavily.
My cycle:

1. Develop a limerence for a female.
2. Constantly think about her, fantasising or in dreams
3. Become quite saddened as I understand I will probably never see her, nor would she want to be with me
4. Start my looks-maximising process I've had for years that barely makes a difference, whilst browsing RP and BP content
5. Lurk forums

I wonder if the limerence is a result of autism. I'm not sure if I have autism but I've been told by a lot of people that they think I have it. My top LOs are Ashley, Rose, and Sophia Lillis, alongside some other one offs from voicechats along the way.

I'm in a constant cycle of having pure hatred for normies, foids, niggers, jews, and chads.

Be careful with anger, it does you no good and uses your energy. It's being sad but with extra effort.

 

[drunken_sailor2500]

Often develop limerance for random internet girls.

I developed a lifelong limerence for the girl who rejected me. I haven’t seen her in 4 years now but she’s been stuck in my mind for the past 7-8 years

 

[Sir Silentium]

I wonder if the limerence is a result of autism. I'm not sure if I have autism but I've been told by a lot of people that they think I have it.

Funny you mention it, I am currently researching Asperger's and Autism, with the Influence of brain activity on connections with others. Dividing this into subgroups.
Lost all data with the transfer of laptops since August, but nevertheless still a work in progress.

My top LOs are Ashley, Rose, and Sophia Lillis, alongside some other one offs from voicechats along the way.

I have only had 2-3 ever, but the female currently being the worst. You wouldn't know her.

 

[McDelivery]

In my life, I've noticed a cycle consisting of 3 unique stages of inceldom. These stages include:

Lonely & Sad -> MSTOW Coping -> Temporary Acceptance -> Repeat

Lonely & Sad:
• Browse a lot incel content online (writing this post because I'm in this stage now).
• Bargaining with the possibility of finding a partner if I just do x, y, and z
• Often develop limerance for random internet girls.
• Consider hard looksmaxing techniques like leg lengthening to escape my situation.
• Lurk in online chats trying to make new friends so I can feel better again.

MSTOW Coping:
• I begin to accept my situation but also start coping by telling myself I can be perfectly content without being desired.
• Research and indulge in new ways of getting off by using VR porn, onaholes, and whores.
• Watch a lot of MGTOW content talking about how you don't need women.
• AI and ASMRmax

Temporary Acceptance:
• Drop all the fapping accessories and focus on my work and hobbies.
• Usually very happy in this stage and struggle to remember why I was disappointed previously.
• Work on cool projects that I can show off on my portfolio.
• Days and weeks fly by.

Repeat:
• Usually the cycle comes back to the beginning after I've worked myself until failure. You can only take so much work and studying with little reward or meaningful change for so long.
• Tried and failed to make new friends in the acceptance stage.
• Feel burnt out.

Do you guys relate to this cycle? This has gone on since I was 12 and I'm 20 now.

This is pretty accurate, for me the whole cycle will repeat like every month

 

[Freetard]

Two months and I'm back. I feel unmotivated to do anything productive, all I can do is be a slave. Hopefully I can buy my freedom soon enough. Time to ride it out again.