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Sex for me is a foreign concept. I've been watching porn for almost a decade now. It's kinda mind blowing when you realize that everyone around you has had sex. Sometimes it doesn't feel real. These aren't novel thoughts for people on this forum, but that's beside the point. I shared that so you could understand my idealistic view of romance and sex. I have a very negative view of casual sex; for me, it's perplexing how people could put a part of their body in someone else or the inverse and treat that like nothing important. I feel as if that carries significant weight and that physical act should be matched with emotional weight and a relationship with mutual understanding. You're experiencing what should be the most private parts of someone else's body without any concern for their mind. It's this imbalance between the physical and mental knowledge of your partner during casual sex that's just repulsive to me. I think that's the core of my view. I'm also deeply concerned with permanence in life. I like preserving what I've done, I take lots of pictures, I care about remembering the past, and I prefer activities that are repeatable. Therefore, for me, casual sex feels pointless because it cannot be done with that person again if it's a one-night stand or a situationship that lasts only a short period. What I'm getting at is there's no payoff to casual sex, no end result or state. Just nothing. Another reason I hate the idea of casual sex is that I have a hard time with loss. Whether it's all the people who have died in my life or all the friendships that have ended, it's hard for me to get over. Having casual sexual partners is taking on more ghosts into my consciousness. I also deeply value a partner to be a virgin like I am. The idea of another man ever touching my girlfriend or wife is so disgusting. I don't share any of my personal items with male strangers. Why should I be okay with sharing my woman? These are just my personal views. Maybe these feeble points of view change when you're a haver.
Sex for me is a foreign concept. I've been watching porn for almost a decade now. It's kinda mind blowing when you realize that everyone around you has had sex. Sometimes it doesn't feel real. These aren't novel thoughts for people on this forum, but that's beside the point. I shared that so you could understand my idealistic view of romance and sex. I have a very negative view of casual sex; for me, it's perplexing how people could put a part of their body in someone else or the inverse and treat that like nothing important. I feel as if that carries significant weight and that physical act should be matched with emotional weight and a relationship with mutual understanding. You're experiencing what should be the most private parts of someone else's body without any concern for their mind. It's this imbalance between the physical and mental knowledge of your partner during casual sex that's just repulsive to me. I think that's the core of my view. I'm also deeply concerned with permanence in life. I like preserving what I've done, I take lots of pictures, I care about remembering the past, and I prefer activities that are repeatable. Therefore, for me, casual sex feels pointless because it cannot be done with that person again if it's a one-night stand or a situationship that lasts only a short period. What I'm getting at is there's no payoff to casual sex, no end result or state. Just nothing. Another reason I hate the idea of casual sex is that I have a hard time with loss. Whether it's all the people who have died in my life or all the friendships that have ended, it's hard for me to get over. Having casual sexual partners is taking on more ghosts into my consciousness. I also deeply value a partner to be a virgin like I am. The idea of another man ever touching my girlfriend or wife is so disgusting. I don't share any of my personal items with male strangers. Why should I be okay with sharing my woman? These are just my personal views. Maybe these feeble points of view change when you're a haver.
