Venting Can't stand to be around people, volcel?

[Herodion_Catriona]

Just went to sisters birthday party. Still drunk...
Thing is, people smile at me, I get positive responses when I talk to people. But I can't stand to be around other people.
I'm just so frustrated because I lack any intimacy, can't stand people because I'm sexually frustrated.
Its all ends up being so pointless, they just drain me. And all I need is to not feel lonely for one night, just a single fucking night in my entire life!!
But all that happens is I go out to these shitty places, feel shit for being there, and go home feeling shit.
My sister put up a karaoke dj for the night so naturally the music was shit, 'its raining men' was my sisters choice selection.
But I'm lost in this shit hole that so many others seem to enjoy.
And people seem to like having me around, cause if I can stay on the small talk then I seem to brighten peoples mood. But when it comes to my basic fucking needs, like not being alone, then all of a sudden its 'I like you like a brother'.
And then I have to constantly put up with the fucking advice like just go out and make friends.

I can make friends easily, I just fucking need someone that will touch me, to just not be lonely for once in my life.

tl;dr bit drunk, please call me a volcel, its how I cope...

 

[Deleted member 11032]

 

[Gengar]

Volcel.

 

[TheRealChincel]

Not liking social situations has zilch to do with being volcel, I assume that you’ve asked women out and had no success, yes? If you said “I don’t approach women so am I volcel?” then the answer is obviously yes.

 

[Supreme being]

didn't read even the tl;dr

 

[LastGerman]

Thing is, people smile at me, I get positive responses when I talk to people.

It is a fake smile.

 

[Deleted member 1252]

You’re only volcel if you’re not ugly.

 

[Deleted member 15752]

Just be stepmom/stepson porn shooter bro

 

[Henry de Montherlant]

I'm lost in this shit hole that so many others seem to enjoy.

Me at every party. Some people were just not meant to be "social". And we are those people.

 

[Insomniac]

It just means you’re autistic and/or high inhib. I’m the same way.

 

[456C6C696F74]

But when it comes to my basic fucking needs, like not being alone, then all of a sudden its 'I like you like a brother'.
And then I have to constantly put up with the fucking advice like just go out and make friends.

This is because these people genuinely don't care about your problems.

 

[Herodion_Catriona]

You’re only volcel if you’re not ugly.

I'm told I'm average looking. The bar maid at our local seemed surprised when I said I'd never dated. I tell myself thats just cope, so not sure if it counts?!

It just means you’re autistic and/or high inhib. I’m the same way.

There was a manager that I worked with, one whom I used to have difficulty discerning when she was talking about her boyfriend or one of her dogs, as she talked with same emotional implications for both. I tried explaining to her that she has the advantage of being anti-social but still having a boyfriend, to nothing but dead ears as you can imagine.

This is because these people genuinely don't care about your problems.

I think its something that women genuinely can't understand, as its something they never have to experience. But we can't criticize women now can we?!

 

[Deleted member 1252]

I'm told I'm average looking. The bar maid at our local seemed surprised when I said I'd never dated. I tell myself thats just cope, so not sure if it counts?!

They’re being polite, I’d say. If you’re in your 20s and a KHHV then you’re ugly.

 

[456C6C696F74]

They’re being polite, I’d say. If you’re in your 20s and a KHHV then you’re ugly.

That's right, normies still get scraps of sex from their cucklationships.

 

[Herodion_Catriona]

They’re being polite, I’d say. If you’re in your 20s and a KHHV then you’re ugly.

I'm 33, but I've kissed back in my early 20s, and the girl said I was good kisser at the time, but ended with 'no protection' no sex, which I presume would have just been my onistis. This feels like bragging though so I'm not sure I should say any more?

But I get told I look mid 20s when I'm 33, and that annoys me cause I'm pretty sure that's just politeness.

 

[Deleted member 1252]

I'm 33, but I've kissed back in my early 20s, and the girl said I was good kisser at the time, but ended with 'no protection' no sex, which I presume would have just been my onistis. This feels like bragging though so I'm not sure I should say any more?

But I get told I look mid 20s when I'm 33, and that annoys me cause I'm pretty sure that's just politeness.

Sounding a bit volcel here actually.

As long as you hate foids I don’t really care tbh.

 

[Herodion_Catriona]

As long as you hate foids I don’t really care tbh.

I've had female work colleagues be openly pissed at me because I wouldn't endlessly console and comfort them.
Even after explaining that I get nothing out of just cheering them up because I am lonely and don't have excess sympathy, something they can have due to having their basic needs met, they still expect nonreciprocal and constant validation.
Its the proverbial 'friend zone' that we not only can't complain about, but must be happy to be put in.

 

[Inceldo]

Fakecel detected

 

[iFartAtRoasties]

Does people being positive at first glance mean anything though?
When I was a teenager, I was slightly less ugly so people were nice to me too, but that's where it ended. They never wanted to be my friends and women especially never wanted relationships with me. People would send me birthday wishes or have conversations at school, but they'd never take me to parties or go on summer trips with me.

 

[Herodion_Catriona]

Not liking social situations has zilch to do with being volcel, I assume that you’ve asked women out and had no success, yes? If you said “I don’t approach women so am I volcel?” then the answer is obviously yes.

I've never asked a woman "out" per se? I once asked a girl if she wanted to see a movie with me and a friend, and she turned up with her dad?!
And I don't like bars and nightclubs, the only places people seem to socialize. And on the rare occasion I have gone out I will talk to women but nothing has ever come of it.

Fakecel detected

I try reassure myself of that, but the result is still the same. I'm still here untouched, unloved and with girls showing no interest in me.

Does people being positive at first glance mean anything though?
When I was a teenager, I was slightly less ugly so people were nice to me too, but that's where it ended. They never wanted to be my friends and women especially never wanted relationships with me. People would send me birthday wishes or have conversations at school, but they'd never take me to parties or go on summer trips with me.

Dito, people were happy to have me cheer them up, but they'd never want to keep me around beyond that, beyond what they could use me for?!

Me at every party. Some people were just not meant to be "social". And we are those people.

Can you imagine a gender reversal though?
That being anti-social would result in a woman being incel?

 

[Michael15651]