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shortcel69420
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As you can tell by my username, this will be a height post. I don’t wanna diminish anybody’s struggles, but I think having a short height is one of the worst things that a guy can have. I’m 168cm. And I’m not gonna grow anymore. Being fat can be fixed. Being a person with an unlikeable personality can be largely fixed by focusing on goal-oriented tasks and gaining a sense of self-confidence and strength of character. Height will always be like this, and there’s nothing in the world I can do about it.
Since this is my first post, I would just like to introduce the fact that I’m a “functional” incel. If someone looked at me or saw how I interacted with people in day-to-day life, it wouldn’t really cross their mind that I would ever be posting on a forum like this (or even have a mindset like this). I just hate being condemned to this short-heighted life. Studies show that height is even more important to women than income. That’s right, you heard that correctly. So even when I try to drown all my insecurities in my uni work and convince myself that I’m doing this to eventually be financially stable and secure, it will still be the case that women will (on average) choose the guy that is taller than me. And being a male born taller than 168cm is not a difficult task, statistically.
Even whilst trying to exercise and gain a better physique, I will always be reminded that no matter how good my body looks, I will never be able to get women like how a 6’3 guy with the EXACT SAME physique would get them (or in many cases, a worse physique). Sure, maybe I could aim for getting shorter women, but looking for women shorter than me certainly decreases the size of the net. It’s almost like it’s developed a complex for me as to what turns me on and what I’m attracted to. Every time I see a really hot girl who’s taller than me, I just get turned off. I realize that no matter what I do, she’s not gonna be interested in me because she’s taller. Who doesn’t love a tall model-type girl with long legs? Everybody does. It’s just the feeling of futility I get that makes me feel shitty and not wanna pursue them in fear of being laughed at by her other hot friends.
What I’m sure many of you short guys are pissed off about (as well as I am) is the constant gas lighting you face when you tell someone about this issue. Pointing out facts and citing studies that support exactly what I’m saying is just called, “not being confident bro”. It takes every ounce of my self-control not to shout at them and say, “It’s got nothing to do with that you fucking moron, it’s just the fact that I can’t help but acknowledge things that are objectively true and have been studied! I’m worse off than other guys and there’s nothing I can do about it!”
My family members will say that I’m a “normal” height, and that everybody else is just a giant. Bull. Fucking. Shit. I’ve visited roughly 10 countries, and in pretty much all of them, people are typically taller than me. What the hell is that supposed to say? I get the retardedly good thing they’re trying to do when they say that stuff to me (which is a weak and vain attempt to try to make me feel better), but all it does is it comes off as insulting. You really think I can’t see that it’s fucking obvious that I’m shorter than the average height? The average height for a male is 176cm, and I’m 168cm. I’m 8cm shorter than the average person. I’m not exactly sure what the value of the standard deviation would be in this instance, but I think it would be safe to say that I’m at the bottom 30% (if not worse). I’m so sick of this bullshit people tell me just to make me feel comfortable. I don’t want comfort, I want solutions. But I never get them. You know why? Because there are none. Height can’t be changed, end of story.
So I would just like to wrap up – I realize that most of what people do on these forums is complain, and I’m here to do the same. But I can’t let this sit with me. My studies and my life have taught me that in order to overcome something, I have to work to find solutions. But what solutions are there to this? The only reasonable thing I’ve heard is to get those elevator shoes that increase your height by a few inches. But the problem with those is that everybody already knows how tall I am, and it would be pretty fucking obvious the next day if people saw me magically gain 5cm in height. It’s just fucking embarrassing and would put the massive insecurity I have with myself on public display (not to mention the fact that I would’ve also wasted roughly 100$). Even if I manage to move somewhere where nobody knows me (and somehow, through some miracle from god, be able to bring a girl home), I’d end up taking off those elevator shoes and the girl would see exactly how fucking short I am. It would be embarrassing in all possible scenarios I can think of.
Any other shortcels here? What are your experiences and responses that people have given you when it comes to this problem? And how do you deal with this problem?
Since this is my first post, I would just like to introduce the fact that I’m a “functional” incel. If someone looked at me or saw how I interacted with people in day-to-day life, it wouldn’t really cross their mind that I would ever be posting on a forum like this (or even have a mindset like this). I just hate being condemned to this short-heighted life. Studies show that height is even more important to women than income. That’s right, you heard that correctly. So even when I try to drown all my insecurities in my uni work and convince myself that I’m doing this to eventually be financially stable and secure, it will still be the case that women will (on average) choose the guy that is taller than me. And being a male born taller than 168cm is not a difficult task, statistically.
Even whilst trying to exercise and gain a better physique, I will always be reminded that no matter how good my body looks, I will never be able to get women like how a 6’3 guy with the EXACT SAME physique would get them (or in many cases, a worse physique). Sure, maybe I could aim for getting shorter women, but looking for women shorter than me certainly decreases the size of the net. It’s almost like it’s developed a complex for me as to what turns me on and what I’m attracted to. Every time I see a really hot girl who’s taller than me, I just get turned off. I realize that no matter what I do, she’s not gonna be interested in me because she’s taller. Who doesn’t love a tall model-type girl with long legs? Everybody does. It’s just the feeling of futility I get that makes me feel shitty and not wanna pursue them in fear of being laughed at by her other hot friends.
What I’m sure many of you short guys are pissed off about (as well as I am) is the constant gas lighting you face when you tell someone about this issue. Pointing out facts and citing studies that support exactly what I’m saying is just called, “not being confident bro”. It takes every ounce of my self-control not to shout at them and say, “It’s got nothing to do with that you fucking moron, it’s just the fact that I can’t help but acknowledge things that are objectively true and have been studied! I’m worse off than other guys and there’s nothing I can do about it!”
My family members will say that I’m a “normal” height, and that everybody else is just a giant. Bull. Fucking. Shit. I’ve visited roughly 10 countries, and in pretty much all of them, people are typically taller than me. What the hell is that supposed to say? I get the retardedly good thing they’re trying to do when they say that stuff to me (which is a weak and vain attempt to try to make me feel better), but all it does is it comes off as insulting. You really think I can’t see that it’s fucking obvious that I’m shorter than the average height? The average height for a male is 176cm, and I’m 168cm. I’m 8cm shorter than the average person. I’m not exactly sure what the value of the standard deviation would be in this instance, but I think it would be safe to say that I’m at the bottom 30% (if not worse). I’m so sick of this bullshit people tell me just to make me feel comfortable. I don’t want comfort, I want solutions. But I never get them. You know why? Because there are none. Height can’t be changed, end of story.
So I would just like to wrap up – I realize that most of what people do on these forums is complain, and I’m here to do the same. But I can’t let this sit with me. My studies and my life have taught me that in order to overcome something, I have to work to find solutions. But what solutions are there to this? The only reasonable thing I’ve heard is to get those elevator shoes that increase your height by a few inches. But the problem with those is that everybody already knows how tall I am, and it would be pretty fucking obvious the next day if people saw me magically gain 5cm in height. It’s just fucking embarrassing and would put the massive insecurity I have with myself on public display (not to mention the fact that I would’ve also wasted roughly 100$). Even if I manage to move somewhere where nobody knows me (and somehow, through some miracle from god, be able to bring a girl home), I’d end up taking off those elevator shoes and the girl would see exactly how fucking short I am. It would be embarrassing in all possible scenarios I can think of.
Any other shortcels here? What are your experiences and responses that people have given you when it comes to this problem? And how do you deal with this problem?