
IncelCream
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I Used To Only Date White Men. When My Ex Cheated With Another Asian Woman, I Had A Stunning Realization.
"My 'type' wasn’t just a preference: It was an algorithm shaped by media and colonial history."
"My 'type' wasn’t just a preference: It was an algorithm shaped by media and colonial history."
I received my first lesson in desirability politics via an unexpected text. A white boy from my high school, who wouldn’t make eye contact in the hallways but somehow found my number, sent me a message one night: “Is it true what they say about Asian pussies?” he wrote, followed by a string of winking emojis.
That night, something lodged itself deep in my subconscious. At the time, I didn’t have the language for it, but I felt the weight. To be seen was to be exoticized. To be desired was to be othered. My body wasn’t just mine; it carried assumptions, stereotypes and histories I hadn’t agreed to. It was my first realization that attraction isn’t just neutral — it’s racialized.
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