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You Guys Were Right
Edit: Obviously stopped seeing this person.
Late 20s white guy in the US here. All my prior relationships were with other white women but I started seeing a Korean-American girl recently.
I spoke to her about her perspectives on dating and culture and… holy **** you guys are right.
She completely bashed Korean-guys (and Asian-men broadly)… and had never dated one. She said, “I’d never hook up with an Asian guy”.
And then went on about all of these negative stereotypes I didn’t even know existed.
“Asian guys are too effeminate” but also “Asian guys are too traditional”
It’s genuinely off putting to see someone have such a negative view on their own ethnicity/pan-ethnic identity. Plus the fact all of her friends have the same views.
I’ve got no issue with someone having a preference, but having such a negative view on the male half of your culture is just… wrong? I’m out on this girl.
All I’m saying is, this isn’t in anyone’s head and what you guys here are going through, your experiences and feeling, are completely valid.