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LifeFuel As You Get Older, You No Longer Get Oneitis

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At least, that is my experience. I am 26 years old, and have not experienced legit oneitis since I was 19. Sure, there have been occasional foids to whom I've taken fancy over these years, but oneitis is when you actually have a crush on a foid, a long-term infatuation, thinking about her day in and day out. That, I have not experienced for many years, and I doubt I'll ever experience it again. I am far more cynical today for such feelings to arise within me; at some point, those naive feelings you used to feel as a child and as a teen actually do disappear, permanently. Your brain is just no longer capable of producing those hormones that make you feel "love-high." And I am extremely glad for it; I certainly wouldn't want to go back to being prone to that disease.

I find it hard to believe that adult men past their early 20s still experience onetitis. Like, how can you "fall in love" with a foid, knowing all you know about female nature, experiencing first-hand the cruelty of that non-emphatic sex? You know for a fact that any foid who happens to be nice to you is not sexually interested in you, that you do not make her pussy wet, that she is at best just being polite towards you, or is trying to extract something from you, or is cockteasing you. Seeing all you've seen, knowing all you know, how can you get oneitis for any foid? I have not had my "heart broken" in at least 7 years. I have forgotten what it feels like, to be honest. I used to be familiar with the sensation of onetitis, I used to develop "crushes" on foids every so often, but today it's like a strange territory, waters that shall forever remain uncharted for good. I guess that's lifefuel I'm reporting here - some of us legitimately lose the ability to be truly infatuated, past a certain age.

Onetitis only happens until your late teens or early twenties, that's my conclusion. I will soon (in December) be 27, and I have completely lost the ability to feel oneitis for any foid, neurologically. You should probably expect the same to happen to you. I believe that porn actually helps with that, as in porn you get to see female nature in all its depravity, and you no longer perceive foids as "special" or "magical," if ever you did. So that's one good thing brought about with age and experience - your heart grows colder, so cold that those feelings you used to feel as a teenager will never again be inflicted on you. As you grow older, you really do lose the ability to "fall in love." Take note of that, youngcels.

On a related note, what soys :soy::foidSoy: think inceldom means is that you can't get your oneitis to love you back, getting rejected or friendzoned by her. But what these dipshits can't grasp is that inceldom means that no foid likes you, because they all automatically treat you as a subhuman, due to your ugliness. As a 5'7cel, I am either ignored by all foids, or receive unspoken (for the most part) contempt from them. What soys don't grasp is that IOIs, indicators of interests, or positive sexual attraction energy, or vibes of sexual interest - it's all real, and when you're sensitive to it, when you're good at reading body language and unspoken cues, and yet you can definitely tell that you receive none, you know that it's over. It's over, because you're a repulsive manlet, whom no foid desires.
 
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Okay, you finally are cured about oneitis. Do you have an plans forward in terms of dating or have you given up like the rest of us?
 
Okay, you finally are cured about oneitis. Do you have an plans forward in terms of dating or have you given up like the rest of us?
Since I am probably not a truecel, I plan to looksmaxx and get my act together, and hopefully, I will eventually ascend, and then I'll leave this community for good. Meanwhile, as I am involuntarily celibate due to my myriads of flaws (chief among them, being a laughable manlet), I vent my frustrations and share my insights here.
 
Since I am probably not a truecel, I plan to looksmaxx and get my act together, and hopefully, I will eventually ascend, and then I'll leave this community for good. Meanwhile, as I am involuntarily celibate due to my myriads of flaws (chief among them, being a laughable manlet), I vent my frustrations and share my insights here.
Sounds good, but how do you plan lookmaxx your height at 26 (soon 27)? LL surgery?
 
That word is too zoomer to me so I refuse to write it.
 
Sounds good, but how do you plan lookmaxx your height at 26 (soon 27)? LL surgery?
I'll have to looksmaxx all the aspects of my looks that I have control over. This year I had transPRK surgery to remove the glasses, and I believe that I look much better without them. I am now getting into Minoxidil 5% + dermarollers to maintain my hairline. And I should probably get more tattoos (already have 3), as some foids find that attractive, and I like tattoos myself. I will also work out with weights to at least improve my deltoids, so my frame will look better. And I'll go for a less nerdy, less inhibited fashion style, grow a stubble, and so on.

As for height, I have no intention of doing LL. Height is my hard limit, and I guess I'll just have to hope that some landwhale will be able to tolerate my 5'7 dwarfism. I have, however, bought a collection of elevation tools, that is, elevator shoes and lifts. I bought 4 inch elevator shoes from Amazon, though they look ridiculous and noticeable, and 2.8 inch elevator shoes from Ebay, which look perfectly fine and unnoticeable, and also lifting insoles off AliExpress. If I ever go on dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, OKC, POF, etc., I'll probably have to lie about my height and add 2 inches to my reported height, falsely claiming to be 5'9. I am generally a honest person who despises lying, but if I have no choice, so be it, I'll lie. Then, if a foid agrees to a date, I'll just show up with my 2.8 inch elevator shoes, and she won't notice anything suspicious, in fact, I'll look taller than she expected. Once I fuck the shit out of her, it's not unlikely that she'll be infatuated with me, and then she'll hopefully care less about my real height being laughable.

That's the plan; I don't know if it will actually work out. But what choice do I have, really?
 
Once I fuck the shit out of her, it's not unlikely that she'll be infatuated with me
You're delusional. Infatuation doesn't develop instantaneously after a hook-up. Getting tattoos because you think that's what women want is borderline pathological. You keep forgetting the key thing here: you're autistic and you aren't going to assimilate a personality that matches the stereotype you're trying to become.
 
You're delusional. Infatuation doesn't develop instantaneously after a hook-up. Getting tattoos because you think that's what women want is borderline pathological. You keep forgetting the key thing here: you're autistic and you aren't going to assimilate a personality that matches the stereotype you're trying to become.
This.
 
You're delusional. Infatuation doesn't develop instantaneously after a hook-up. Getting tattoos because you think that's what women want is borderline pathological. You keep forgetting the key thing here: you're autistic and you aren't going to assimilate a personality that matches the stereotype you're trying to become.
I am not actually autistic, though. When I say that I'm non-NT, I mean other mental pathologies, not autism spectrum disorders. I believe that I have some streaks of BPD and some anxiety, which, however, I am able to overcome. Anyway, when I play an outgoing, extroverted character IRL, I do so seamlessly, and people do not notice any incongruence. In terms of behavior, I am perceived as your run-of-the-mill normie. The thing is, while I am sufficiently charismatic, there is no charisma to compensate for one's short stature and unappealing looks, otherwise "game" would work, which it does not, at least when you're too short to meet foids' basic looks threshold.

Infatuation sometimes does proceed from sex, and I have no intention for it to be, or to feel like, a hook-up. I just need to get my foot in the door for once, and thenceforward, I'll know what to do.

I like tattoos, already have 3 as I mentioned, so the fact that they can give you a slight SMV boost (by making you look less like a harmless nerd and more like a badboy) is good enough a reason for me to get more of them. My half-sister's whole body is covered with tattoos, so I believe that the predilection towards getting tats is at least partly genetic. Each tattoo has a special meaning, though, it's not just random skin graffiti.
 
You're delusional. Infatuation doesn't develop instantaneously after a hook-up. Getting tattoos because you think that's what women want is borderline pathological. You keep forgetting the key thing here: you're autistic and you aren't going to assimilate a personality that matches the stereotype you're trying to become.

Keep trying to demotivate my man from looksmaxxing :dab:

Also how do you know that "infatuation doesn't develop instantaneously after a hook-up"? You got any stats to back that up? :feelswhere:

@sexratiocel in response to your original post, I too haven't had a oneitis since I was 17, so I think you're right.
 
I am not actually autistic, though. When I say that I'm non-NT, I mean other mental pathologies, not autism spectrum disorders. I believe that I have some streaks of BPD and some anxiety, which, however, I am able to overcome. Anyway, when I play an outgoing, extroverted character IRL, I do so seamlessly, and people do not notice any incongruence. In terms of behavior, I am perceived as your run-of-the-mill normie. The thing is, while I am sufficiently charismatic, there is no charisma to compensate for one's short stature and unappealing looks, otherwise "game" would work, which it does not, at least when you're too short to meet foids' basic looks threshold.

Infatuation sometimes does proceed from sex, and I have no intention for it to be, or to feel like, a hook-up. I just need to get my foot in the door for once, and thenceforward, I'll know what to do.

I like tattoos, already have 3 as I mentioned, so the fact that they can give you a slight SMV boost (by making you look less like a harmless nerd and more like a badboy) is good enough a reason for me to get more of them. My half-sister's whole body is covered with tattoos, so I believe that the predilection towards getting tats is at least partly genetic. Each tattoo has a special meaning, though, it's not just random skin graffiti.
lol
 
in my 30s can confirm.
 
Oneits is poison
 
God I remember oneitis, I don't get it anymore, but I think it was partially due to forced proximity to women due to school/friendgroups, since I don't regularly interact with women anymore, I don't get it. I still think about my oneitis from yeras ago, i was obsessed with her, thought she was perfect, and was friendzoned in favour of a short curry :) (it was a freak occurrence that I accept is not the norm that I wont go into)

She is not even that good looking when I look at her now, she is very meh, but for some reason I still think about her WTF
 
When you're truly blackpilled, it's not possible to get oneitis.
 
I plan to looksmaxx and get my act together, and hopefully, I will eventually ascend
High Confusion

Should I really be surprised that someone deluded enough to believe in "oneitis" would be deluded enough to still see "ascension" as a viable option :feelskek:

When you're truly blackpilled, it's not possible to get oneitis.
This, never had it, never will have it

Even when I was blue pilled I was never THAT blue pilled, how the hell can any man obsess over a single woman when there are so many other women around that look just as good if not better, it doesn't make sense
 
True. I'm just too dead inside to care now
 
Should I really be surprised that someone deluded enough to believe in "oneitis"
Oneitis is not something you "believe" in, it's an irrational feeling that you feel when your brain is flooded with infatuation hormones.

If you've been spared that feeling, good for you, but I believe that most of us here (like, at least 80%) have experienced it at some point or another throughout our lives, as it is common for people to develop crushes on other people and to fantasize for long periods of time about building a happy life and a blissful future together, etc. In fact, men are more prone to romanticism than foids. I first fell in love with a foid when I was 4 years old, and have had many instances of oneitis between 4 and 19.

If you feel pride and a sense of superiority for never experiencing it, well, go ahead and feel that, but yours is not the common experience.

still see "ascension" as a viable option

I'm just being realistic and honest about my situation, which is that I am an incel, but not a truecel, i.e. it may be possible for me to eventually ascend (a truecel is someone who will never, under any reasonable circumstances, be able to ascend), but that I need to do a whole bunch of stuff to make that situation possible, and until I do, I will have to endure involuntary celibacy. If I were a dishonest LARPer, I'd claim to be a 5'2 balding Indian janitor, but my situation is objectively better than that, so I hope that one day I will ascend. Whether or not I am deluding myself, time will tell.
 
Even when I was blue pilled I was never THAT blue pilled, how the hell can any man obsess over a single woman when there are so many other women around that look just as good if not better, it doesn't make sense
You know, I think it's a trait of bluepilled incels. Like, you think that "maybe she's the girl you've been looking for for a long time". I mean, when she seems to be nice to you. Since incels have no choice and don't get attention from the opposite sex and the bluepill says you can find the girl.
 
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I fell in love once but never had oneitis which I assume is a long term condition sort of an obsession. I'm unable to connect to others emotionally.
 
I have never loved, was never allowed to...

at this age you may develop some interest in someone but you already know it won't go anywhere, still hurts a bit tho.
 
Oneitis is not something you "believe" in, it's an irrational feeling that you feel when your brain is flooded with infatuation hormones.
No such thing as "infatuation hormones", many men become attracted to a specific girl, they just aren't mentally cucked like you so when they see another attractive female they think - "oh yeah, I'd fuck her too"

Don't project your pathetic life choices onto others

All this "oneitis" nonsense is a choice, you aren't blind, other women exist, and the woman you are obsessing over isn't fucking you, so "oneitis" is literally a man CHOOSING to deny reality. Its not something that "happens" to you, what happens to you is that you see other attractive women too, but you make the CHOICE to go out of your way and pretend as if these other attractive women "don't matter", when if given the chance you'd fuck them too

But you CHOOSE to stay in a deluded fantasy of "what if's" knowing full well your "oneitis" doesn't give a fuck about you
 
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Shiiiiit, speak for yourself.:feelswhat: The only reason I still use FB is to creep the photos of my oneitises. :hax::feelswhere:
 
You have to kill the concept of oneitis, in reality there is no true oneitis after late teen years, they all lust for chad cock, they all want to do degenerate stuff with chad. They all will ride the cock carousel in their 20's and settle with a beta in their 30's.

There is no foid worthy to be a oneitis anymore, that's why most guys have their oneitis in their teenage years. They are still "pure". The reason we don't have that feeling of the "chosen one" it's because foids after their late teen years aren't worthy anymore to be the real one.
 
I have not had oneitis since high school I’m almost 30
 
No such thing as "infatuation hormones",
Factually incorrect, and it's ridiculous that you make that claim. You just outed yourself as a retard or an ignoramus, basically.
many men become attracted to a specific girl, they just aren't mentally cucked like you so when they see another attractive female they think - "oh yeah, I'd fuck her too"
This is no way to speak to your intellectual superiors, but I'll swallow my pride and tell you that I did in fact think "I would fuck her too" when I saw attractive females besides the main targets of my infatuations - that is irrelevant, as you are confusing sexual attraction with romantic ideation. You can wish to fuck 90% of the female population, while still simultaneously falling in love with and developing a oneitis ideation towards a specific foid, or even towards several specific foids. You think that there is a contradiction here, but that is because you were dropped on your head when you were a child so something went awry with your brain, and you never developed the ability to see the world the way people who aren't turbo-spergs see it.
Don't project your pathetic life choices onto others
I do not recall mentioning any "life choices" in this thread, though. The only unfortunate choice I made here is responding to you, tbh.
All this "oneitis" nonsense is a choice, you aren't blind, other women exist, and the woman you are obsessing over isn't fucking you, so "oneitis" is literally a man CHOOSING to deny reality. Its not something that "happens" to you, what happens to you is that you see other attractive women too, but you make the CHOICE to go out of your way and pretend as if these other attractive women "don't matter", when if given the chance you'd fuck them too

But you CHOOSE to stay in a deluded fantasy of "what if's" knowing full well your "oneitis" doesn't give a fuck about you
That is more or less true, but you do that because your brain is flooded with love hormones, so you act irrationally, rather than on pure logic. That is how most people who weren't dropped on their heads as children feel; you should try to empathize instead of acting like such a special snowflake just because you're severely developmentally stunted.

Look, I understand that you are so fundamentally emotionally stunted that you cannot even tell the difference between romantic ideation and sexual attraction -- it seems that your brain is in your penis, and probably the size of your penis, which is presumably unimpressive -- but this is no excuse for spouting nonsense such as "infatuation hormones don't exist" when literally all of science confirms that they do in fact exist, and that under their influence people have little choice but to do irrational things.

Oh, and you go on the ignore list, faggot. :feelzez:
 
I learned eventually that oneitis is bullshit after every single oneitis I had rejected me.
 
My oneitis is a cam girl :feelsrope::feelsrope:
 
At least, that is my experience. I am 26 years old, and have not experienced legit oneitis since I was 19. Sure, there have been occasional foids to whom I've taken fancy over these years, but oneitis is when you actually have a crush on a foid, a long-term infatuation, thinking about her day in and day out. That, I have not experienced for many years, and I doubt I'll ever experience it again. I am far more cynical today for such feelings to arise within me; at some point, those naive feelings you used to feel as a child and as a teen actually do disappear, permanently. Your brain is just no longer capable of producing those hormones that make you feel "love-high." And I am extremely glad for it; I certainly wouldn't want to go back to being prone to that disease.

I find it hard to believe that adult men past their early 20s still experience onetitis. Like, how can you "fall in love" with a foid, knowing all you know about female nature, experiencing first-hand the cruelty of that non-emphatic sex? You know for a fact that any foid who happens to be nice to you is not sexually interested in you, that you do not make her pussy wet, that she is at best just being polite towards you, or is trying to extract something from you, or is cockteasing you. Seeing all you've seen, knowing all you know, how can you get oneitis for any foid? I have not had my "heart broken" in at least 7 years. I have forgotten what it feels like, to be honest. I used to be familiar with the sensation of onetitis, I used to develop "crushes" on foids every so often, but today it's like a strange territory, waters that shall forever remain uncharted for good. I guess that's lifefuel I'm reporting here - some of us legitimately lose the ability to be truly infatuated, past a certain age.

Onetitis only happens until your late teens or early twenties, that's my conclusion. I will soon (in December) be 27, and I have completely lost the ability to feel oneitis for any foid, neurologically. You should probably expect the same to happen to you. I believe that porn actually helps with that, as in porn you get to see female nature in all its depravity, and you no longer perceive foids as "special" or "magical," if ever you did. So that's one good thing brought about with age and experience - your heart grows colder, so cold that those feelings you used to feel as a teenager will never again be inflicted on you. As you grow older, you really do lose the ability to "fall in love." Take note of that, youngcels.

On a related note, what soys :soy::foidSoy: think inceldom means is that you can't get your oneitis to love you back, getting rejected or friendzoned by her. But what these dipshits can't grasp is that inceldom means that no foid likes you, because they all automatically treat you as a subhuman, due to your ugliness. As a 5'7cel, I am either ignored by all foids, or receive unspoken (for the most part) contempt from them. What soys don't grasp is that IOIs, indicators of interests, or positive sexual attraction energy, or vibes of sexual interest - it's all real, and when you're sensitive to it, when you're good at reading body language and unspoken cues, and yet you can definitely tell that you receive none, you know that it's over. It's over, because you're a repulsive manlet, whom no foid desires.
i still have it and it fucking sucks. my oneitis is a cute looking virgin but she literally only wants one guy who is a statusmaxxed chadlite who has a gf already
 
I'm in mid 20s and still have oneitis who even lives in another city. I guess I should grow up mentally. I'm a man, not a boy anymore.
 
having an onetisis is cucked
 
Oneitis typically evaporates exponentially in your mid twenties, probably early twenties if you're not just bluepilled
 
I've been fixated on the same "oneitis" for eight years now. Age has only made me desire her more.

Obsessives tendencies.
 
The girls I remember being into all look extremely busted now :feelshaha:
Yeah, they're all from my school years and they seemed like they were being nice to me at the time, but now I know better, like you said.
I think it is related to the fact that girls peak near their 14, I honestly hate how adult women look and feel, it's not even all that sexual, I just don't like the whole concept of aging and losing your innocence.
I'm really thinking of Humbert Humbertmaxxing, it seems like the only path of me achieving happiness :feelsrope:
I also follow the one I think of the most, I still can't move on. If she ever gets married or if she starts posing with her hypothetical SO on Instagram I don't know how I will react, but I just know that it'll happen someday.
 
I’m not attracted to the saggy used up single mothers with BPD so yeah no more oneitis
 
jfl ioi isn't hard to read it's just that normies don't get any so they don't know what it looks like and think holes are all mysterious :feelskek: anyway I could still get oneitis but holes are utterly deranged these days so very few of them deserve it, most of those are under 14 :feelsmage:
 

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