Are your parents worried?

[scihub]

Do any of you ever have conversations about your incel status with your parents?
Directly or indirectly?
Who brings it up?
How do they respond? (Offer platitudes, advice, well meaning or out-of-touch)
Have any of them offered to do anything to help?

I think it would be interesting to share direct experiences, especially how it affects parents to see their little man fail to meet one of life's most important milestones again and again, and whether their responses (or lack of) have made things better or worse for you.

 

[EnglishCel]

I don't know if they are they hide it well because every time it gets brought up they just repeat the same platitudes that there is someone out there and that I'll figure it out.

 

[CorpseCel]

they don't say anything


I am an orphancel

 

[Clavicus Vile]

I used to talk to my mom about being ugly, lonely, and wanting a girlfriend and how this impacts a guy’s life but I just got gaslighted all the time and told to man up so I stopped talking to her about it. I don’t think they truly care, they say they do but I don’t believe that bull.

 

[scihub]

I don't know if they are they hide it well because every time it gets brought up they just repeat the same platitudes that there is someone out there and that I'll figure it out.

... sounds like mine a few years ago. Mine have recently evolved to telling me to lower my standards (they don't realize my bar is literally the ninth circle of hell already)

 

[EnglishCel]

... sounds like mine a few years ago. Mine have recently evolved to telling me to lower my standards (they don't realize my bar is literally the ninth circle of hell already)

Mine are not there yet.

 

[HomicidalSuicidal88]

no they dont care about me they only pretned to since im a burden

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

Yeah, they do. They rarely talked about it upfront with me, but they definitely realize I’m an incel and socially isolated. My dad while he was alive just tried to do lots of fun car stuff with me to take my mind off it. He definitely knew I’m not normal though because he had another son who was a neurotypical HTN and had many girlfriends before he died in a car crash before I was born. My mother also worries about what would happen to me if she died, because she’s already 60.

 

[lifesucksandyoudie]

I told my parents I'll probably never give them grandkids years ago.

 

[curryboy420]

Yeah, they do. They rarely talked about it upfront with me, but they definitely realize I’m an incel and socially isolated. My dad while he was alive just tried to do lots of fun car stuff with me to take my mind off it. He definitely knew I’m not normal though because he had another son who was a neurotypical HTN and had many girlfriends before he died in a car crash before I was born. My mother also worries about what would happen to me if she died, because she’s already 60.

How did you dad have another son who drove cars before you were born, is he 80 years old or what

 

[curryboy420]

no they dont care about me they only pretned to since im a burden

Sad and lad

 

[samsara]

they don't say anything


I am an orphancel

Did you parents died or they dumped you in a trash can and someone finds you

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

How did you dad have another son who drove cars before you were born, is he 80 years old or what

He was something like 26 when he had the first son and he was 51 when he had me. My father sadly passed away recently, and losing him was brutal because he was like my best friend who I did lots of cool car stuff with and outdoor projects at our cabin. That's the brutal part about having old parents other than the likelihood of bad genetics. You are almost guaranteed to lose them way too early in your life. MY father was very impressive though with how much he did, even in the last year before he died form pancreatic cancer.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

I told my parents I'll probably never give them grandkids years ago.

Same. I didn't tell them probably either. I told them that without a doubt, I'm never having kids even if I find a gf.

 

[curryboy420]

He was something like 26 when he had the first son and he was 51 when he had me. My father sadly passed away recently, and losing him was brutal because he was like my best friend who I did lots of cool car stuff with and outdoor projects at our cabin. That's the brutal part about having old parents other than the likelihood of bad genetics. You are almost guaranteed to lose them way too early in your life. MY father was very impressive though with how much he did, even in the last year before he died form pancreatic cancer.

That's sad sorry about Ur loss

 

[Alexander400]

My dad told me recently that they where worried about me, he then told me how much he had sex when he was my age. Asked me if i was gay and shit. Was not pleasent but i already knew they worried about my lack of bitches. I still didnt like it because it put things into perspective that what we go through also affects our parents perception of us. I feel bad for not being the son they wanted.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

That's sad sorry about Ur loss

Thanks man. It's been hard. I'm very glad my mon is still around and I hang out with her a lot, but she knows absolutely nothing about cars, so I'm on my own when it comes to repairs. Same thing at our cabin. My father and I would always cut the grass together with the riding mowers and repair them as needed. Many repairs will be very difficult or impossible without another person, and I don't know anyone else who has the knowledge to help. At least my mother goes out to the cabin with me and on rides on our side by side atv. She also sometimes goes for rides in the classic car my dad and I used to take to car shows as well. Two days ago I drove the classic 1971 Camaro for the first time since he passed away and the nostalgia hit hard.

 

[abhiteshkumar]

my mom and my sister knows that i am misogynist although my sister knows fully about my being incel but my mother thinks its a phase that i will grow out of eventually

 

[PersonalityChad]

The last time they've said anything on the matter was in 2021. I think they have given up too at this point

 

[Excalibur]

They like to pretend that there's nothing wrong with me at all and that I'm just a little introverted and lazy, but deep down they know I'm a worthless loser who's going to be isolated and miserable for the rest of his life.

 

[8CbZA-kHFu6pFgE*]

I don't know if they are they hide it well because every time it gets brought up they just repeat the same platitudes that there is someone out there and that I'll figure it out.

"You'll figure it out" is the normie way of saying that its over for you