Women are sexually submissive/masochistic and aroused by fear, pain and loss of control. This is why their favorite insults are not terms that evoke fear, but terms that evoke disgust: creepy, weird, strange.
However, they are socially hypergamous and the social and the sexual is not as separated for them as for men. For men, a hot woman is a hot woman, no matter if she has a PhD or if she's working at McDonald's. With women, however, it's different. Status is something that is notoriously underrated here, maybe because most incels are college-aged guys and hence in an environment in which things seem to be more equal. Going from dorm to class room is not the same as when you're older and work, etc.
So if you're not a good-looking high-status Chad, you're not seen as causing fear/dominance but you're CREEPY when you are sadistic. When Chad does it, it's hot and they think of 50 Shades. When an incel does it, they think of Silence of the Lambs.
Women are just vile, disgusting creatures.