wintersnow
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How are men at parenting? Is taking care of children strictly a woman's job, or are men just as good?
Some men say that motherhood is the only job a woman should ever have. Or at least the most important. They say that women should be making babies and men should be doing other things, like building bridges, racing cars, running politics, and conquering the universe. They're content to leave child rearing to their wives. But then a funny thing happens if a couple decides they want a divorce.
If the wife gets custody of the children, there are men who cry discrimination. They say that the system is rigged against them. They say that men are just as good as women at being parents, and they insist that they should have custody of the children, not the mother. And this comes after years of them saying that children are a woman's domain, and men should be doing something else.
Okay. So my question is, Which is it? Are men the great conquerors, inventors, and discoverers who have better things to do than care for children? Or are they the nurturing and competent child custodians that they claim to be in divorce court? Are men as good as women at taking care of children? Are they equally good at getting the children clothed, fed, and off to school? Are they equally good at figuring out why the baby is crying at 3 in the morning?
In divorce, it's become common for men to insist that they should be just as entitled to custody of the children as the mother is. The reason that the mother traditionally has gotten custody is because she had been the primary caregiver. The father played a secondary role. But the Men's Rights movement came along and said that men were just as entitled as women to get custody. In order to make such a statement, they had to say that men were just as good at being mothers as women were. But are they?
Some men say that motherhood is the only job a woman should ever have. Or at least the most important. They say that women should be making babies and men should be doing other things, like building bridges, racing cars, running politics, and conquering the universe. They're content to leave child rearing to their wives. But then a funny thing happens if a couple decides they want a divorce.
If the wife gets custody of the children, there are men who cry discrimination. They say that the system is rigged against them. They say that men are just as good as women at being parents, and they insist that they should have custody of the children, not the mother. And this comes after years of them saying that children are a woman's domain, and men should be doing something else.
Okay. So my question is, Which is it? Are men the great conquerors, inventors, and discoverers who have better things to do than care for children? Or are they the nurturing and competent child custodians that they claim to be in divorce court? Are men as good as women at taking care of children? Are they equally good at getting the children clothed, fed, and off to school? Are they equally good at figuring out why the baby is crying at 3 in the morning?
In divorce, it's become common for men to insist that they should be just as entitled to custody of the children as the mother is. The reason that the mother traditionally has gotten custody is because she had been the primary caregiver. The father played a secondary role. But the Men's Rights movement came along and said that men were just as entitled as women to get custody. In order to make such a statement, they had to say that men were just as good at being mothers as women were. But are they?