Never approached a woman in my life, never asked a woman out. Don't know how. Even if a woman agreed to go out with me I'd have no idea what to do.
youre a volcel
If you have to approach, it's over.
inb4 "fakecel"
Only-asked-out-one-woman crew checking in. are you a young or oldcel?
same, except i have actually never even TALKED to a woman in my life, nor has one ever made eye contact with me.
i have no clue how people here have ever interacted with women, it seems borderline impossible
i have no clue how people here have ever interacted with women, it seems borderline impossible
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Did you try looking at them?
yes, i have tried staring at many of them but they never acknowledge me or even look in my general direction. jfl.
0 ask outs = volcel.
I've tried twice; rejected both times. Inb4 "you have to try 6 gorillion times hurr durr *drools on keyboard*"
I've tried twice; rejected both times. Inb4 "you have to try 6 gorillion times hurr durr *drools on keyboard*"
I stopped trying physical interactions in middle school, from high school I encountered many online interactions in which I was brutally rejected by women.
Oldish. I can't even message women on dating sites. I literally have no idea what to say to them.
My attempts have been low but not zero. Part of it was inhibition, then later swearing it off after some bad experiences, and finally now being so far behind that I have no idea what to say to them or how to go about it (as you mention above).
I can't even make female friends. I'd pretty much just be asking out strangers. I tried in middle school if that counts.
A rare khhectv
yeah I've never really approached. I informally asked girls out a few times (didn't make it clear I was interested romantically), but I failed to escalate during the "date."
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truecel lol
Anybody who hasn't tried isn't Incel. I have a legit facial deformity and approached>1k women in person.
-being fat doesn't quality as Incel if ur face is normal and white. Fat can be lost
-being a shut in doesn't qualify again if ur average. It's a personal decision to make your existence known or not
Having tried dating apps and PUA I'm 100% confirmed Incel because numbers flake over text
-being fat doesn't quality as Incel if ur face is normal and white. Fat can be lost
-being a shut in doesn't qualify again if ur average. It's a personal decision to make your existence known or not
Having tried dating apps and PUA I'm 100% confirmed Incel because numbers flake over text
What does escalation entail exactly? These kinds of things need to be spelled out for some of us. lol as if I'll ever get a chance to put that knowledge into practice.
if I knew, I probably wouldn't be here, kek. Apparently you have to flirt a lot and get physical. I was too anxious to go there. It's funny because I was pretty comfortable with those girls before the "date."
Not an incel. Just an idiot that can't google these things to figure it out himself.
Sure. Just google "how to flirt" and suddenly you're a masterpro seducer.
There's a huge gap between theory and practice
Attraction isn't negotiable. She either likes you (specifically how u look) and u can get away with pretty much anything.
If she doesn't then that's another issue.
This guy made it seem like he messed up when I think in reality they just didn't really like him that much except as a "friend"
Yeah I agree. But calling someone a fakecell because he didn't googled something was a bit too much. You could google as much shit as you can and still be unable to do them in real life, or even to understand how they could ever be done.
this applies to Chad. The rest of the population has to actually put in effort. You can deny it if you want, but we both know you're just making excuses to avoid trying.
thanks buddy
I should add that I have diagnosed AvPD... so yes, it's very difficult to apply IRL.
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Somehow I got programmed to believe that being attracted to girls is wrong and shameful. So I've never done it
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I have not even talked to a girl in years.
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Never been in a situation where I'd feel it's the "right" time to approach a girl. I don't really know how or when or why. I really have nothing to tell her (and she has nothing to tell me). I have nothing to give here in the looks or sex departments (everything is a fucking mess). I have nothing to give her in the personality department (introversion and high-inhib are pussy-driers). Why the fuck would she even want to interact with me?
Also, since I've mostly lead a detached low-stress high-achevement life (i.e. not getting judged at all or getting judged academically favourably), rejection has become a fucking guillotine for what remains of my self esteem and I fear I'm one serious rejection away from ER-ing.
Never been in a situation where I'd feel it's the "right" time to approach a girl. I don't really know how or when or why. I really have nothing to tell her (and she has nothing to tell me). I have nothing to give here in the looks or sex departments (everything is a fucking mess). I have nothing to give her in the personality department (introversion and high-inhib are pussy-driers). Why the fuck would she even want to interact with me?
Also, since I've mostly lead a detached low-stress high-achevement life (i.e. not getting judged at all or getting judged academically favourably), rejection has become a fucking guillotine for what remains of my self esteem and I fear I'm one serious rejection away from ER-ing.
Actually, if you can't even manage the prowess to approach women, you're already dead.
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I mean fuck I'm too tired too type/think but I can relate. Yeah. It's been a while since I've been out with or asked anyone out, and I'm in my early 30s and this is still a problem. I am still stuck on unsure adolescent mode. Fuck has it been lonely beyond relief. Anyways, yeah, little to no relationship or sexual experience, which may or may not be a bigger problem than I am making it out to be. On top of that and a related note, I watch alot of porn, like daily, and I was tonight, and well, for some reason, with the options being all over the place, I came across the amateur webcam stuff, and holy shit is it true: All chads and stacies. Yeah. It's true. It really is the sexual freedom for them. I was going to write a post is it really that hopeless? I mean fuck, all I've ever wanted was just one.
I've only asked out two women, both whom I already knew. But I've messaged a lot of women on dating and chat sites, but didn't outright ask them out.
I have the same issue, I have no clue what I would even talk about. Anytime I've messaged a woman on a dating site I'm just like uh, hi like Brainy from Hey Arnold.
I also feel like we have to walk on eggshells, making a sexual joke or something these days can be considered harassment. It's strange to me how all women go for masculine men and yet encourage us to not be.
I would need someone to throughly walk me through what most people talk about on dates, if I ever got one. I'd just call up everyone I know to get advice, and basically form a script in my head the entire date based on the most common questions and topics to talk about. I'd hope and pray no topic I wasn't prepared for came up.
Do any other socialanxietycels basically talk to everyone (besides family or people you've known a while) with a pre-planned script?
I have the same issue, I have no clue what I would even talk about. Anytime I've messaged a woman on a dating site I'm just like uh, hi like Brainy from Hey Arnold.
I also feel like we have to walk on eggshells, making a sexual joke or something these days can be considered harassment. It's strange to me how all women go for masculine men and yet encourage us to not be.
I would need someone to throughly walk me through what most people talk about on dates, if I ever got one. I'd just call up everyone I know to get advice, and basically form a script in my head the entire date based on the most common questions and topics to talk about. I'd hope and pray no topic I wasn't prepared for came up.
Do any other socialanxietycels basically talk to everyone (besides family or people you've known a while) with a pre-planned script?
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nah, that's too much work, especially with my brain fog. IMO conversation is supposed to flow naturally. There's nothing rewarding about socializing if you're reading a script
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Never have. Only online
I tried up until 16 or so. All the girls I went for (sub 5s) were always so serious, bitchy and asexual or something, but probably only around me.
Your life must be very sad if you feel the need to say this, a volcel is someone who does have sex but claims to be incel or has had it easy in life, if you're ugly it doesn't matter if you approach or not
Are you guys Finnish?
Literally how do you go through life without having ever talked to a woman?
No. Just saw a Spede, the le epik Ylilauta assburger man reaction image in my memes folder when I was making my registration and used it.
I've asked 3 or 4 out, and I'm still an incel so I'll let you work out how it went for me.
Nah, I never tried either. Too old to start now as well, JFL
Only online. I can't even make eye contact irl, no fucking way i could ask a woman out.
How many attempts to be classified as an incel? I feel like it has to be more than one.
I can't even be friends with women. Throughout all my life women have always treated me with disinterest and stayed away from me. There is no use in asking women out if you are ugly.
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I’ve never tried either but we all know what would happen anyway.
never tried,dont think it will end will for me.
Same and doubt I ever will.
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nice projection /
- Volcel : Person who, for various reasons, is voluntarily abstinent and does not engage in sex.
Low-IQ post.
high-iq post.
Your delusional, if you have a date with her than she either 1) already has some sort of attraction or 2) is just using you for friendzone material.
So I think it has to be 2) unless you're that big of a retard that you can't hold a normal human conversation.
Get on some drugs.
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Ideally it should. It just never does for me and is usually awkward. I don't have an exact script, but I definitely prepare for any conversation I have and work out most of what I'd like to say. Once I know someone better I don't have to do this as much, but I don't know many people beyond that point. I don't count internet friends as part of this, even though my only real friends are internet long-distance friends. Because in chat rooms or social media you have time to think of something to say without the same sort of awkard pauses.
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