Discussion Anyone else incel because social outcast/no friends most of your life? Any hope for socialcels?

[Nihilisticel]

I believe a major reason why I’m incel is because ever since eighth grade I’ve been a social outcast/had no friends. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t make any friends and nobody ever seemed to want to. It hurts. Even during graduation nobody clapped and I’ve been at this school all 4 fuckin years.

I don’t care what any of you says, having no social life/no friends is just as bad as having a bad face. What foid wants to be with that weird lonely dude with no friends at eating at the table by hisself? Terrible feeling tbh

Now I’m 20 and out of high school and it’s almost impossible to make friends. With no friends how can I even meet women? Most guys meet their s/o through their social circle. No way I’m going out clubbing by myself because it’s gonna be just like high school. People gonna look at me as that weird lonely dude.

Honestly if you’re an incel and have a good amount of close friends, whether they’re incel or not, you’re lucky as fuck. Be grateful because while you don’t have a girl you have friends. Us socialcels have no friends and no girls. Nothing but boredom, misery and suffering 24/7.

 

[Angry_runt]

I think having no friends is more of a symptom than a cause of whatever is wrong with you.

 

[Deleted member 17749]

I’ve had “friends” at school but I’ve never been invited to anything outside of school. I always spent my weekends alone.

 

[AlexanderTheGreat11]

I have friends and acquaintances. I could be more social , But i'm depressed and can't stand many of them.

 

[Nihilisticel]

I have friends and acquaintances. I could be more social , But i'm depressed and can't stand many of them.

I envy anyone that has people to do something with on the weekend. I’m 20 and been stuck in the house every weekend and every summer. Lord that rope is looking better and better everyday

I’ve had “friends” at school but I’ve never been invited to anything outside of school. I always spent my weekends alone.

Depressing feeling on a Friday and Saturday night seeing everyone on social media out while you’re self loathing in the house. That’s why I deleted it tbh I couldn’t handle that shit

 

[Itsover4maymaycels]

Cope, you got no friends cause you're unnatractive, not the other way around, lookism is biologically programmed into us from the stonere age where having genes for physical strenght was all that really mattered, you know how as an incel even babies who are way too young and underdeveloped to have any concept of what morality or personality are get terrified just from taking a look at you? That's the very, very hard to overcome biological nature of every human showing through.

 

[XerxesAzrael]

I never had friends AT ALL, only acquaintances. I have been a social outcast since I was like 8 or 9. I only had two best friends through the 4th and 6th grade, who I have never talked to in 8 years.

 

[KingOfRome]

I think having no friends is more of a symptom than a cause of whatever is wrong with you.

It's pretty obvious. Saying you're defective because you were rejected implies there was nothing wrong with you in the first place, and your rejection came out of nowhere, which is egotistical thinking. People get rejected because they are defective. The problem is when the reject asks how he's wrong, his question gets answered with lies.

 

[Nihilisticel]

It's pretty obvious. Saying you're defective because you were rejected implies there was nothing wrong with you in the first place, and your rejection came out of nowhere, which is egotistical thinking. People get rejected because they are defective. The problem is when the reject asks how he's wrong, his question gets answered with lies.

You’re an idiot that thinks he’s smarter than he actually is. I promise you 100% that not everybody who doesn’t have friends is it their fault. Some people (like myself) have moved around a lot and was never able to maintain any friendships in their childhood - teenage years , or never found anyone likeminded as them.

Some areas like where I live everyone is super cliquish and very unfriendly... if you haven’t made a circle by middle school it’s over

 

[KingOfRome]

You’re an idiot that thinks he’s smarter than he actually is. I promise you 100% that not everybody who doesn’t have friends is it their fault. Some people (like myself) have moved around a lot and was never able to maintain any friendships in their childhood - teenage years , or never found anyone likeminded as them.

Some areas like where I live everyone is super cliquish and very unfriendly... if you haven’t made a circle by middle school it’s over

People like that can at least make acquaintances. But fine, keep thinking nothing's wrong with you and nothing is ever your fault. That'll get you all kinds of sympathy.

 

[Nihilisticel]

People like that can at least make acquaintances. But fine, keep thinking nothing's wrong with you and nothing is ever your fault. That'll get you all kinds of sympathy.

Yes I’ve made plenty acquaintances but I’m talking about friends. I should’ve made that clear. People to hang out with outside of school. Those who invite you places

 

[KingOfRome]

Yes I’ve made plenty acquaintances but I’m talking about friends. I should’ve made that clear. People to hang out with outside of school. Those who invite you places

There's no reason you can't make friends now if you're not defective otherwise. OkCupid and Plenty of Fish will also work, provided you're not genetic garbage.

 

[Nihilisticel]

There's no reason you can't make friends now if you're not defective otherwise. OkCupid and Plenty of Fish will also work, provided you're not genetic garbage.

Well I’m only 20 so I guess it’s still kinda possible. At this age most people already have their circle established though

 

[HowCanSheSlap]

I believe a major reason why I’m incel is because ever since eighth grade I’ve been a social outcast/had no friends. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t make any friends and nobody ever seemed to want to. It hurts. Even during graduation nobody clapped and I’ve been at this school all 4 fuckin years.

I don’t care what any of you says, having no social life/no friends is just as bad as having a bad face. What foid wants to be with that weird lonely dude with no friends at eating at the table by hisself? Terrible feeling tbh

Now I’m 20 and out of high school and it’s almost impossible to make friends. With no friends how can I even meet women? Most guys meet their s/o through their social circle. No way I’m going out clubbing by myself because it’s gonna be just like high school. People gonna look at me as that weird lonely dude.

Honestly if you’re an incel and have a good amount of close friends, whether they’re incel or not, you’re lucky as fuck. Be grateful because while you don’t have a girl you have friends. Us socialcels have no friends and no girls. Nothing but boredom, misery and suffering 24/7.

Same I had friends growing up - but lost all contact by the time I turned 18 and moved out. Had no friends throughout university, only 'acquaintances' and 'classmates' - people I'd sit next to but never meet or socialize outside of class. I don't drink so I think that had an effect. Left uni 2 years ago and it's been a lonely hell hole since. Even worse.

I'm not autistic or anything like that. I can be quite outgoing. I think most people assume I have friends (I do lie) and live a decent social life. The opposite is true I just LDAR all day in my free time.

 

[Nihilisticel]

Same I had friends growing up - but lost all contact by the time I turned 18 and moved out. Had no friends throughout university, only 'acquaintances' and 'classmates' - people I'd sit next to but never meet or socialize outside of class. I don't drink so I think that had an effect. Left uni 2 years ago and it's been a lonely hell hole since. Even worse.

I'm not autistic or anything like that. I can be quite outgoing. I think most people assume I have friends (I do lie) and live a decent social life. The opposite is true I just LDAR all day in my free time.

It’s torture. Being in the house every weekend and summer. Shit sucks I’m close to blowing my brains out

 

[KingOfRome]

Well I’m only 20 so I guess it’s still kinda possible. At this age most people already have their circle established though

You'd be welcome to join social circles related to fields of your study or interest if you were good-looking. You'd also be able to find a girl who'd date and have sex with you whether she met you through one of those circles or through a dating app. But you're a 4/10 at most, so you're the creepy loser nobody wants to be seen associating with. It sucks but those are the breaks.

 

[Joker]

Never had friends, just acquaintances.
These days I don't even bother with social interaction beyond mandatory shit like work.
I have become so jaded over the years that I don't even desire to make friends or hang out with people.
I'm most comfortable and happy alone now, ironic as that is.

 

[ShyManlet]

i know uglier men than me have at least 1/2 friends, only my socially retarded ass cant seem to make any...sad shit man, when even your personality is as ugly as your face, im ugly in and out, cant even communicate normally with other people. Im so fucked

 

[Mrpvolts]

I’ve had “friends” at school but I’ve never been invited to anything outside of school. I always spent my weekends alone.

 

[Deleted member 21219]

There's no reason you can't make friends now if you're not defective otherwise. OkCupid and Plenty of Fish will also work, provided you're not genetic garbage.

Not sure if making male friends has much to do with your looks tbh. I know looks inevitably permeate into every aspect of your life, but men arent as harsh as women when it comes to looks.

You’re an idiot that thinks he’s smarter than he actually is. I promise you 100% that not everybody who doesn’t have friends is it their fault. Some people (like myself) have moved around a lot and was never able to maintain any friendships in their childhood - teenage years , or never found anyone likeminded as them.

Some areas like where I live everyone is super cliquish and very unfriendly... if you haven’t made a circle by middle school it’s over

Making friends is much easier than getting a gf. Maybe the problem for you isnt making friends, but finding guys who can actually relate to you IRL.

 

[Nihilisticel]

Making friends is much easier than getting a gf. Maybe the problem for you isnt making friends, but finding guys who can actually relate to you IRL.

True. Plus like I said where I live (dc) people are unfriendly and cliquish and aren’t into making new friends

 

[Deleted member 21219]

True. Plus like I said where I live (dc) people are unfriendly and cliquish and aren’t into making new friends

Americucks in general arent the friendliest of people. I remember going there for the first time (university) and wondering why noone talks to each other.

 

[1680]

If I could socialize with new people and actually hold equal conversations, my life would be a technicolored dream world compared to my lifestyle now.

 

[Deleted member 6753]

you were outcast BECAUSE you're an incel.

i know because i had friends until 12/13 then when everyone went thru puberty and became better looking/more masculine than me I was left behind and friendless.

 

[Deleted member 21218]

I have friends and acquaintances. I could be more social , But i'm depressed and can't stand many of them.

My friends annoy pretty bad sometimes ngl

 

[Deleted member 21514]

You don't have friend because ur ugly and probably autistic

 

[Nihilisticel]

You don't have friend because ur ugly and probably autistic

This might be true

 

[esoteric]

Atomic cope.

if you were chad/chadlite foids wouldve still came to you

 

[Antisocialloner]

Haven't had friends since high school. I agree that being unable to make 1 single friend over the course of years is torture.

i know uglier men than me have at least 1/2 friends, only my socially retarded ass cant seem to make any...sad shit man, when even your personality is as ugly as your face, im ugly in and out, cant even communicate normally with other people. Im so fucked

 

[Emba]

I never had friends AT ALL, only acquaintances. I have been a social outcast since I was like 8 or 9. I only had two best friends through the 4th and 6th grade, who I have never talked to in 8 years.

That's metoo! My "friends" are just acquaintances. Even though ive known them for decades!

I send them revelant texts with links to stuff they might enjoy, and i might get rewarded with a thanks, 3 weeks later. If I'm lucky.

 

[Nihilisticel]

Atomic cope.

if you were chad/chadlite foids wouldve still came to you

Maybe smh

 

[overformanlets]

Not sure if making male friends has much to do with your looks tbh. I know looks inevitably permeate into every aspect of your life, but men arent as harsh as women when it comes to looks.

ya males are less strict but only if u resemble some form of masculinity, most dont want to associate with a serial-killer looking deathnic. Also whenever a hot girl comes by it turns into free-for-all for soys, they'll avoid u to make themselves look better.

 

[Nihilisticel]

ya males are less strict but only if u resemble some form of masculinity, most dont want to associate with a serial-killer looking deathnic. Also whenever a hot girl comes by it turns into free-for-all for soys, they'll avoid u to make themselves look better.

Exactly lol

 

[Words2_live_bye]

This is one of my main reasons for being incel/having no friends/having no girlfriend/having social anxiety. But even if i had a great personality and all my social anxiety went away, i'd still be 5'6 with a 4 inch penis and recessed chin

 

[TINMAN]

You have it backwards, you are a social outcast because you are an incel, or more specifically because you are ugly, not the other way around. What you are doing is like someone always seeing fire trucks at the scene of a fire and assuming that they cause fires.