Serious Anyone else here try "putting yourself out there" and "getting hobbies"?

[KingOfRome]

Assuming you shower-shave, dress like a normie, hide your power level, and all that.

When I tried this hoping to make friends, I could never get past the "passing acquaintance" stage. Not for lack of trying, either. Nobody would bother with me outside the hobby space even when we were otherwise cordial. There was already an inner circle of friends that, like the 3/10 landwhales on Tinder, I could not penetrate. If it was my personality, why would anyone be cordial with me? Wouldn't I be unwelcome in the hobby space itself, rather than just in the inner circle?

If you're not already in established social circles by age 20, it's over, LDAR.

 

[Deleted member 16809]

I have hobbies but they are so autistic that only truecel norwooding 30 year olds do them or aspies, I never know what normies usually mean by "hobbies", do they mean stuff like watching soccer?

 

[Deleted member 15752]

There is no shower-shave, dress like a normie, hide your power level theory for your face

 

[Gyros_Pretcel]

Didn't even manage to get male friends from nerdhobbies.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

It's swear it's basically impossible to make irl friends in your 20s, don't even know how you're even supposed to go about it. Perhaps I shouldn't have ghosted the couple of """"""friends"""""" I did have when I was 18-19, but they always treated me like shit and as if I was less important than anyone else present, they weren't real friends. Plus they're all turbonormies now, and I'm a manchild, not to mention any real life mention of relationships unironically physically hurts me.

 

[Modus Coperandi]

All the friend I ever had were virgins like me. But every single one of them left me to rot after they got a gf.
It is possible to get loser-friends as an incel, but it's not worth it. they will just keep you down.

just accept that it's our fate to rot in silence.

 

[Insomniac]

All the best friends I made were in elementary and middle school. Haven’t really made any friends since then.

 

[GoonCel]

There is no shower-shave, dress like a normie, hide your power level theory for your face

 

[blond_elf_bard]

Assuming you shower-shave, dress like a normie, hide your power level, and all that.

When I tried this hoping to make friends, I could never get past the "passing acquaintance" stage. Not for lack of trying, either. Nobody would bother with me outside the hobby space even when we were otherwise cordial. There was already an inner circle of friends that, like the 3/10 landwhales on Tinder, I could not penetrate. If it was my personality, why would anyone be cordial with me? Wouldn't I be unwelcome in the hobby space itself, rather than just in the inner circle?

If you're not already in established social circles by age 20, it's over, LDAR.

first one yes, second one no not really

 

[Napoleon de Nascar]

And where to go? To weebs, or metalheads? Both full of simpcucks, no good girls, better cunts taken by chads, and roasties or ugly fat begemots I do not want. And I'm "too old" for girls, and friends always failing to help, with their constant "look for woman your age"
Had friends, lost friends, skrew them with all roasties

Simcucks, roasties, and roastie propaganda everywhere

 

[KingOfRome]

and roasties or ugly fat begemots I do not want

volcel reee

 

[AloneOnSpeedDial]

i just got back from months of trying so hard to "put myself out there." the best you'll ever be able to find is the group of dejects that are only bound by their autism and virginity. i found some like minded people in my CS class but we are all close to rope

 

[Bangkok or bust]

I've said it before and i'll say it again: most "normies" have a group of 20 to 30 people they meet between 16-21 years of age in college and university. This then becomes your social netwrok for the next 20-30 years. You only make acquaintances through work in your mid 20's and 30's. These acquaintenaces don't invite single men out, they invite couples or single women.

People never mention this in the aftermath of incel spree killers as a possible cause. But its true. Few wants to know you if your male, over 25, not a chad, and struggling to get a woman/single. Talk about kicking a dog when its down.

 

[Michael15651]

It's difficult to interact with others.

 

[Deleted member 6753]

I've said it before and i'll say it again: most "normies" have a group of 20 to 30 people they meet between 16-21 years of age in college and university. This then becomes your social netwrok for the next 20-30 years. You only make acquaintances through work in your mid 20's and 30's. These acquaintenaces don't invite single men out, they invite couples or single women.

People never mention this in the aftermath of incel spree killers as a possible cause. But its true. Few wants to know you if your male, over 25, not a chad, and struggling to get a woman/single. Talk about kicking a dog when its down.

that cant be true. I dont have 20 freaking phone contacts.

 

[Valiant Virgin]

Yep. I'm still in touch with a few friends from school, but we never make plans to see each other. No-one ever messages me asking to do something. I'm just not seen as someone with whom people want to hang out.

 

[Lubricure]

If it was my personality, why would anyone be cordial with me? Wouldn't I be unwelcome in the hobby space itself, rather than just in the inner circle?

Most people are polite just because it turns useful not to make enemies out there, instinct I would say. I realized that about friends, personality has an influence because people want either to cope or have fun, more often both at the same time. So, you have to appear happy and lively. Which is very difficult, if you don´t get sex and you´re incel. However, I noticed that looks and, to a minor extent physical fitness, exert a significant influence. It´s not a random occurrence that chad has an insanely high number of friends. Halo effect is a thing.

Nowadays it is also hard making friends since there are so many stimuli that people get distracted and forget about you. In closing, at least from a personal standpoint, I find really pointless having friends whom I can´t go full blackpill. So I have few selected friends. Socializing more than necessary equates to be forced to gaze at a distance to pussy that can never be had, therefore even more pain and sorrow.

 

[BottleFly]

Go to the same hobby space, and initiate no interactions. See who initiates interactions with you, unprompted. Good way to separate people who tolerate you and people who enjoy your company.

 

[RopeIsMyLove]

I have hobbies but they are so autistic that only truecel norwooding 30 year olds do them or aspies, I never know what normies usually mean by "hobbies", do they mean stuff like watching soccer?

Chad can be into ornithology or assyriology and foids will be all wet over his hobbies.

There is no hobby for your face.

 

[Deleted member 17997]

I started indoor rock climbing about a year ago and I managed to make some friends. Didn't really work in regards to foids though if that's what you're wondering.

 

[KingOfRome]

Go to the same hobby space, and initiate no interactions. See who initiates interactions with you, unprompted. Good way to separate people who tolerate you and people who enjoy your company.

I did this most of the time. Besides the usual "hello" and "goodbye" I was pretty much just left alone.

 

[Deleted member 1039]

Went to a videogame club at uni a couple of times and thought I would fit in with the other gamers and nerds. Got ignored and excluded. Never again.

 

[Shower_Taker]

I've said it before and i'll say it again: most "normies" have a group of 20 to 30 people they meet between 16-21 years of age in college and university. This then becomes your social netwrok for the next 20-30 years. You only make acquaintances through work in your mid 20's and 30's. These acquaintenaces don't invite single men out, they invite couples or single women.

People never mention this in the aftermath of incel spree killers as a possible cause. But its true. Few wants to know you if your male, over 25, not a chad, and struggling to get a woman/single. Talk about kicking a dog when its down.

This post. Absolute truth.

 

[Deleted member 15737]

Went to a videogame club at uni a couple of times and thought I would fit in with the other gamers and nerds. Got ignored and excluded. Never again.

I went to a gamer meetup and it was just a bunch of normies, not even one person I could relate to. I went to a tabletop meetup and it was soy boys and landwhales with purple hair.

I have no idea where to find people like me, maybe they don’t exist outside of this forum. A personality test I took said I relate to 1 in 70,000 people, average is 1 in 220.

 

[Deleted member 301]

There is no shower-shave, dress like a normie, hide your power level theory for your face