Anybody else got this problem? What's it called?

[Deleted member 7448]

Ok so basically I can't just ... do things. I get this overwhelming feeling of ... I don't know what to call it, but let me describe it.

For example, I can't just browse the internet. No, that feels too ... quiet. I wouldn't say lonely, cause I'm very antisocial and avoidant of people. But it feels too quiet and almost lonely, so I have to have something in the background, like a sitcom or something.

And I get bored very, very fast and hard. So it's a two-layered problem. It feels too quiet and almost lonely, and it gets boring very fast.

Can't even play video games cause of this for example. A video game by itself isn't enough to keep this feeling from creeping in. I have to also have a sitcom blaring in the background in order to play a game. It's made me unable to play a lot of games cause I can't focus on the game nor on the thing that I'm listening in the background, so I don't get proper enjoyment from both. Seriously, I can't even play games for hours anymore, it just becomes too boring.

Anyway, it does affect things more important than video games. Anything productive is 100 times harder because of this. It's like my mind is unable to bear even for a second just doing boring things. It literally feels like torture. So unless it's something that I can do automatically and have my mind escape into listening to a tv show or something, then it will be a very hard thing to get through.

Obviously working feels like shit and it's the worst, but I basically become anxious and uncomfortable from anything but laying in bed and vegetating with a sitcom blaring. Any activity besides my mind shutting off and watching something comedic or lighthearted is very uncomfortable.

 

[GoffSystemQB]

Browsing the internet is very easy for me or at least forums and reddit, but just about anything else gives me anxiety and is not just easy to do. Yes, even stuff like anime and video games. I have stopped watching series that I enjoyed due to having anxiety over it or finishing it.

 

[Deleted member 24256]

Apathy
Or depression
I struggle with apathy

 

[Cowcel]

Yes, I enjoy being lonely but it feels weird how the room is so quiet so I use background music all the time.
I get bored easily as well.

 

[Deleted member 21883]

I usually listen to a documentary or something in the background while gaming.

 

[TheNEET]

I almost always have something with a voice in the background: ASMR, podcast or a video (SoyTube, TV show etc.) in Picture-in-Picture mode

 

[Deleted member 27249]

Same exactly. Nothing feels right. I can't quiet sit and finish a video game. I feel uncomfertable. Like something is wrong. I should be doing something else

 

[EeEcel]

ur tank of copefuel is @ E bruh

 

[Deleted member 27159]

I only have this feeling when I have to study. It just feels like torture.

 

[ldargoblin]

That would annoy the shit out of me. All I need is a cup of tea.

 

[ThoughtfulCel]

Browsing the internet is very easy for me or at least forums and reddit, but just about anything else gives me anxiety and is not just easy to do. Yes, even stuff like anime and video games. I have stopped watching series that I enjoyed due to having anxiety over it or finishing it.

Dude i feel you on this. Im limiting myself to 12-13 episode anime specifically because of this

 

[Billowel]

i do that when it feels like i am wasting my time or i am overly anxious about something.life on earth is horrible

 

[Deleted member 22572]

I'm like this but I have to have a podcast or YouTube video in the background no matter what I do to cope with the lonliness

 

[Transcended Trucel]

Ok so basically I can't just ... do things. I get this overwhelming feeling of ... I don't know what to call it, but let me describe it.

For example, I can't just browse the internet. No, that feels too ... quiet. I wouldn't say lonely, cause I'm very antisocial and avoidant of people. But it feels too quiet and almost lonely, so I have to have something in the background, like a sitcom or something.

And I get bored very, very fast and hard. So it's a two-layered problem. It feels too quiet and almost lonely, and it gets boring very fast.

Can't even play video games cause of this for example. A video game by itself isn't enough to keep this feeling from creeping in. I have to also have a sitcom blaring in the background in order to play a game. It's made me unable to play a lot of games cause I can't focus on the game nor on the thing that I'm listening in the background, so I don't get proper enjoyment from both. Seriously, I can't even play games for hours anymore, it just becomes too boring.

Anyway, it does affect things more important than video games. Anything productive is 100 times harder because of this. It's like my mind is unable to bear even for a second just doing boring things. It literally feels like torture. So unless it's something that I can do automatically and have my mind escape into listening to a tv show or something, then it will be a very hard thing to get through.

Obviously working feels like shit and it's the worst, but I basically become anxious and uncomfortable from anything but laying in bed and vegetating with a sitcom blaring. Any activity besides my mind shutting off and watching something comedic or lighthearted is very uncomfortable.

you likey have some maybe weird derivative of ADHD and OCD type shit

 

[Deleted member 28708]

I get bored easily as well.

 

[grondilu]

I think you simply lack motivation.

You say you can't even do productive stuff, I say it's because you don't truly think they are productive, and since they would probably bring you no joy nor even satisfaction, you're arguably right.

 

[Caesercel]

I guess its just lack of social interaction. I have lived with other people in small homes so this doesn't come up. Humans have to be around other people, atleast for some time, for their minds to work properly. Maybe if obe starts living alone like you this feeling would creep in

 

[RREEEEEEEEE]

Clearly, it stems from the loneliness. You may brush it off, but, ultimately, that's exactly what it comes down to. Without any background noise, you are left with that one, haunting noise: quietness. You are doing everything you can to suppress it, but it's only temporary before you realize it's a mere distraction anyway, so you search for something else to fill that void. It's an endless cycle. Maybe, somehow along the path, this evolved into a classic case of OCD: obsessive compulsive disorder. You are obsessed with drowning the quiet, but, you also know that you don't need the other to do it, yet, you still do it. That's where the compulsiveness comes to play. If you, however, actually thought you needed it, then, it wouldn't and couldn't be classified as a compulsion.

 

[coldmachinery]

Noticed this happening to me in the past year or two. Can't focus on a game without a podcast or music in the background. I think it's just the reality of copes: short term solutions. I can still get enjoyment out of a video game, especially an older one, but the days of losing myself for hours are long gone.

 

[Hate_my_life]

Its called being a phaggot.

Cant say that I have it though OP.

 

[Lebensmüder]

Ok so basically I can't just ... do things. I get this overwhelming feeling of ... I don't know what to call it, but let me describe it.

For example, I can't just browse the internet. No, that feels too ... quiet. I wouldn't say lonely, cause I'm very antisocial and avoidant of people. But it feels too quiet and almost lonely, so I have to have something in the background, like a sitcom or something.

And I get bored very, very fast and hard. So it's a two-layered problem. It feels too quiet and almost lonely, and it gets boring very fast.

Can't even play video games cause of this for example. A video game by itself isn't enough to keep this feeling from creeping in. I have to also have a sitcom blaring in the background in order to play a game. It's made me unable to play a lot of games cause I can't focus on the game nor on the thing that I'm listening in the background, so I don't get proper enjoyment from both. Seriously, I can't even play games for hours anymore, it just becomes too boring.

Anyway, it does affect things more important than video games. Anything productive is 100 times harder because of this. It's like my mind is unable to bear even for a second just doing boring things. It literally feels like torture. So unless it's something that I can do automatically and have my mind escape into listening to a tv show or something, then it will be a very hard thing to get through.

Obviously working feels like shit and it's the worst, but I basically become anxious and uncomfortable from anything but laying in bed and vegetating with a sitcom blaring. Any activity besides my mind shutting off and watching something comedic or lighthearted is very uncomfortable.

This, I can really relate to that. I often do many things at the same time. And I also like to talk with myself. When I google something I often have a documentary in the background.

 

[mänline]

I think part of messed up dopamine system by habit (kind of addiction), part ingrained in human nature, which has no peace in the heart until it is found in God. Maybe there is a small voice in you, which you constantly drown out by external noises.

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”



Blaise Pascal wrote in PASCAL’S PENSÉES

Diversion.—When I have occasionally set myself to consider the different distractions of men, the pains and perils to which they expose themselves at court or in war, whence arise so many quarrels, passions, bold and often bad ventures, etc., I have discovered that all the unhappiness of men arises from one single fact, that they cannot stay quietly in their own chamber. A man who has enough to live on, if he knew how to stay with pleasure at home, would not leave it to go to sea or to besiege a town. A commission in the army would not be bought so dearly, but that it is found insufferable not to budge from the town; and men only seek conversation and entering games, because they cannot remain with pleasure at home. . . .

Hence it comes that men so much love noise and stir; hence it comes that the prison is so horrible a punishment; hence it comes that the pleasure of solitude is a thing incomprehensible. And it is in fact the greatest source of happiness in the condition of kings, that men try incessantly to divert them, and to procure for them all kinds of pleasures.

The king is surrounded by persons whose only thought is to divert the king, and to prevent his thinking of self. For he is unhappy, king though he be, if he think of himself.

This is all that men have been able to discover to make themselves happy. And those who philosophise on the matter, and who think men unreasonable for spending a whole day in chasing a hare which they would not have bought, scarce know our nature. The hare in itself would not screen us from the sight of death and calamities; but the chase which turns away our attention from these, does screen us. . . .

Men seek rest in a struggle against difficulties; and when they have conquered these, rest becomes insufferable. . . .

Thus so wretched is man that he would weary even without any cause for weariness from the peculiar state of his disposition; and so frivolous is he, that, though full of a thousand reasons for weariness, the least thing, such as playing billiards or hitting a ball, is sufficient to amuse him.

 

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Learned helplessness - Wikipedia

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[Deleted member 29230]

Lack of irl friends to do shit with