Based [Advice] How to get over your oneitis.

[DoomThreeKoala]

Hello there.

I'm writing this for two reasons. The first is I'm in a lecture right now and I want something to pass the time. The second is I want to help brocels/lurkers if they're suffering from oneitis.

If you're a lurker and unfamiliar with the term, read this spoiler:

Spoiler

When we say "oneitis" here, we're referring to very strong, prolonged crushes on another person. That crush is the person's oneitis. If oneitis is not remedied quickly, it can sometimes last for years.

So now onto the meat and potatoes of this thread.

The first thing you need to do is delete the rosy image of her you have in your head. That is nothing more than an idealised version of someone who barely even, if at all, knows you. You need to realise your feelings about your oneitis are unreciprocated, and she almost certainly looks at you with disgust if she even knows you.

Instead, like almost all women these days, she has been blown out multiple times by men who mog you into oblivion. She is nothing more than a used up roastie by now. It's simply not worth the effort for you to keep desiring your oneitis.

Also, ask yourself: Why do you still want your oneitis? Have you had her as your oneitis since HS? If that's the case I feel this is because you're frustrated you missed out on teen love. You're absolutely justified in feeling this, however, you also need to realise that the damage from missing teen love isn't going to be permanent before age 25. Missing out on teen love is brutal, but it's not completely the end of the world.

If you do end up ascending, it almost certainly won't be with your oneitis, it'll be with some other woman who isn't attracted to you and just wants what you're providing (usually money) (basically you'll be an oofy doofy). Plus if you have hope of ascending you probably shouldn't be here.

Thanks for reading this.

 

[EcstasyCel]

Yeah but you got to realize she only really becomes someone's oneitis if she already treated that person much better than what they're used to.

 

[Grodd]

I never had a oneitis fortunately.

 

[DoomThreeKoala]

I never had a oneitis fortunately.

That's very good to hear.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Oneitis is mainly formed because you spend too many time idealizing the girl in question.

Why so?
Because from the moment you meet her for the first time, your brain thinks about her. And if you think about her without doing anything with her, your brain will imagine things.

The longer you wonder if she likes you or not, the longer you'll think there's a genuine possibility that she does. The longer you live in delusion, the harder you'll be struck by the harsh reality.

One advice I'd give to oneitiscels: ask her out. And ask her out quickly enough so you didn't lost months or years dreaming about what could have been.

If you wait for too long, she will have permanently invaded your brain and your thoughts. And getting rid of oneitis at that point is like getting rid of terminal cancer.

 

[DoomThreeKoala]

Oneitis is mainly formed because you spend too many time idealizing the girl in question.

Why so?
Because from the moment you meet her for the first time, your brain thinks about her. And if you think about her without doing anything with her, your brain will imagine things.

The longer you wonder if she likes you or not, the longer you'll think there's a genuine possibility that she does. The longer you live in delusion, the harder you'll be struck by the harsh reality.

One advice I'd give to oneitiscels: ask her out. And ask her out quickly enough so you didn't lost months or years dreaming about what could have been.

If you wait for too long, she will have permanently invaded your brain and your thoughts. And getting rid of oneitis at that point is like getting rid of terminal cancer.

Interesting. It gets worse as it is left untreated.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Interesting. It gets worse as it is left untreated.

Exactly

 

[Karlicel]

Hello there.

I'm writing this for two reasons. The first is I'm in a lecture right now and I want something to pass the time. The second is I want to help brocels/lurkers if they're suffering from oneitis.

If you're a lurker and unfamiliar with the term, read this spoiler:

Spoiler

When we say "oneitis" here, we're referring to very strong, prolonged crushes on another person. That crush is the person's oneitis. If oneitis is not remedied quickly, it can sometimes last for years.

So now onto the meat and potatoes of this thread.

The first thing you need to do is delete the rosy image of her you have in your head. That is nothing more than an idealised version of someone who barely even, if at all, knows you. You need to realise your feelings about your oneitis are unreciprocated, and she almost certainly looks at you with disgust if she even knows you.

Instead, like almost all women these days, she has been blown out multiple times by men who mog you into oblivion. She is nothing more than a used up roastie by now. It's simply not worth the effort for you to keep desiring your oneitis.

Also, ask yourself: Why do you still want your oneitis? Have you had her as your oneitis since HS? If that's the case I feel this is because you're frustrated you missed out on teen love. You're absolutely justified in feeling this, however, you also need to realise that the damage from missing teen love isn't going to be permanent before age 25. Missing out on teen love is brutal, but it's not completely the end of the world.

If you do end up ascending, it almost certainly won't be with your oneitis, it'll be with some other woman who isn't attracted to you and just wants what you're providing (usually money) (basically you'll be an oofy doofy). Plus if you have hope of ascending you probably shouldn't be here.

Thanks for reading this.

watER

 

[IWWorkER]

ask her out

 

[NormieCelll]

The only times I've had an oneitis was in school before I was blackpilled, nowadays I only see foids as sex objects and I know before I even talk to one that she'll reject me / think I'm subhuman, so the thought of me being in a relationship doesn't even cross my mind, only the sex part

But ig these might be good advices for someone who has a long term oneitis from before he was blackpilled

 

[StoryOfMyLaugh]

I remember watching a Dark Web video where a user asked how to get over a crush, and a user responded to think about their imperfections. Great advice.

And yeah, all Oneitisis are blown OUT by chad.

 

[DoomThreeKoala]

I remember watching a Dark Web video where a user asked how to get over a crush, and a user responded to think about their imperfections. Great advice.

And yeah, all Oneitisis are blown OUT by chad.

 

[Moth]

if you have hope of ascending you probably shouldn't be here.

If you have hope of ascending bur you're wasting your time rotting on here, do yourself a favour and delete your account. If you keep rotting here, you could very well miss your chance.

 

[Moth]

Hello there.

I'm writing this for two reasons. The first is I'm in a lecture right now and I want something to pass the time. The second is I want to help brocels/lurkers if they're suffering from oneitis.

If you're a lurker and unfamiliar with the term, read this spoiler:

Spoiler

When we say "oneitis" here, we're referring to very strong, prolonged crushes on another person. That crush is the person's oneitis. If oneitis is not remedied quickly, it can sometimes last for years.

So now onto the meat and potatoes of this thread.

The first thing you need to do is delete the rosy image of her you have in your head. That is nothing more than an idealised version of someone who barely even, if at all, knows you. You need to realise your feelings about your oneitis are unreciprocated, and she almost certainly looks at you with disgust if she even knows you.

Instead, like almost all women these days, she has been blown out multiple times by men who mog you into oblivion. She is nothing more than a used up roastie by now. It's simply not worth the effort for you to keep desiring your oneitis.

Also, ask yourself: Why do you still want your oneitis? Have you had her as your oneitis since HS? If that's the case I feel this is because you're frustrated you missed out on teen love. You're absolutely justified in feeling this, however, you also need to realise that the damage from missing teen love isn't going to be permanent before age 25. Missing out on teen love is brutal, but it's not completely the end of the world.

If you do end up ascending, it almost certainly won't be with your oneitis, it'll be with some other woman who isn't attracted to you and just wants what you're providing (usually money) (basically you'll be an oofy doofy). Plus if you have hope of ascending you probably shouldn't be here.

Thanks for reading this.

Pinworthy.

 

[parzival]

Needed to hear this

 

[Zionist]

Still trying to figure that out after 14 fucking years

 

[gluttony]

Be like me and think it's retarded because i don't care about obsessing over one person.

 

[DoomThreeKoala]

Be like me and think it's retarded because i don't care about obsessing over one person.

 

[Caichan]

I know it’s irrational but I still do it tbh

 

[Targus700]

Oneitis is mainly formed because you spend too many time idealizing the girl in question.

Why so?
Because from the moment you meet her for the first time, your brain thinks about her. And if you think about her without doing anything with her, your brain will imagine things.

The longer you wonder if she likes you or not, the longer you'll think there's a genuine possibility that she does. The longer you live in delusion, the harder you'll be struck by the harsh reality.

One advice I'd give to oneitiscels: ask her out. And ask her out quickly enough so you didn't lost months or years dreaming about what could have been.

If you wait for too long, she will have permanently invaded your brain and your thoughts. And getting rid of oneitis at that point is like getting rid of terminal cancer.

Can attest to this, word for word. It's too late for me regardless. Her idealised version has fully taken over my subconscious after more than a decade.

I'd trade for cancer with this genuinely. Atleast cancer has the kindness to end the suffering rather than be tortured mentally indefinitely.

 

[The Death Devil]

All of my oneitises have been fictional anime girls. I had a few crushes back in elementary, but for whatever reason I always treated them like trash LMFAO.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Can attest to this, word for word. It's too late for me regardless. Her idealised version has fully taken over my subconscious after more than a decade.

I'd trade for cancer with this genuinely. Atleast cancer has the kindness to end the suffering rather than be tortured mentally indefinitely.

 

[Sir Silentium]

I made a post about a year or so ago on the same topic, how to get over a oneitis. I mentioned how it helped me but it was honestly cope. I can't do basic daily tasks because of it. It's terrible but I don't want to be medicated for it

 

[spud_tard]

I remember that I really crushed on a ugly girl with anorexia and was obsessed with her because she talked to me like if I wasn't a loser, she even give her phone number to me. Then she blocked me for NO FUCKING REASONS, I was so obsessed with her, but when I trolled her (I wasn't even mean on this troll, I was just tried to pass like a weirdo just for fun) with a different number because I hated the fact that she blocked me without even explaining why, she was so stupid and answered to all the obvious red flag that I no longer have a oneitis