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5 Life lessons I´ve learned in 30 years of living on this planet

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1. The things that matter most are the things you have zero control over

race, height, face, talent, genes etc...

2. Hard work never pays off if you don´t have talent

Growing up I was aspiring hard to become a pro athlete. I developed an insane work ethic and worked ridiculous hours. I didn´t just work "hard", I also worked smart and put myself through tons very deliberate practice. I did this for years, but once I realized that others with far less drive who also practiced ineffectively and put in less than 1/10th of the work I was putting in were running circles around me it was just another realization to me how incredibly unfair life is. I got called a headcase who just didn´t want it bad enough while the other lazy bums with talent were admired for their grit and determination to succeed. Just rofl at life.

3. Getting a hot gf is just as hard as becoming an Olympic Gold Medal winner

By that I mean that it is very easy if you are good looking enough. Same in sports, if you were born with perfect genes for your sport you will just fly above everyone else despite working less or just as hard on your game as the competition. Pretty much all of the sports superstars already dominated everyone while they were still kids. It´s the same in dating. Prime Nick Bateman could effortlessly get a hot gf within 10 mins from online dating while a short, balding, ugly noname Asian could literally approach 1 million hot white girls for years and get rejected by every single one of them.

4. The rich get richer and poor get poorer

See point number 1. If you were dealt a shit hand in life you have to accept that things will never improve because it´s the things that matter most in life that you have no control over. As a matter of fact the older you get the worse things will become for you. The only happy end for incels is death.

5. Chads think they are great because of their own doing

The ultimate irony in life is that society tells chad that he is always winning and fucking all the hot girls because of his personality, charm and supreme confidence while incels who actually do have kind and likeable personalities always get blamed for everything. Chad acts like a cocky, arrogant prick and people love him for it. Everytime an incel fails it´s because of something they did wrong completely ignoring the whole picture.

It´s like walking up to the parents of a 400 million dollar lottery winner and praising them for raising such a great and successful person. Then walking up to someones parents whos son didn´t win the lottery and telling them "Man, your son will never go anywhere in life. He just needs to apply himself more. He just doesn´t want the jackpot bad enough."
 
1. The things that matter most are the things you have zero control over

race, height, face, talent, genes etc...
That’s what hurts the most.
 
1. if you're not white, JFL and you might aswell rope
 
Fellow oldcel here. Yup. It's all genes and luck.
 
#3 I dont agree with. The rest I do. I relate to your experience.
 
Number 2 is brutal... what sport were you into?

At least you realised the truth and gave up, rather than spend your whole life failing.
 
#5 get me so much, it’s like how famous people get everything for free :feelstastyman:
 
1. The things that matter most are the things you have zero control over

race, height, face, talent, genes etc...

2. Hard work never pays off if you don´t have talent

Growing up I was aspiring hard to become a pro athlete. I developed an insane work ethic and worked ridiculous hours. I didn´t just work "hard", I also worked smart and put myself through tons very deliberate practice. I did this for years, but once I realized that others with far less drive who also practiced ineffectively and put in less than 1/10th of the work I was putting in were running circles around me it was just another realization to me how incredibly unfair life is. I got called a headcase who just didn´t want it bad enough while the other lazy bums with talent were admired for their grit and determination to succeed. Just rofl at life.

3. Getting a hot gf is just as hard as becoming an Olympic Gold Medal winner

By that I mean that it is very easy if you are good looking enough. Same in sports, if you were born with perfect genes for your sport you will just fly above everyone else despite working less or just as hard on your game as the competition. Pretty much all of the sports superstars already dominated everyone while they were still kids. It´s the same in dating. Prime Nick Bateman could effortlessly get a hot gf within 10 mins from online dating while a short, balding, ugly noname Asian could literally approach 1 million hot white girls for years and get rejected by every single one of them.

4. The rich get richer and poor get poorer

See point number 1. If you were dealt a shit hand in life you have to accept that things will never improve because it´s the things that matter most in life that you have no control over. As a matter of fact the older you get the worse things will become for you. The only happy end for incels is death.

5. Chads think they are great because of their own doing

The ultimate irony in life is that society tells chad that he is always winning and fucking all the hot girls because of his personality, charm and supreme confidence while incels who actually do have kind and likeable personalities always get blamed for everything. Chad acts like a cocky, arrogant prick and people love him for it. Everytime an incel fails it´s because of something they did wrong completely ignoring the whole picture.

It´s like walking up to the parents of a 400 million dollar lottery winner and praising them for raising such a great and successful person. Then walking up to someones parents whos son didn´t win the lottery and telling them "Man, your son will never go anywhere in life. He just needs to apply himself more. He just doesn´t want the jackpot bad enough."

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Well said.

Unfortunately all true and all things I have come to realize myself too.
 
Wow, jesus. That's what I've learned in my 36 years too!

I fucking hate people who accuse failures of 'just not working hard enough.' I fucking hated myself for so long because I fucking believed them. They just can't accept that their world-view is wrong, and instead kick people who are already down.

It's like all of us have a teeny tiny bit of wiggle room in our lives, in terms of what we can be and achieve. The game was rigged from the moment we were born. Fuck it all to hell.
 
I wholeheartedly agree OP.
 
I worked all this out by 18. Life is a piece of shit and I can't wait to die.
 
This is all my anxieties and the like ten fold.
 
I realised this in games too. My friend who I introduced to csgo became better than me in 100 hours despite my several hundred hours at the time, he never played pc shooters too, mainly console games. Hes been global for a long time now and i cant even go beyond dmg despite thousands of hours
 
Brutal blackest pill.

1 and 2 will make even the most black pilled have difficulty accepting it.
 
If you legitimately are going to kill yourself, you should try gambling with everything you have. You either become rich or die poor.
 
Those blackpills reminds me of a Simpsons episode where Burns asks Homer to cheat in a race with him, as Homer doubts Burns says "Why should the race be won by the swift, or the jumble by the quick witted, should they win just because of the gifts God has given them? I say cheating is a gift man gives him self".
 
The 'all hard work' meme blupilled normies spew is enraging


Its similar to when you get athletes saying it was all hard work. Sure, i dont deny they put in alot of hard work, but their genetics determine whether they will make it to an elite level or not. Normies fail take notice of the insane amounts of people that failed at whatever endeavour it was they were trying to master, and dont grasp that hard work doesnt always= success.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias

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Self delusion is also an evolutionary trait, most people will never admit they're below average when it comes to anything in life. And this is why people will spew the bluepill "you just didnt work hard enough". Its actually more comforting to think its because they didnt work hard enough, than to accept it was all rigged from the start due to their genetics.

It happens for many reasons: Others are too polite to say what they really think, incompetent people lack the skills to assess their abilities accurately, and such self-delusions can actually protect people's mental health, Dunning told LiveScience.

In studies, most people overestimate their IQ. For instance, in a classic 1977 study, 94 percent of professors rated themselves above average relative to their peers. In another study, 32 percent of the employees of a software company said they performed better than 19 out of 20 of their colleagues.
 
I worked all this out by 18
Same

But when you think about it, it makes sense that people from a younger generation realize these things earlier since things are getting worse, the older guys were born in times when it was easier to cope and you had cognitive dissonance to shield you.
 
"Why should the race be won by the swift, or the jumble by the quick witted, should they win just because of the gifts God has given them? I say cheating is a gift man gives him self".

I'm add this shit to my list of things I need to say, right up there with Dio's "How many breads have you eaten in your life?".
 
I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but most normies actually come to realize all this by the time they're 40. Have you seen the average 40yo man or woman? The average, not the Hollywood stereotype. A broken person who copes with alcohol and cigarettes, and watches TV between two mind-numbing days at work. Most of their dreams have failed to materialize, they know it and it kills a little more of their spirit every day.
 
Same

But when you think about it, it makes sense that people from a younger generation realize these things earlier since things are getting worse, the older guys were born in times when it was easier to cope and you had cognitive dissonance to shield you.

Very legit.
 
Indeed, no matter how much effort I put into learning to program I seem to plateau. There are these genius programmers that create software project after software project while I always end up not finishing anything I start.
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TFW you realise that the only free will you have, the only way to regain control over your life is to end it.
It's not even total free will because my circumstances are such that it's impossible not to kms at some point.
 
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which is why i always say fuck life
 

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