NotTheElliot
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If I had a dollar for every time we've all heard it. Whenever we talk about our hardships, our loneliness, or whatever, people always like to condescendingly lecture us. As if they're ANGRY at us for feeling this way. They tell us that us, and us alone, can shape who we are and our lot in life. And if we aren't swimming in pussy and rich, we're somehow at fault. But we're only a product of our environments, and what others do to us. Insinuating otherwise is just victim-blaming.
Let me put it this way: if you (figuratively) break some guy's legs, would it be fair to blame him and call him lazy for not getting up and running a marathon? That's basically the same as these idiots try saying.
I think it's fully fair and justified, if not necessary, to put the blame where it belongs. Parents, classmates, and other figures we come across. My dad didn't really show me what it meant to be a man, and never fully mentally matured until his own mother died. And both parents were obese, hardly bathed, and I don't recall ever seeing them brush their teeth, as a STARTER.
I have overall good relations with my parents--now--but that is an important factor. And then there are all the false friends, one of which I posted about earlier. I had to make myself into the man that I am, and I don't really have many to thank for that.
tl:dr; You absolutely CAN blame others for their negative actions, in how it affects you and your outlook on life.
Let me put it this way: if you (figuratively) break some guy's legs, would it be fair to blame him and call him lazy for not getting up and running a marathon? That's basically the same as these idiots try saying.
I think it's fully fair and justified, if not necessary, to put the blame where it belongs. Parents, classmates, and other figures we come across. My dad didn't really show me what it meant to be a man, and never fully mentally matured until his own mother died. And both parents were obese, hardly bathed, and I don't recall ever seeing them brush their teeth, as a STARTER.
I have overall good relations with my parents--now--but that is an important factor. And then there are all the false friends, one of which I posted about earlier. I had to make myself into the man that I am, and I don't really have many to thank for that.
tl:dr; You absolutely CAN blame others for their negative actions, in how it affects you and your outlook on life.