In a few conversations I've noticed it is a normal thing for many incels to say they can't "leave their life behind" (move to a different country) because of their attachments to friends and family members, this just sounds so blue pilled to me
I just find the whole "muh friends and family" excuse ridiculous, guess what they are all going to die anyways, it's completely illogical to make permanent decisions based on your attachments to temporary beings, you will never get those years back or the oppurtunities you missed based on the restrictions you placed on yourself for the sake of those attachments
Please tell me what you are objectively "giving up" by leaving friends or family behind?
All of you are individuals in separate bodies, while you restrict yourself and hold yourself back, your friends and family are very likely advancing their lives, and you'll wake up one day and they have children, hobbies, etc, many things that don't involve you and your path in life, and you are the same loser with nothing going on, but worse, you've lost a few years that you could have taken to start your new life
To restrict your actions and path in life for those attachments is one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make
You can never live your life based on other peoples plans, and you can't plan your life around what other people are doing or what you expect to happen to them, you could miss out on an opportunity for the sake of "remaining friends" and poof, those friends all die a few years later, now you are left with no friends AND you lost out on that opportunity AND you lost a few years that could have been spent making improvements to your life that have more permanence
You can only structure your life and goals around yourself, to do otherwise is foolishness, one of your friends could kill themselves tomorrow, you have to live for yourself
I do have close friends (they've become more normie tier over time though, I've ventured down another path) but what does that matter, if they are my friends or not makes no difference, were on different paths, one cannot be "unequally yoked", when they are dating I'm home alone wealthmaxxing, while they're getting engaged and getting married I'd be escortcelling, when they are raising their children i'll be relaxing and probably watching anime or playing video games lol, at what point are our lives going to "align" so that we can reconnect?
Here's the reality about most Incel friendships, your friends are either:
A. Like you (incel) and going nowhere in life (well when it pertains to normie goals)
B. Are more normie tier and are dating (so at some point you won't even be friends, they'll be bust raising kids, no time to "play" with some loser)
A lot of friends I knew basically ALL have children right now, we have nothing in common. One can't seriously let their life pass them by for people who are likely pursuing their own goals and leaving you behind (in their own way)
You may be afraid to "leave your friends behind", but take heed, they are already leaving you behind day by day, and one day you will wake up and realize this, its only you holding yourself back, they aren't going to not have kids and not date so you guys "remain friends" and hang out JFL
Those same friends that you will restrict yourself for will be telling you to "grow up" at some point and then you'll realize how much time you wasted, I never had that shit happen to me because I already knew what would happen with certain friendships, so I didn't waste my time, I barely contacted anyone to begin with, and surprise surprise as time went on they slowly stopped contacting me, because we "grew apart", we were on different life paths, very few friends are compatible with an "incel life", so thinking that you can keep all of your friends and family and be incel sounds like a joke to me
No incel should ever stifle their potential and hinder their own progress for the sake of "friendship"
Really ask yourself this:
Are you still in contact with ALL of your friends from kindergarten? (I doubt it, maybe one or two of them)
Are you still in contact with ALL of your friends from the primary level of education? (more likely, but still rare, you probably only contact like three to five if any at all)
Etc, etc, etc
NEWS FLASH - FRIENDSHIPS WERE TEMPORARY RELATIONSHIPS IN LIFE TO BEGIN WTIH
People like to say "family is forever", but we all have our own lives to live, this is why people have "family gatherings", because really and truly, as individuals with our own lives, we don't really have time for eachother, that's just a fact of reality
The only people who can become "permanent fixtures" in your life are people who are ON THE SAME PATH
If you keep holding yourself back just for the sake of "remaining friends" or "staying close to family", YOU ARE BLUE PILLED
Also none of those attachments have any real "strength" to them, real friends don't have to restrict themselves to "be on the same wave length" or be at similar "levels" in life, nor do family members
People become friends and they "grow apart", because were not all on the same path in life
IF YOU LET OTHER PEOPLE DETERMINE YOUR PATH
YOU LOSE THE RIGHT TO COMPLAIN ABOUT THE OUTCOME
I just find the whole "muh friends and family" excuse ridiculous, guess what they are all going to die anyways, it's completely illogical to make permanent decisions based on your attachments to temporary beings, you will never get those years back or the oppurtunities you missed based on the restrictions you placed on yourself for the sake of those attachments
Please tell me what you are objectively "giving up" by leaving friends or family behind?
All of you are individuals in separate bodies, while you restrict yourself and hold yourself back, your friends and family are very likely advancing their lives, and you'll wake up one day and they have children, hobbies, etc, many things that don't involve you and your path in life, and you are the same loser with nothing going on, but worse, you've lost a few years that you could have taken to start your new life
To restrict your actions and path in life for those attachments is one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make
You can never live your life based on other peoples plans, and you can't plan your life around what other people are doing or what you expect to happen to them, you could miss out on an opportunity for the sake of "remaining friends" and poof, those friends all die a few years later, now you are left with no friends AND you lost out on that opportunity AND you lost a few years that could have been spent making improvements to your life that have more permanence
You can only structure your life and goals around yourself, to do otherwise is foolishness, one of your friends could kill themselves tomorrow, you have to live for yourself
I do have close friends (they've become more normie tier over time though, I've ventured down another path) but what does that matter, if they are my friends or not makes no difference, were on different paths, one cannot be "unequally yoked", when they are dating I'm home alone wealthmaxxing, while they're getting engaged and getting married I'd be escortcelling, when they are raising their children i'll be relaxing and probably watching anime or playing video games lol, at what point are our lives going to "align" so that we can reconnect?
Here's the reality about most Incel friendships, your friends are either:
A. Like you (incel) and going nowhere in life (well when it pertains to normie goals)
B. Are more normie tier and are dating (so at some point you won't even be friends, they'll be bust raising kids, no time to "play" with some loser)
A lot of friends I knew basically ALL have children right now, we have nothing in common. One can't seriously let their life pass them by for people who are likely pursuing their own goals and leaving you behind (in their own way)
You may be afraid to "leave your friends behind", but take heed, they are already leaving you behind day by day, and one day you will wake up and realize this, its only you holding yourself back, they aren't going to not have kids and not date so you guys "remain friends" and hang out JFL
Those same friends that you will restrict yourself for will be telling you to "grow up" at some point and then you'll realize how much time you wasted, I never had that shit happen to me because I already knew what would happen with certain friendships, so I didn't waste my time, I barely contacted anyone to begin with, and surprise surprise as time went on they slowly stopped contacting me, because we "grew apart", we were on different life paths, very few friends are compatible with an "incel life", so thinking that you can keep all of your friends and family and be incel sounds like a joke to me
No incel should ever stifle their potential and hinder their own progress for the sake of "friendship"
Really ask yourself this:
Are you still in contact with ALL of your friends from kindergarten? (I doubt it, maybe one or two of them)
Are you still in contact with ALL of your friends from the primary level of education? (more likely, but still rare, you probably only contact like three to five if any at all)
Etc, etc, etc
NEWS FLASH - FRIENDSHIPS WERE TEMPORARY RELATIONSHIPS IN LIFE TO BEGIN WTIH
People like to say "family is forever", but we all have our own lives to live, this is why people have "family gatherings", because really and truly, as individuals with our own lives, we don't really have time for eachother, that's just a fact of reality
The only people who can become "permanent fixtures" in your life are people who are ON THE SAME PATH
If you keep holding yourself back just for the sake of "remaining friends" or "staying close to family", YOU ARE BLUE PILLED
Also none of those attachments have any real "strength" to them, real friends don't have to restrict themselves to "be on the same wave length" or be at similar "levels" in life, nor do family members
People become friends and they "grow apart", because were not all on the same path in life
IF YOU LET OTHER PEOPLE DETERMINE YOUR PATH
YOU LOSE THE RIGHT TO COMPLAIN ABOUT THE OUTCOME
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