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This is why it's incredibly crucial for a guy to get a girlfriend in highschool.
Let's take your average 15 year old girl and assume she just started dating at this point. She won't be as shallow for the following reasons:
-She lacks sexual/romantic experience, so she won't know what she's looking for.
-She's off limits to any guy above 18 because of the law, so she does not yet know her real market value.
-Most guys her age have not even finished puberty, so she has not yet developed a preference for height.
By the time she's done highschool however, she will have at least one relationship under her belt, maybe a couple hookups. She now has standards when it comes to what a good sexual experience should be like.
She turns 18, so suddenly she's on the market for literally every guy her age and 30+ (and you'd be surprised how many older guys hit up 18 year old girls). Before highschool she was mostly constrained to a few number of guys her age, and most of them were likely to shy to show any interest. Now she's getting hit up by so many guys and that changes her perception of herself. She now knows that she is very sexually valuable and can pick and choose who she can date. It's something most girls nowadays learn too once they use Tinder for the first time.
She enters her first year in University and by extension, her first opportunity to be hit up by attractive guys her age that want to smash. After a few of these encounters, she will definitely raise her physical standards to include the kind of guys she slept with. I mean, if Chad slept with her, why wouldn't he date her as well?
So now the guys she used to crush on in highschool won't cut it. She's now looking for a perfect guy who will date her long-term.
She might get it, might not. Usually what will happen is she'll be FWB with guys like this who let her go every time, and as she ages, she begins to have standards on personality AS WELL AS looks. So the standards keep piling up.
When a girl gets burned in a relationship, she doesn't end up thinking, "Well maybe I should focus on guys with a nice personality instead of hot guys", she thinks, "I should now look for a hot guy who is loyal with a good personality."
So year after year, her definition of what an acceptable partner is gets narrower and narrower.
After University, she starts looking at other aspects, like income, job, etc. She can't date guys with the same education as her, because that's settling.
So now she wants the hot guy who is loyal with a good personality who works as a doctor and makes a six figure salary.
Eventually these women learn that what they're looking for is unrealistic, but it doesn't mean that she'll forever resent whoever she has to settle for.
Let's take your average 15 year old girl and assume she just started dating at this point. She won't be as shallow for the following reasons:
-She lacks sexual/romantic experience, so she won't know what she's looking for.
-She's off limits to any guy above 18 because of the law, so she does not yet know her real market value.
-Most guys her age have not even finished puberty, so she has not yet developed a preference for height.
By the time she's done highschool however, she will have at least one relationship under her belt, maybe a couple hookups. She now has standards when it comes to what a good sexual experience should be like.
She turns 18, so suddenly she's on the market for literally every guy her age and 30+ (and you'd be surprised how many older guys hit up 18 year old girls). Before highschool she was mostly constrained to a few number of guys her age, and most of them were likely to shy to show any interest. Now she's getting hit up by so many guys and that changes her perception of herself. She now knows that she is very sexually valuable and can pick and choose who she can date. It's something most girls nowadays learn too once they use Tinder for the first time.
She enters her first year in University and by extension, her first opportunity to be hit up by attractive guys her age that want to smash. After a few of these encounters, she will definitely raise her physical standards to include the kind of guys she slept with. I mean, if Chad slept with her, why wouldn't he date her as well?
So now the guys she used to crush on in highschool won't cut it. She's now looking for a perfect guy who will date her long-term.
She might get it, might not. Usually what will happen is she'll be FWB with guys like this who let her go every time, and as she ages, she begins to have standards on personality AS WELL AS looks. So the standards keep piling up.
When a girl gets burned in a relationship, she doesn't end up thinking, "Well maybe I should focus on guys with a nice personality instead of hot guys", she thinks, "I should now look for a hot guy who is loyal with a good personality."
So year after year, her definition of what an acceptable partner is gets narrower and narrower.
After University, she starts looking at other aspects, like income, job, etc. She can't date guys with the same education as her, because that's settling.
So now she wants the hot guy who is loyal with a good personality who works as a doctor and makes a six figure salary.
Eventually these women learn that what they're looking for is unrealistic, but it doesn't mean that she'll forever resent whoever she has to settle for.
