f you consume a story, the hero stands out and above the other people in it. This is ingrained, they're special. This is what the human animal wants to believe, that they're special, and, again, this can only be achieved by standing out from other people. Stories can give us something to strive for, to believe in, but ultimately most people just aren't special. They're cogs in the machine. Only 33% even get a bachelor's degree, only 2% a ph.d., only 2% a professional degree, with probably half of those two degrees being sort not worth it in the end. Lawyers are paper pushers, ph.ds are entering fields that are increasing in competitiveness. I've seen postings for post doc positions as low as 40k per year. Most people that are going to be 'special', that stand out, are going to go through these paths, professional degrees, ph.ds, or perhaps an Ivy League, or equivalent, college, or a prestigious art school. People will try to point at Bill Gates, from a millionaire family, he went to a private prep school, he had a family that could afford a computer in the 70s, and he got into Harvard, and only dropped out because he had been programming from his early teens and had a vision. Or, genetically, you could look at Steve Jobs, who was adopted, but whose biological parents were both graduate students, and whose biological grandfather was a millionaire, and whose biological sister, who he didn't meet till his mid 20s, became a University professor at UCLA. Elon Musk has largely the same story as Bill Gates. Taught himself programming early, left college, though a ph.d., because he knew what he wanted and what didn't want. All these exceptions have similar things in common, they have successful families, they knew what they wanted from young age and were working towards it, they had a leg up etc. You can tell if someone is going to have a stand out life by the time they're 16 or so. Men learn to accept these things, that they're going to be a cog, that there's really nowhere for them to go. Not one of the 10% with an exceptional body (height + frame) or face (with avg height + frame), then no one is going to treat you like you matter. Next is career path, which includes college. No? Either didn't go to college, didn't go to a upper tier college, didn't major in something that'd propel you to high pay, or didn't excel in your major even if it was a worthwhile major? Not one of those 10%? Alright. And, you're not one of the 5% of people that has a hobby that you're great at, that you can publicly display that gives you value? Uh oh. So, at least 3/4s of men have to learn that they're not special from their late teens to their mid 20s. They learn to internalize this, because no one will treat them that they're special. Women hate them, or they compartmentalize and castrate them by putting them into a specific box. But women...they always get treated like they're special from a young age. They always are going to have some guy after them. It was better in high school, because only maybe the top 1/3rd of girls really were able to pull beta orbiters, with the next 1/3rd usually pulling one male 'friend' that was their bitch. And even the bottom third could find someone, somewhere to fuck them and call them pretty. Now, with the internet, it's much, much worse. They get on Tinder, and every other dating or attention seeking ('social') app. Now the 'you're special' flow never stops. It's a spigot that they turn on and off at will. I suppose this was always true, because they could always have found someone before, but now it's so much easier. Anytime a girl is challenged on whether or not she's special, she has a mechanism to maintain that illusion, and that is male attention, and to a lesser degree women's willingness to pat anything on the head that looks sad and to tell it that it's going to be alright and that they are, indeed, special. She breaks up with her boyfriend, posts on facebook, 9 comments show up within an hour, 3 from girlfriends telling her how evil men are, and how she'll find the right person, and 6 from guys that want to fuck her that may or may not realize they're posting because they want to fuck her. She gets on Tinder, she's 50th percentile, but now she's with this 10th percentile guy. Only they never discuss being exclusive, he's fucking three other girls at the same time, he only sees her once a week, he doesn't want to meet her friends or family, won't introduce her to his friends or family, and so she has all this cognitive dissonance over whether or not she matters, because to her sex is an expression that the other person matters, (it's not for men though!) but he's not treating her like she matters. So instead of accepting that she can't have that guy, not really, what she does is runs to her 5'5'' well dressed, gregarious, but sort of unmasculine "friend" who will tell her that she matters and shower her with attention. She gets mad at the guys she's fucking, is talking another 10th percentile guy from Tinder, goes out with him, realizes that, that relationship can (or did) turn sexual, and now she can 'break up' (they were never together) with the first guy, and get with the new, exciting 2nd guy, and history repeats, but she never has to give up the idea that she's special, to accept that, to the sort of guy she's going after she's disposable. Or, they get into a long term relationship with a guy where they fetishize a specific trait that he has so that they can tell themselves that their ability to obtain that trait makes them special, and that, that guy they're with really is their first choice.
