On every question that was asked in the study, single women were more comfortable than single men with their single lives. They were less likely to want a romantic partner. They were more sexually satisfied.
In a paper just published in
Social Psychological and Personality Science, “'
Sisters are doin’ it for themselves': Gender differences in singles’ well-being,” University of Toronto psychologists Elaine Hoan and Geoff MacDonald addressed those questions.
In Every Way, Women Were Happier Than Men with Their Single Lives
On every question that was asked in the study, single women were more comfortable than single men with their single lives. They were happier with their current romantic relationship status. They were less likely to want a romantic partner. They were more sexually satisfied. And they were more satisfied with their life in general.
Are women just generally more satisfied than men, even if they are in a romantic relationship? For overall life satisfaction and
sexual satisfaction, the answer is yes: Partnered women were more satisfied than partnered men. But partnered women were no more satisfied with their
romantic relationship status than partnered men. Where single women really stood out from single men, and partnered women, was in their satisfaction with their romantic relationship status. On average, single life suits single women. They like it and they are not very interested in being in a romantic relationship.
Why Are Women Happier Than Men with Being Single?
To explain their findings, Hoan and MacDonald suggest that women may be happier single because they are more likely to have supportive relationships beyond
romantic relationships. They also speculate that heterosexual romantic relationships are less rewarding for women because they do more than their share of household chores and tasks. Also, their sexual pleasure may be undervalued relative to men’s in romantic relationships. The researchers also suggest that as women’s incomes get closer to men’s, there is less of an economic advantage for them to marry; they believe that financially, single men “have more to gain from partnering than do single women.”
More:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/.../why-women-like-being-single-more-than-men-do
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Men really need to understand that women simply aren't particularly attracted to them and that they don't need them at all. Men's biological drive to be in a relationship is much higher than women's, but there's also a cultural aspect to it that we need to work on. Instead of "ascending", listening to those dating coacher grifters, xmaxxing, putting pussy on a pedestal, thinking that not getting a woman makes you a loser etc, we need to focus on ourselves. I really think that a good deal of anxiety caused by men's singlehood comes from the fact that they're failing to meet the expectations, not being able to brag and get praised for getting female attention, feeling desired etc rather than the actual experience of being in a relationship.
So we need to do what women have already done: stop valuing relationships with women, repeatedly pointing out the many negative aspects of having a relationship with and especially marrying them, shaming simps, praising the positive aspects of singlehood, building stronger friendships with other men, being more politically active with men's issues, etc. Many men through history were single, greatly valued celibacy, spend a ton of time without women around, or thought poorly of women. Why can't we do the same? While the situation seems grim now, we're going through a transitional period and I believe that men will collectively be able to "decenter" women to a certain extent, build stronger communities and even create replacements for women with robots, vr/mixed reality avatars, artificial wombs, etc.
