When a man is lonely or expresses his frustration towards dating he is often given advice to self improve or that he isn't owed sex or to just get a dog and so on. It seems the common response is that it is a man's fault if he is lonely. That this is something he has total control over and agency. That being lonely is simply a by product of a man's own actions and lifestyle.
Yet the studies show that women only swipe on a very small percentage of men on dating apps. There are tonnes of posts on reddit where women say they find most men unattractive. Multiple studies demonstrate that women generally find the same traits attractive such as height, a masculine face, wealth and so on. Many of the traits women find attractive in men are inherent and can not easily be attained to changed.
