I worked as a nurse for a few months untill I got the job I wanted in the first place, but I instantly were everyone's favorite because I always smiled, listened to what patients were saying and did what they asked.
Patients were giving me much more tips and food than to other old hags nurses.
I actually have a very kind and empathetic personality, but it doesn't give me jack shit when it comes to relationship with foids.
Also when I studied as a nurse, once a teacher were saying regular stuff like "as a nurse, you must listen to what the patient asks, you must empathize him, you must do everything you can to ease his suffering" and etc, to what one foid said (future nurse btw) "The only thing I must do is to be beautiful and to be happy, more than that I don't owe anything to anyone"
They say that the only thing you need to do to get someones trust, is to listen to them and not talk about yourself. In my experience that is very true. I enjoy listening to people when I have the opportunity. If you keep asking questions and stay interested, a lot of people will reveal incredible things about themselves. Sometimes people are surprised by how much I know about them.
I made the same experience as you. The old people were a lot nicer to me. For example we had multiple demented old men that would just start swinging and punching when female caretakers approached them. It wasn't really surprising, given how little care they received.
Sometimes I would just listen to people for an hour. I remember one time an old men suddenly asked me a question about himself, as if to reassure himself that I wasn't just pretending to be nice and actually didn't care at all.
One story I always like to tell in this context is this: There was this really old professor in our ward, together with his wife. He had an extremely low voice, almost a whisper. But if you listened you could understand him quite well. This man could talk about the craziest things, he was insanely educated. We talked about the 30 years war, politics, economical stuff since he had done business in countries like spain...
One time I was talking to him just like that and suddenly the door gets kicked open and this foreign nurse tramples in and yells "mr soandso, have you done peepee, poopoo, yes mr soandso, lets goooooo" and she just grabbed his wheelchair and wheeled him out. He was protesting but she couldnt hear him. He tried to break with his feet but she just did a mini wheelie.
Fuck, even female relatives didn't care or just didn't know what their parents/grandparent really needed. We had this ww2 vet that got shot in his arm and leg, he was heavily reliant on his walking cane but for some reason his daughter took it away.
In our nursing school this other guy told me that they had relatives come in and just ask if their parents had died already, so the staff locked the patients in because they were afraid that they might be harmed or killed.
Society doesn't give a fuck about us. We are just supposed to do our job until we are finally stuffed into a nursing home to slowly fade into oblivion, like an afterthought.
