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TheBlue

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So when I talk in a group (friends, family etc.) they often just start talking when I am talking at the moment making me silent.

Its feels super cringe when I want to say something and people in my group just ignore me.

What should I change so it wont happen again?
 
So when I talk in a group (friends, family etc.) they often just start talking when I am talking at the moment making me silent.

Its feels super cringe when I want to say something and people in my group just ignore me.

What should I change so it wont happen again?
You are invisible :feelscry:
 
Say n word and everybody will listen
 
Bc they dont give value to your saying.
 
Because you're at the bottom of the social pecking order, your words don't carry any weight in a group setting no matter how loud you shout. Do you think anyone is going to overrule or butt-in when Chad or Stacey are talking?
 
It's because you're at the bottom of the social hierarchy.
You would have to climb the social hierarchy of your friend group, but I think that's nearly impossible.
Your best bet is to find new friend groups and put yourself hier in the social hierarchy right from the start.
 
So when I talk in a group (friends, family etc.) they often just start talking when I am talking at the moment making me silent.

Its feels super cringe when I want to say something and people in my group just ignore me.

What should I change so it wont happen again?
because they dont respect u and think ur inferior. Why? because you're ugly
 
So when I talk in a group (friends, family etc.) they often just start talking when I am talking at the moment making me silent.

Its feels super cringe when I want to say something and people in my group just ignore me.

What should I change so it wont happen again?
They do the same thing with me. It's what normies do when they find you weird and unimportant. Always gets me so pissed off.
 
Because your words have little weight to it. They don't consider your opinion worth even listening.
 
use google.
it's too big of a topic to answer in one post.

Okay I looked into the topic and I have to talk with an deep voice and take my sholders back to look like alpha male of the group
 
Okay I looked into the topic and I have to talk with an deep voice and take my sholders back to look like alpha male of the group
yes, you also have to offer value to the group and make the decisions.
for example if the question occurts, what you're going to do on the weekend, you have to be the one who suggests something and who decides what you'll do, maybe then call the place and make the reservation, etc.
decision making is huge in establishing a high rank in a social hierarchy
 
You should change your face.
 
The friends that do this see you as being below them. They don't respect you or value your opinion on the subject. Just keep talking to make your point across or at least to make sure nobody understands anything. They are in the wrong.
 
Legit incel trait
 
Not really much that you can change, you can talk to them eye to eye and explain their behavior. But it might be better to just leave that circle.
 
same but i have no friends to talk to
 
So when I talk in a group (friends, family etc.) they often just start talking when I am talking at the moment making me silent.

Its feels super cringe when I want to say something and people in my group just ignore me.

What should I change so it wont happen again?
Take control, charm everyone over a period of time. Works for me, give smiles to people even if you aren’t happy, charming people is a great tool
 
It's a sign of low social status. Actually if you are perceptive you will notice people will subconsciously talk slightly louder right when you were beginning to say something, when they otherwise weren't going to say anything at all. What I mean is, they arent speaking over you because you both happened to try and speak at the same time. Actually they started talking precisely because you were going to say something so they spoke out to silence your voice. It isnt something most people are consciously aware of. But it's one of those peculiar quirks of human social dynamics. I suppose they receive gratification and pleasure from silencing a lower status person and thus asserting their position in the group.

Based on the current laws and norms your winning strategy will be to withhold any investment into a group that doesnt value you, and to put your attentions elsewhere. They only get power out of it if you willingly give theknyour attention and mental energies. Instead you should zone out, show disinterest, ignore them if they dont reciprocate, and better yet move away and cease associating with them entirely if possible (often isnt an option ofc)
 
I feel like it was always like this since kindergarten.

If young me asked what is he supposed to do, then I would advise to just punch them and brag on incels.is
 
What you have to say is worthless to them, all because you're ugly. They will value Chad's opinion more than yours, even if he's wrong, and even if they know for a fact that you're right.
 
Same here. At work especially but generally too.

It never stops being weird.

An aggressive daily reminder that we don’t exist.

Some day I hope to stop being weirded out by this and figure out how to use it to my advantage. :feelshehe:
 
It's a sign of low social status. Actually if you are perceptive you will notice people will subconsciously talk slightly louder right when you were beginning to say something, when they otherwise weren't going to say anything at all. What I mean is, they arent speaking over you because you both happened to try and speak at the same time. Actually they started talking precisely because you were going to say something so they spoke out to silence your voice. It isnt something most people are consciously aware of. But it's one of those peculiar quirks of human social dynamics. I suppose they receive gratification and pleasure from silencing a lower status person and thus asserting their position in the group.

Based on the current laws and norms your winning strategy will be to withhold any investment into a group that doesnt value you, and to put your attentions elsewhere. They only get power out of it if you willingly give theknyour attention and mental energies. Instead you should zone out, show disinterest, ignore them if they dont reciprocate, and better yet move away and cease associating with them entirely if possible (often isnt an option ofc)
This is a very interesting comment. Are you talking mostly about work? I don't know why exactly, but I image what you describe happening mostly at work. It has happened a lot for me and the advice you gave is the one I'm taking. I only get to talk when people ask me questions. This is extremely bad for career growth. Perception of performance = performance.
 
They see that you're a low status male and they're aware of the fact that they don't need to show any respect to you.
 
Story of my life. This is what happens when you’re a short awkward incel.
 
It's because you're at the bottom of the social hierarchy.
You would have to climb the social hierarchy of your friend group, but I think that's nearly impossible.
Your best bet is to find new friend groups and put yourself hier in the social hierarchy right from the start.
Better to just hop on dating apps and meet women that way
 
Walk away, if anyone chimes in why, well it's simple. Ain't no one listening so why should you.
 
i have this uncle (more like a second cousin once removed but call him uncle) that's always going "he's shy he never talk blah blah blah". last time there were a bunch of us together and i started saying something (everyone was listening and wanted to hear me) that nigger cuts me off and starts talking.
 

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