I'm (28 f) pregnant with a child that's not my husbands (29 m). How do I move forward.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant as of today. My husband is ecstatic and in full dad mode right now. He's been insanely great and supportive of me during this time and will make a great father. There's one problem here, the kids not his, It's a coworkers of mine who I slept with.
My marriage with my husband is not great. We got married about 8 years ago, and while it was good at first, it quickly died. Both of us were in college and on the fast track to careers. Because of this marriage i've never been able to truly "live". While all my friends were out having fun I was home with him. At first I was fine with it, but over time I realized I was not. I wanted to live like my friends and have freedom. This isn't to say I don't love my husband, it's just I think he's held me back from experiencing some of the great things about being an adult.
This is where my coworker, jeff comes in. I met Jeff 2 years ago when I came to the department and he's one of the greatest guys I know. We hit it off pretty much immediately and have been friends. Sometimes I think he is my soulmate. Well, one night he invited me out to go to dinner. I lied to my husband about it and one thing led to another and we slept together. A few weeks later I was pregnant. I freaked out at the time and decided to tell my husband it was his. We had held off having kids for a while but he had always wanted one so I treated it as a surprise for him that I was ready.
Now we are here, I know 100% that the kid is not my husbands. I used protection with him while I did not with jeff. If he finds out I know he'll leave me and I don't want that. Despite all of this I still love my husband. And if he did leave me jeff would not take me. I made the mistake of telling jeff and he has ghosted me since, even successfully requesting a transfer from our department.
I just, I need help. I don't know what to do here and I'm extremely scared. I resented my husband when I slept with jeff but now I realize how much I love him and don't want to lose him. What do I do? How can I fix this? Is there anything I can do to save my relationship with my husband?
I'm 32 weeks pregnant as of today. My husband is ecstatic and in full dad mode right now. He's been insanely great and supportive of me during this time and will make a great father. There's one problem here, the kids not his, It's a coworkers of mine who I slept with.
My marriage with my husband is not great. We got married about 8 years ago, and while it was good at first, it quickly died. Both of us were in college and on the fast track to careers. Because of this marriage i've never been able to truly "live". While all my friends were out having fun I was home with him. At first I was fine with it, but over time I realized I was not. I wanted to live like my friends and have freedom. This isn't to say I don't love my husband, it's just I think he's held me back from experiencing some of the great things about being an adult.
This is where my coworker, jeff comes in. I met Jeff 2 years ago when I came to the department and he's one of the greatest guys I know. We hit it off pretty much immediately and have been friends. Sometimes I think he is my soulmate. Well, one night he invited me out to go to dinner. I lied to my husband about it and one thing led to another and we slept together. A few weeks later I was pregnant. I freaked out at the time and decided to tell my husband it was his. We had held off having kids for a while but he had always wanted one so I treated it as a surprise for him that I was ready.
Now we are here, I know 100% that the kid is not my husbands. I used protection with him while I did not with jeff. If he finds out I know he'll leave me and I don't want that. Despite all of this I still love my husband. And if he did leave me jeff would not take me. I made the mistake of telling jeff and he has ghosted me since, even successfully requesting a transfer from our department.
I just, I need help. I don't know what to do here and I'm extremely scared. I resented my husband when I slept with jeff but now I realize how much I love him and don't want to lose him. What do I do? How can I fix this? Is there anything I can do to save my relationship with my husband?
