Serious Why is loneliness so much harder to let go of than sexual desire?

[Deleted member 8353]

Recently I've gotten to the point where I don't even care about sex with foids. I've just given up on the hope, the desire, and I've simply stopped caring. Since I've reached this state I thought I'd try nofap again and I'm not really struggling with it anywhere near as much as I used to, and I should be able to give up fapping as well within a few weeks.

But why is it that I can't seem to let go of the longing for a genuine relationship? Even today, I started ruminating about it again and I was almost brought to tears. I had to concentrate just to calm myself down, the thought of it legitimately makes me want to rope. I just want a foid to hold me, cuddle with me, and let me know that I matter. Often I like to visualize her smiling at me, laying next to me, or resting her head on my shoulder. Usually I think about the things we'd do together, or just the thought that I wouldn't have to be so alone.

How do I go about getting rid of this desire? It makes me feel terrible.

 

[AfrikanCel]

Recently I've gotten to the point where I don't even care about sex with foids. I've just given up on the hope, the desire, and I've simply stopped caring. Since I've reached this state I thought I'd try nofap again and I'm not really struggling with it anywhere near as much as I used to, and I should be able to give up fapping as well within a few weeks.

But why is it that I can't seem to let go of the longing for a genuine relationship? Even today, I started ruminating about it again and I was almost brought to tears. I had to concentrate just to calm myself down, the thought of it legitimately makes me want to rope. I just want a foid to hold me, cuddle with me, and let me know that I matter. Often I like to visualize her smiling at me, laying next to me, or resting her head on my shoulder. Usually I think about the things we'd do together, or just the thought that I wouldn't have to be so alone.

How do I go about getting rid of this desire? It makes me feel terrible.

Once you are no longer a teen it becomes a completely different ball game. You open yourself up to preganancy traps, greater chance of STDs and rape claims. The older you get the more spoiled the foids become while you become more used to being alone. It is a 0 sum game.

It is over

 

[Deleted member 8353]

Once you are no longer a teen it becomes a completely different ball game.

That's probably the root of it, specifically that I missed out on this stuff when I was a teenager. Now I'm desperately lonely, and have no idea how to relate to people on top of it.

 

[AfrikanCel]

That's probably the root of it, specifically that I missed out on this stuff when I was a teenager. Now I'm desperately lonely, and have no idea how to relate to people on top of it.

Welcome to the club.

 

[Zaetheus]

Same . I been on nofap for a min now amd my sexual urges or strangely suppressed . But loneliness is something u can shake.

 

[NEETAndTidy]

It's in our human nature. We want companionship. It fucking sucks.

 

[excel]

This is definitely hitting me now. No fap was actually easier (66 days in now). Just want someone who likes me for me, and doesn’t expect me to pay for her. It feels worse every new year as well.

 

[EARTH]

Because you are LiterallyASoyboy is why.

 

[Fullofhate]

Just go Columbine bro.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

Because you are LiterallyASoyboy is why.

Makes sense honestly, I wish this shit wouldn't bother me so much.

 

[Deleted member 1042]

Because it is important for survival.

 

[Limerencel]

You can fap to porn, which tricks your mind for a short time, and gives you a sexual release.
No such equivalent exists to cope with loneliness.

Because it is important for survival.

High IQ.
We have evolved to be social and part of communities. A monkey that is ostracized will die shortly after.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

You can fap to porn, which tricks your mind for a short time, and gives you a sexual release.
No such equivalent exists to cope with loneliness.

Which is why it's bad, as the loneliness is so much worse anyway, at least for me.

 

[Incel Prime]

Well you have never had a girlfriend before. You want that feeling you can't buy. Unlike sex

 

[Kent]

Recently I've gotten to the point where I don't even care about sex with foids. I've just given up on the hope, the desire, and I've simply stopped caring. Since I've reached this state I thought I'd try nofap again and I'm not really struggling with it anywhere near as much as I used to, and I should be able to give up fapping as well within a few weeks.

But why is it that I can't seem to let go of the longing for a genuine relationship? Even today, I started ruminating about it again and I was almost brought to tears. I had to concentrate just to calm myself down, the thought of it legitimately makes me want to rope. I just want a foid to hold me, cuddle with me, and let me know that I matter. Often I like to visualize her smiling at me, laying next to me, or resting her head on my shoulder. Usually I think about the things we'd do together, or just the thought that I wouldn't have to be so alone.

How do I go about getting rid of this desire? It makes me feel terrible.

Same bro. Sex is easy...wanking is legit depressing. Its almost like urinating at this point. Sex would be great....but having a feeemayle to laugh at stuff with is LIFE.

 

[TrueAlphaMale]

For me, it's the opposite

 

[The End]

I don't want a relationship - they've always looked like hell to me. Crushing responsibility and a nagging shrew is not something I pine for.

Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Oh! And the closest I ever felt to love was when a troll just told me everything I wanted to hear. There is probably a lesson in there somewhere.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

Recently I've gotten to the point where I don't even care about sex with foids. I've just given up on the hope, the desire, and I've simply stopped caring. Since I've reached this state I thought I'd try nofap again and I'm not really struggling with it anywhere near as much as I used to, and I should be able to give up fapping as well within a few weeks.

But why is it that I can't seem to let go of the longing for a genuine relationship? Even today, I started ruminating about it again and I was almost brought to tears. I had to concentrate just to calm myself down, the thought of it legitimately makes me want to rope. I just want a foid to hold me, cuddle with me, and let me know that I matter. Often I like to visualize her smiling at me, laying next to me, or resting her head on my shoulder. Usually I think about the things we'd do together, or just the thought that I wouldn't have to be so alone.

How do I go about getting rid of this desire? It makes me feel terrible.

this is the curse of high imagination / creative cels, you can easily envision all that shit, and you'll go mad

 

[Deleted member 8353]

this is the curse of high imagination / creative cels, you can easily envision all that shit, and you'll go mad

Yeah and it can be a cope actually, but often I start having the wrong sort of thoughts.

 

[hermitcel]

idk honestly. I hate people for the most part and love being alone but at the same time I like to join my skype groups calls just to hear other people talking.

 

[gambleaddictmntlcel]

Recently I've gotten to the point where I don't even care about sex with foids. I've just given up on the hope, the desire, and I've simply stopped caring. Since I've reached this state I thought I'd try nofap again and I'm not really struggling with it anywhere near as much as I used to, and I should be able to give up fapping as well within a few weeks.

But why is it that I can't seem to let go of the longing for a genuine relationship? Even today, I started ruminating about it again and I was almost brought to tears. I had to concentrate just to calm myself down, the thought of it legitimately makes me want to rope. I just want a foid to hold me, cuddle with me, and let me know that I matter. Often I like to visualize her smiling at me, laying next to me, or resting her head on my shoulder. Usually I think about the things we'd do together, or just the thought that I wouldn't have to be so alone.

How do I go about getting rid of this desire? It makes me feel terrible.

Wow man....it's really nice to see someone on here I can relate to almost 100%. I've given up caring about sex, I don't have the drive to even want it any more. I've craved it for so long that the idea that it will ever actually happen is foreign to me. The desire to cuddle, to hold someone, to enjoy experiences with, and do cheesy, lovey dovey romantic things with is still there. Just the idea of holding a girl and our noses touching looking into each others eyes is leagues more appealing to me than sex. The fact I can't get it and that cunts will only give it to Chads who won't appreciate it is what hurts the most

 

[Deleted member 8353]

The desire to cuddle, to hold someone, to enjoy experiences with, and do cheesy, lovey dovey romantic things with is still there. Just the idea of holding a girl and our noses touching looking into each others eyes is leagues more appealing to me than sex.

The fact I can't get it and that cunts will only give it to Chads who won't appreciate it is what hurts the most

I can't handle PDA, it's guaranteed to make me dysphoric at least until I fall asleep.

 

[Norky]

Buddhist cope, realize that suffering stems from desire and the vacuum that desire creates (not having what you desire).