It's Over Why getting friends in your 20s is basically impossible

[TheJester]

Its 2025 and if your in your 20s and dont have friends as a single male...you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

The past 4 years, besides trying to get a girlfriend I just tried to get friends.
And despite my ever increasing social anxiety I did put myself out there. But i Was left ignored. I approched people. I wanted to befriend guys on college and I used friendfinder Apps (which literally are infested with Simps and other Subhumans).

I am pretty sure its like this in america too but here are just the main reasons:

1. People already have their friend groups and dont want to increase them - usually even extroverted women say they have only between 10 and 20 friends. If you arent part of such a group - you wont be!

2. People in their 20s only want money - you arent a kid anymore. Childhoods over, nos its all about who makes the most money. If you dont or only gain little - no one will want to be your friend, because you are not capable of providing a financial opportunity for these people or are capable of living the same lifestyle.

3. Its all about social media. If you are Gen Z and dont have Social Media, take part as a creator and have a large followingship, people simply dont take you seriously. I recently met 2 guys and wanted to get their number, but they instead said I should follow their Instagram. (I so have a account but 0 followers and 0 follows) I said I dont have that - they were completely confused.

Having and being social media addicted is a Gen Zs average lifestyle..

4. Being ugly or Sub7 is a major problem. You are older and similar to the Datibg market, the friendship market is similar. You have better options approching if you look good.

5. People start the "Family life". People, especially Women, cant really do anything with a Bachelor in their "friend group". On top of it, everyone tries to get a family. To have that "Someone" in their life. More then a friend. So if a random now tries to befriend you - the one who has friends and wants a family - you will likely not end up being accepted.

6. Status among different aged people probably is a major reason why friendships dont happen or if they do they are usually fake. Its about mogging and being mogged. If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

7. Bland personalities and basic character are what defines Gen Z. Most people are super lame and one can not do anything with that. So a true friendship wont happen as one friend always tries to entertain the others (Jestermaxx) for free. But if they are not entertaining - what are you hanging around with them.

Theres several other reasons like aging, environment, political views, addictions or being non NT that make it continously harder to get friends.

 

[Cryotron]

good post.

 

[Cryotron]

sub5, social outcast, no job, no education = doomed to be alone until death

 

[TheJester]

sub5, social outcast, no job, no education = doomed to be alone until death

Irrelevant if you have job or education.

MillenialStream has 3 degrees and is a loser. I have a degree and a job and have no friends. I worked 7 different jobs throughout my 25 yo life and have never found any friends at work.

If you are in a company THERE ARE NO FRIENDS! Those guys will never be your friends. My parents have worked for 35 years at multiple places and they both are completely friendless and do not consider a single person at their job a friend. Especially my mother is very "I pretend to be the nice person, but I could not give less of a shit about anyone else at the job" kind of person.

My mother has had 3 friends throughout her ENTIRE LIFE and all 3 of them are gone - they still live - they just havent seen ot spoken each other in years.

 

[Castaway]

All very true. Normies are very tribalistic in their little friend groups and are quick to judge and be hostile towards people they see as unfamiliar and different from themselves. I remember once sitting at a lunch table at school by chance and all the kids who were friends with each other there immediately looked at me strangely and picked on me for no particular reason. They saw me as an outsider and therefore fair game for bullying.

 

[Mr. Agent Clark]

you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

Fuck. I had online normshit friends

 

[AlexDelarge]

agree. Only friends i had were from childhood and i lost them all once they got married or found long term girlfriends.

After 20 you only can make business partners but its way too late for friends.

 

[Mr. Agent Clark]

But you are NT 4/10 6'10 right? that's very sus you can probably have friends

 

[Mr. Agent Clark]

Being ugly or Sub7

... no??? 4/10 normshits have friends

 

[Cincel]

Good, zero friends and zero relationships at 29... as it should be expected for my autistic ass

 

[Mr. Agent Clark]

If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

True, but only because moggers mock me insult me avoid me ad treat me bad in many ways

 

[HODL HONKLER]

None of these points matter if your bones are good

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

I agree with most of these assessments. Personally I have given up on having "friends" a long time ago. And to add to that, I don't even want them anymore. It seems like such a waste of time to try to have "friends" these days when everyone is so invested in their own lives, careers, families, hobbies, and so on. The vast majority of them aren't really friends to begin with.

Also:

None of these points matter if your bones are good

 

[Genetically Doomed]

i'll never stop wondering what my teens/20s would be like if i was neurotypical.

 

[Corvus]

Having a job is really the only way. You wont get shit sitting inside

 

[RechargedSamsung]

I think making after middle school is impossible tbh everyone is their own l groups and what not

And it was depressionfuel for incels who had parents in the army dud to the constant moving around schools to schools

 

[UglyDumbass]

Its 2025 and if your in your 20s and dont have friends as a single male...you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

The past 4 years, besides trying to get a girlfriend I just tried to get friends.
And despite my ever increasing social anxiety I did put myself out there. But i Was left ignored. I approched people. I wanted to befriend guys on college and I used friendfinder Apps (which literally are infested with Simps and other Subhumans).

I am pretty sure its like this in america too but here are just the main reasons:

1. People already have their friend groups and dont want to increase them - usually even extroverted women say they have only between 10 and 20 friends. If you arent part of such a group - you wont be!

2. People in their 20s only want money - you arent a kid anymore. Childhoods over, nos its all about who makes the most money. If you dont or only gain little - no one will want to be your friend, because you are not capable of providing a financial opportunity for these people or are capable of living the same lifestyle.

3. Its all about social media. If you are Gen Z and dont have Social Media, take part as a creator and have a large followingship, people simply dont take you seriously. I recently met 2 guys and wanted to get their number, but they instead said I should follow their Instagram. (I so have a account but 0 followers and 0 follows) I said I dont have that - they were completely confused.

Having and being social media addicted is a Gen Zs average lifestyle..

4. Being ugly or Sub7 is a major problem. You are older and similar to the Datibg market, the friendship market is similar. You have better options approching if you look good.

5. People start the "Family life". People, especially Women, cant really do anything with a Bachelor in their "friend group". On top of it, everyone tries to get a family. To have that "Someone" in their life. More then a friend. So if a random now tries to befriend you - the one who has friends and wants a family - you will likely not end up being accepted.

6. Status among different aged people probably is a major reason why friendships dont happen or if they do they are usually fake. Its about mogging and being mogged. If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

7. Bland personalities and basic character are what defines Gen Z. Most people are super lame and one can not do anything with that. So a true friendship wont happen as one friend always tries to entertain the others (Jestermaxx) for free. But if they are not entertaining - what are you hanging around with them.

Theres several other reasons like aging, environment, political views, addictions or being non NT that make it continously harder to get friends.

you literally just read my mind. Everything you said was exactly one point on the thinking i had for a while now. Most people don’t even wanna talk anymore even in my final year of high school most people didn’t wanna talk to me cuz either i was too autistic for them or they already had there friend groups. I spoke to some spergs but they never keep in touch unless i do. They seem happy being alone and not caring

 

[BSGMANLET]

sub5, social outcast, no job, no education = doomed to be alone until death

It's over for me

 

[PrototypeCel]

last time i tried to spark a conversation was with some people at the movie theatre
i figured since i was on their level lookswise id be okay in asking them about the movie
i was completely ignored and stared at with disgust
i walked away after none of them said anything for 5 seconds
that was 6 years ago

 

[BSGMANLET]

agree. Only friends i had were from childhood and i lost them all once they got married or found long term girlfriends.

After 20 you only can make business partners but its way too late for friends.

Some friends don't even text you unless they want money.

 

[BSGMANLET]

last time i tried to spark a conversation was with some people at the movie theatre
i figured since i was on their level lookswise id be okay in asking them about the movie
i was completely ignored and stared at with disgust
i walked away after none of them said anything for 5 seconds

It's your personality bro.
You just need a better personality and stop being negative.

 

[PrototypeCel]

It's your personality bro.
You just need a better personality and stop being negative.

this is when i was starting to have my "shit together"
i had a job and car money to spend on myself for once
but it was the most brutal and blackpilling time of my life

i was treated worse by literally everyone in a span of just 6 months

 

[BSGMANLET]

this is when i was starting to have my "shit together"
i had a job and car money to spend on myself for once
but it was the most brutal and blackpilling time of my life

i was treated worse by literally everyone in a span of just 6 months

I'm joking bro.
As a incel you'll only either be used or discarded. I'd rather enjoy my isolation atp than be around people who are tolerating me for there benefit.

 

[PrototypeCel]

I'm joking bro.
As a incel you'll only either be used or discarded. I'd rather enjoy my isolation atp than be around people who are tolerating me for there benefit.

nah i got your joke lol
i was just saying this was a time in my life where i was trying to adapt to the normie life only for it to chew me up and spit me out

 

[BSGMANLET]

nah i got your joke lol
i was just saying this was a time in my life where i was trying to adapt to the normie life only for it to chew me up and spit me out

Oh ok

this is when i was starting to have my "shit together"
i had a job and car money to spend on myself for once
but it was the most brutal and blackpilling time of my life

i was treated worse by literally everyone in a span of just 6 months

Yeah you're explained my experience in 2 sentences.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

Only 10-20 friends for extroverted women? ONLY? Wtf that’s literally a ton of friends. I consider having two friends as impressive

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

But you’re right, most people have friends already and don’t want any more

 

[suicidecase]

Try making friends in your 30s

 

[Mr. Agent Clark]

Try making friends in your 30s

I never friends irl and barely online

 

[AussieIncel]

The only friends I ever made were through inceldom. Some irl.

 

[LifeMaxxer]

The only friends I ever made were through inceldom. Some irl.

same. We just worked well

 

[Kanye's Cousin]

Good post, I realized early that people don't really make friends in adulthood. The friends people have they made growing up. I haven't made a solid friend since highschool. And now since people are always on their phones just having small chat is rare. So even having decent acquaintances is hard

 

[lifeisfucked215]

You have to offer something to them (like living in a nice place/cool house) or something that will make their status also look better. You can only make genuine friendships in elementary school/middle school, highschool. At that time you guys have nothing to offer to each other and are just genuinely shooting the shit. But even then you see some forms of having to offer something (rich/good looking people being in large popular friend groups etc.)

 

[VλREN]

Its 2025 and if your in your 20s and dont have friends as a single male...you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

The past 4 years, besides trying to get a girlfriend I just tried to get friends.
And despite my ever increasing social anxiety I did put myself out there. But i Was left ignored. I approched people. I wanted to befriend guys on college and I used friendfinder Apps (which literally are infested with Simps and other Subhumans).

I am pretty sure its like this in america too but here are just the main reasons:

1. People already have their friend groups and dont want to increase them - usually even extroverted women say they have only between 10 and 20 friends. If you arent part of such a group - you wont be!

2. People in their 20s only want money - you arent a kid anymore. Childhoods over, nos its all about who makes the most money. If you dont or only gain little - no one will want to be your friend, because you are not capable of providing a financial opportunity for these people or are capable of living the same lifestyle.

3. Its all about social media. If you are Gen Z and dont have Social Media, take part as a creator and have a large followingship, people simply dont take you seriously. I recently met 2 guys and wanted to get their number, but they instead said I should follow their Instagram. (I so have a account but 0 followers and 0 follows) I said I dont have that - they were completely confused.

Having and being social media addicted is a Gen Zs average lifestyle..

4. Being ugly or Sub7 is a major problem. You are older and similar to the Datibg market, the friendship market is similar. You have better options approching if you look good.

5. People start the "Family life". People, especially Women, cant really do anything with a Bachelor in their "friend group". On top of it, everyone tries to get a family. To have that "Someone" in their life. More then a friend. So if a random now tries to befriend you - the one who has friends and wants a family - you will likely not end up being accepted.

6. Status among different aged people probably is a major reason why friendships dont happen or if they do they are usually fake. Its about mogging and being mogged. If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

7. Bland personalities and basic character are what defines Gen Z. Most people are super lame and one can not do anything with that. So a true friendship wont happen as one friend always tries to entertain the others (Jestermaxx) for free. But if they are not entertaining - what are you hanging around with them.

Theres several other reasons like aging, environment, political views, addictions or being non NT that make it continously harder to get friends.

Literally me WTF

 

[AsiaCel]

5 more years until I'm 30. This is highly relatable.

I don't plan to live much longer beyond 30s.

 

[AsiaCel]

Having a job is really the only way. You wont get shit sitting inside

I have a full time job. Life doesn't change much.

 

[_realist_]

Try getting friends in your 30s, let alone a girlfriend.

 

[bathlete]

social compatibility is the funniest thing i’ve heard honestly, and talking to normal jester hybrids proclaiming the spectrum is sheer agony; i realized i just don’t enjoy making them bloat more and attempting to be who i’m not. i don’t really feel conversations nor relations, that it’s best to go without them so i’ve emptied the little contacts i had because they’re all nt such as my younger brother, who got married and been churning those mopey networks out of ad hoc convenience a while now. when one has all these things it’s more unnatural that they’re not condescending so being jaded and uncaring i blocked off contact because i like to erase cringey half baked hustlers from my life and their peevish fills i want nothing to do with their asserting (by percy) any foreign condemning inadvertence whatsoever. and i don’t see how they color the compulsive withdrawals of my cacomental expertise. i know if i try as in genuinely give a shit i can color their lives more than how they believe it’s equal when it really isn’t. i’ve found that the reason i can’t be bothered to care about maintaining heinous relationships is because i know for a fact the cramping disconnections leave a lot to be desired, something called intuitive forfeiture and faux suspense used to drop them. it’s egregiously bland because i’ve had multiple people directly point out and/or insinuate i must find their company boring, and assumed i have a lot of friends due to what they yolked was my actual personality when that merely shows my overall versatility despite being non-nt. the truth is i can’t mask it at all but they’re that predictable i don’t even have to engage them at their energetic “wit”. otherwise they have themselves flush waivers to be condescending and shove sticks back in their ass. i can’t be bothered to prove them out of their “wrong courageous” smooth surface exemptions of grandeur that’s their soft hogwit. i choose to be incoherent in order to even gather a crumb of the bigger picture because without those parts that are intangibly evolving to grasp the whole is just a hollow grind whereas swine diligence in their theoretical execution of certain steadfast thresholds to a “deviant radix” not subtle outliers, wholesaled that wool containing them to let linger their own shadow for exercising relapsive importunity to inherence. not to mention biotechnical duplicitators, they don’t tend to be abstruse and i don’t covet this lame idiosyncrasy nor the detached stance to breeding dunce heuristic dysmachinationists into fruition (because that sounds like a desegregated franchise of latent refuge passive novelty isekai). i’m split to make small talk but i’m afraid i’m right due to having chattered with what patrols their haphazard bail spree which is a grand scheme of things to them or initial stimulus extraneously generating overt shuffle causality, is how they also equip themselves, before any is beefed into such compensatory fluke temples of tag labor. they don’t possess drills for curative deliberation nor past custom pragmatic capitulation, what trance other plush civics they incorporate as productive fuel and meritable intrigue for shedding the mild “polydialectical” span of the bashed together i don’t find it to be, it’s the ultimate ideational bane for my farces. i operate on a circumventable scrap shaft for the crucial lode of well contorted regimens. with that said i’m a silly guy and forgiving; to the point i allow their capriciousness in rigging the immediate situation when a single crypt of substantial expression against all their dummy leaders can play at their umbilically loathsome games. but is it worth enhancing the weak links to their inflictive territorial assortment especially when i rhetorically know they operate differently? i long for the eradicated impediments and i can only get that from cadenced stupefaction and the habile retreat in it

 

[anon]

It's like trying to find a job when you've been a NEET for a decade or finding a girlfriend when you're a virgin and don't have social media.
Friendships are no different. Someone needs to vouch for you.

 

[LonelyATM]

i am in the same situation high iq post.

 

[ItsOverMan]

There's a theory there's no such thing as "friends," just acquaintances engaging in transactions. Usually just temporary acquaintances... you engage in your transactions (keeping them company, entertaining, giving them money, introduced to foids, etc.) and they move on to someone else.

 

[lifesucksandyoudie]

I only have one other brocel I know irl to rely on and I only managed to contact him again out of pure dumb luck as a random fluke.

 

[4sez]

I only have 2-3 actual friends, the rest of who I know are all acquaintances to me.

 

[ItsOver4cel]

Can confirm. My 20s has been the most friendless period of my life whereas most people my age are just enjoying themselves.

Had quite a lot of normie "friends" in HS, in college everyone already had their social circles FROM DAY 1 and never let me in. For most group works I just asked the teachers to let me do them alone or assign me a group.

It's a shitty world out there, but I blame it on social media. Because of that people aren't incentivized to start conversations with strangers anymore, they just fly to their DMs and continue to chat with their friends from school all the way up to adulthood.

 

[eatdinner]

What was the point of this shit life. At 26 soon to be 27 I wake up just to go to work just to pay bills just to go to work again. I no longer speak.

Last time I was excited for the day was probably middle school. Months pass without me noticing. What was the point of any of it.

 

[cooked in life]

I haven't made a new friend in over 10 years. I can't remember the last time I actually went to hangout with someone that wasn't a family member.

 

[TheJester]

I haven't made a new friend in over 10 years. I can't remember the last time I actually went to hangout with someone that wasn't a family member.

For me was in 2017. My college class spend 3 semesters at home because corona and the 3 other semesters they reall didnt care about each other.

Nobody really seemed to have cared about each other.

They just like me moved on and got some shit jobs.

 

[moggedbyjsanza]

I don't get guys who say they don't have a job. Fix that first faggot. In fact, you might even meet a foid in some shitkicker minimum wage job, that's all most of them are capable of.

The rest of what you said is true. I haven't had any friends since college, I'm 30 and the chances of ever finding friends is a pipe dream. It's just so fucking over, we're so fucked, period. And since friends are the only way to meet a foid unless you're online dating (lol), guess we better laminate our v-cards

 

[92 drowsiness?]

After 15 is already impossible meet my only friend when I was 5 year old ever since tried mutiple others never ever one stayed I just have one friend and it is what it is.. better then 0 i guess

 

[TheJester]

I don't get guys who say they don't have a job. Fix that first faggot. In fact, you might even meet a foid in some shitkicker minimum wage job, that's all most of them are capable of.

The rest of what you said is true. I haven't had any friends since college, I'm 30 and the chances of ever finding friends is a pipe dream. It's just so fucking over, we're so fucked, period. And since friends are the only way to meet a foid unless you're online dating (lol), guess we better laminate our v-cards

I have a full time job 3 times minimum wage GrAY. Theres no Gen Z women here or women younger then 45.