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It's Over Why getting friends in your 20s is basically impossible

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Its 2025 and if your in your 20s and dont have friends as a single male...you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

The past 4 years, besides trying to get a girlfriend I just tried to get friends.
And despite my ever increasing social anxiety I did put myself out there. But i Was left ignored. I approched people. I wanted to befriend guys on college and I used friendfinder Apps (which literally are infested with Simps and other Subhumans).

I am pretty sure its like this in america too but here are just the main reasons:

1. People already have their friend groups and dont want to increase them - usually even extroverted women say they have only between 10 and 20 friends. If you arent part of such a group - you wont be!

2. People in their 20s only want money - you arent a kid anymore. Childhoods over, nos its all about who makes the most money. If you dont or only gain little - no one will want to be your friend, because you are not capable of providing a financial opportunity for these people or are capable of living the same lifestyle.

3. Its all about social media. If you are Gen Z and dont have Social Media, take part as a creator and have a large followingship, people simply dont take you seriously. I recently met 2 guys and wanted to get their number, but they instead said I should follow their Instagram. (I so have a account but 0 followers and 0 follows) I said I dont have that - they were completely confused.

Having and being social media addicted is a Gen Zs average lifestyle..

4. Being ugly or Sub7 is a major problem. You are older and similar to the Datibg market, the friendship market is similar. You have better options approching if you look good.

5. People start the "Family life". People, especially Women, cant really do anything with a Bachelor in their "friend group". On top of it, everyone tries to get a family. To have that "Someone" in their life. More then a friend. So if a random now tries to befriend you - the one who has friends and wants a family - you will likely not end up being accepted.

6. Status among different aged people probably is a major reason why friendships dont happen or if they do they are usually fake. Its about mogging and being mogged. If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

7. Bland personalities and basic character are what defines Gen Z. Most people are super lame and one can not do anything with that. So a true friendship wont happen as one friend always tries to entertain the others (Jestermaxx) for free. But if they are not entertaining - what are you hanging around with them.

Theres several other reasons like aging, environment, political views, addictions or being non NT that make it continously harder to get friends.
 
sub5, social outcast, no job, no education = doomed to be alone until death
 
sub5, social outcast, no job, no education = doomed to be alone until death
Irrelevant if you have job or education.

MillenialStream has 3 degrees and is a loser. I have a degree and a job and have no friends. I worked 7 different jobs throughout my 25 yo life and have never found any friends at work.

If you are in a company THERE ARE NO FRIENDS! Those guys will never be your friends. My parents have worked for 35 years at multiple places and they both are completely friendless and do not consider a single person at their job a friend. Especially my mother is very "I pretend to be the nice person, but I could not give less of a shit about anyone else at the job" kind of person.

My mother has had 3 friends throughout her ENTIRE LIFE and all 3 of them are gone - they still live - they just havent seen ot spoken each other in years.
 
All very true. Normies are very tribalistic in their little friend groups and are quick to judge and be hostile towards people they see as unfamiliar and different from themselves. I remember once sitting at a lunch table at school by chance and all the kids who were friends with each other there immediately looked at me strangely and picked on me for no particular reason. They saw me as an outsider and therefore fair game for bullying.
 
agree. Only friends i had were from childhood and i lost them all once they got married or found long term girlfriends.

After 20 you only can make business partners but its way too late for friends.
 
But :feelssus::feelssus::feelssus::feelssus: you are NT 4/10 6'10 right? that's very sus you can probably have friends
 
Good, zero friends and zero relationships at 29... as it should be expected for my autistic ass :feelsokman:
 
If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.
True, but only because moggers mock me insult me avoid me ad treat me bad in many ways
 
None of these points matter if your bones are good
 
I agree with most of these assessments. Personally I have given up on having "friends" a long time ago. And to add to that, I don't even want them anymore. It seems like such a waste of time to try to have "friends" these days when everyone is so invested in their own lives, careers, families, hobbies, and so on. The vast majority of them aren't really friends to begin with.

Also:
None of these points matter if your bones are good
 
i'll never stop wondering what my teens/20s would be like if i was neurotypical.
 
Having a job is really the only way. You wont get shit sitting inside
 
I think making after middle school is impossible tbh everyone is their own l groups and what not

And it was depressionfuel for incels who had parents in the army dud to the constant moving around schools to schools
 
Its 2025 and if your in your 20s and dont have friends as a single male...you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

The past 4 years, besides trying to get a girlfriend I just tried to get friends.
And despite my ever increasing social anxiety I did put myself out there. But i Was left ignored. I approched people. I wanted to befriend guys on college and I used friendfinder Apps (which literally are infested with Simps and other Subhumans).

I am pretty sure its like this in america too but here are just the main reasons:

1. People already have their friend groups and dont want to increase them - usually even extroverted women say they have only between 10 and 20 friends. If you arent part of such a group - you wont be!

2. People in their 20s only want money - you arent a kid anymore. Childhoods over, nos its all about who makes the most money. If you dont or only gain little - no one will want to be your friend, because you are not capable of providing a financial opportunity for these people or are capable of living the same lifestyle.

3. Its all about social media. If you are Gen Z and dont have Social Media, take part as a creator and have a large followingship, people simply dont take you seriously. I recently met 2 guys and wanted to get their number, but they instead said I should follow their Instagram. (I so have a account but 0 followers and 0 follows) I said I dont have that - they were completely confused.

Having and being social media addicted is a Gen Zs average lifestyle..

4. Being ugly or Sub7 is a major problem. You are older and similar to the Datibg market, the friendship market is similar. You have better options approching if you look good.

5. People start the "Family life". People, especially Women, cant really do anything with a Bachelor in their "friend group". On top of it, everyone tries to get a family. To have that "Someone" in their life. More then a friend. So if a random now tries to befriend you - the one who has friends and wants a family - you will likely not end up being accepted.

6. Status among different aged people probably is a major reason why friendships dont happen or if they do they are usually fake. Its about mogging and being mogged. If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

7. Bland personalities and basic character are what defines Gen Z. Most people are super lame and one can not do anything with that. So a true friendship wont happen as one friend always tries to entertain the others (Jestermaxx) for free. But if they are not entertaining - what are you hanging around with them.

Theres several other reasons like aging, environment, political views, addictions or being non NT that make it continously harder to get friends.
you literally just read my mind. Everything you said was exactly one point on the thinking i had for a while now. Most people don’t even wanna talk anymore even in my final year of high school most people didn’t wanna talk to me cuz either i was too autistic for them or they already had there friend groups. I spoke to some spergs but they never keep in touch unless i do. They seem happy being alone and not caring
 
last time i tried to spark a conversation was with some people at the movie theatre
i figured since i was on their level lookswise id be okay in asking them about the movie
i was completely ignored and stared at with disgust
i walked away after none of them said anything for 5 seconds
that was 6 years ago
 
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agree. Only friends i had were from childhood and i lost them all once they got married or found long term girlfriends.

After 20 you only can make business partners but its way too late for friends.
Some friends don't even text you unless they want money.
 
last time i tried to spark a conversation was with some people at the movie theatre
i figured since i was on their level lookswise id be okay in asking them about the movie
i was completely ignored and stared at with disgust
i walked away after none of them said anything for 5 seconds
It's your personality bro.
You just need a better personality and stop being negative.
 
It's your personality bro.
You just need a better personality and stop being negative.
this is when i was starting to have my "shit together"
i had a job and car money to spend on myself for once
but it was the most brutal and blackpilling time of my life

i was treated worse by literally everyone in a span of just 6 months
 
this is when i was starting to have my "shit together"
i had a job and car money to spend on myself for once
but it was the most brutal and blackpilling time of my life

i was treated worse by literally everyone in a span of just 6 months
I'm joking bro.
As a incel you'll only either be used or discarded. I'd rather enjoy my isolation atp than be around people who are tolerating me for there benefit.
 
I'm joking bro.
As a incel you'll only either be used or discarded. I'd rather enjoy my isolation atp than be around people who are tolerating me for there benefit.
nah i got your joke lol
i was just saying this was a time in my life where i was trying to adapt to the normie life only for it to chew me up and spit me out
 
nah i got your joke lol
i was just saying this was a time in my life where i was trying to adapt to the normie life only for it to chew me up and spit me out
Oh ok
this is when i was starting to have my "shit together"
i had a job and car money to spend on myself for once
but it was the most brutal and blackpilling time of my life

i was treated worse by literally everyone in a span of just 6 months

Yeah you're explained my experience in 2 sentences.
 
Only 10-20 friends for extroverted women? ONLY? Wtf that’s literally a ton of friends. I consider having two friends as impressive
 
But you’re right, most people have friends already and don’t want any more
 
The only friends I ever made were through inceldom. Some irl.
 
Good post, I realized early that people don't really make friends in adulthood. The friends people have they made growing up. I haven't made a solid friend since highschool. And now since people are always on their phones just having small chat is rare. So even having decent acquaintances is hard
 
You have to offer something to them (like living in a nice place/cool house) or something that will make their status also look better. You can only make genuine friendships in elementary school/middle school, highschool. At that time you guys have nothing to offer to each other and are just genuinely shooting the shit. But even then you see some forms of having to offer something (rich/good looking people being in large popular friend groups etc.)
 
Its 2025 and if your in your 20s and dont have friends as a single male...you will most likely never have any for the rest of your life.

The past 4 years, besides trying to get a girlfriend I just tried to get friends.
And despite my ever increasing social anxiety I did put myself out there. But i Was left ignored. I approched people. I wanted to befriend guys on college and I used friendfinder Apps (which literally are infested with Simps and other Subhumans).

I am pretty sure its like this in america too but here are just the main reasons:

1. People already have their friend groups and dont want to increase them - usually even extroverted women say they have only between 10 and 20 friends. If you arent part of such a group - you wont be!

2. People in their 20s only want money - you arent a kid anymore. Childhoods over, nos its all about who makes the most money. If you dont or only gain little - no one will want to be your friend, because you are not capable of providing a financial opportunity for these people or are capable of living the same lifestyle.

3. Its all about social media. If you are Gen Z and dont have Social Media, take part as a creator and have a large followingship, people simply dont take you seriously. I recently met 2 guys and wanted to get their number, but they instead said I should follow their Instagram. (I so have a account but 0 followers and 0 follows) I said I dont have that - they were completely confused.

Having and being social media addicted is a Gen Zs average lifestyle..

4. Being ugly or Sub7 is a major problem. You are older and similar to the Datibg market, the friendship market is similar. You have better options approching if you look good.

5. People start the "Family life". People, especially Women, cant really do anything with a Bachelor in their "friend group". On top of it, everyone tries to get a family. To have that "Someone" in their life. More then a friend. So if a random now tries to befriend you - the one who has friends and wants a family - you will likely not end up being accepted.

6. Status among different aged people probably is a major reason why friendships dont happen or if they do they are usually fake. Its about mogging and being mogged. If you are constantly mogged you dont want to Stick aroubd with someone who is fundamentally living in a different dimension then you.

7. Bland personalities and basic character are what defines Gen Z. Most people are super lame and one can not do anything with that. So a true friendship wont happen as one friend always tries to entertain the others (Jestermaxx) for free. But if they are not entertaining - what are you hanging around with them.

Theres several other reasons like aging, environment, political views, addictions or being non NT that make it continously harder to get friends.
Literally me WTF
 
5 more years until I'm 30. This is highly relatable.

I don't plan to live much longer beyond 30s.
 
Having a job is really the only way. You wont get shit sitting inside
I have a full time job. Life doesn't change much.
 

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