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Serious Why do people keep claiming that you can improve your social skills ?

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The typical advice that is given to socially retarded Aspies like me is that we should just improve our social skills. How exactly do they imagine ? Socialisation is supposed to happen naturally during your childhood and adolescense. If by the time you are 18 and never had a social circle and never had any sort of romanticl/sexual relationships then it never began for you. By the time you are 18 or older, society expects you to have certain skills and abilities. They dont have the time or motivation to teach you whats supposed to happen naturally. Thats like trying to teach a 30 year old man who ate everything with this hands his whole life to use cutlery. Eveyone will think he is weird for not having it learned naturally and no one wants to help him. And even if he manages to use cutlery, he will still be decades behind normal people and will always be viewed as weirdo.
 
It's over for my lack of social skills.
 
Because normies are braindead fucks.
You can't improve something that doesn't exist.
That's why Chad and Tyrone have social skills, because they've been in the middle of social circles since they were kids.
If you aren't Chad, why would people even want to be around you? How can you improve something that you haven't experienced for more than 20 years, and even if for some miracle you just started to magically get social skills, how can you justify them? Chad justifies his social skills because he isn't faking or trash talking, he has tons of stories, tons of money and the looks to prove that he isn't bullshitting, but me? Ok I talk to a girl, I start a conversation with my amazing social skills, she asks "so, what do you do?" what i'm going to answer with my amazing social skills? what? that I'm a fucking wagie? that I'm a NEET? that I'm a failed mentally ill fuck? what?
Now she asks "how many girlfriends did you have?" what I'm going to answer? and the solution for normies and redpilled cucks is faking and lying because your incredible social skills are nothing but BULLSHIT, meanwhile Chad can easily answer those questions because HE ALREADY EXPERIENCED SOCIAL STATUS SINCE HE WAS A FUCKING KID.
 
If you haven't learned how to socialise by 18, you never will
 
I'm (almost) a master of cutlery!

"Leaving so, spooon?"
 
The typical advice that is given to socially retarded Aspies like me is that we should just improve our social skills. How exactly do they imagine ? Socialisation is supposed to happen naturally during your childhood and adolescense. If by the time you are 18 and never had a social circle and never had any sort of romanticl/sexual relationships then it never began for you. By the time you are 18 or older, society expects you to have certain skills and abilities. They dont have the time or motivation to teach you whats supposed to happen naturally. Thats like trying to teach a 30 year old man who ate everything with this hands his whole life to use cutlery. Eveyone will think he is weird for not having it learned naturally and no one wants to help him. And even if he manages to use cutlery, he will still be decades behind normal people and will always be viewed as weirdo.
Social skills/=Nt I can hold conversations and talk to people and all that but I have autistic mannerisms so they can feel something off and that and my ugly face fucks me over
 
Do you personally want to improve your social skills? Or do you just feel that other people want you to do this?
 
Because normies are braindead fucks.
You can't improve something that doesn't exist.
That's why Chad and Tyrone have social skills, because they've been in the middle of social circles since they were kids.
If you aren't Chad, why would people even want to be around you? How can you improve something that you haven't experienced for more than 20 years, and even if for some miracle you just started to magically get social skills, how can you justify them? Chad justifies his social skills because he isn't faking or trash talking, he has tons of stories, tons of money and the looks to prove that he isn't bullshitting, but me? Ok I talk to a girl, I start a conversation with my amazing social skills, she asks "so, what do you do?" what i'm going to answer with my amazing social skills? what? that I'm a fucking wagie? that I'm a NEET? that I'm a failed mentally ill fuck? what?
Now she asks "how many girlfriends did you have?" what I'm going to answer? and the solution for normies and redpilled cucks is faking and lying because your incredible social skills are nothing but BULLSHIT, meanwhile Chad can easily answer those questions because HE ALREADY EXPERIENCED SOCIAL STATUS SINCE HE WAS A FUCKING KID.
brutal but true
 
Do you personally want to improve your social skills? Or do you just feel that other people want you to do this?
I dont really care anymore. Its way too late now anyways and due to my height and my retarded voice i will never be taken serious
 
You can improve them but it won’t get you a foid
 
The typical advice that is given to socially retarded Aspies like me is that we should just improve our social skills. How exactly do they imagine ? Socialisation is supposed to happen naturally during your childhood and adolescense. If by the time you are 18 and never had a social circle and never had any sort of romanticl/sexual relationships then it never began for you. By the time you are 18 or older, society expects you to have certain skills and abilities. They dont have the time or motivation to teach you whats supposed to happen naturally. Thats like trying to teach a 30 year old man who ate everything with this hands his whole life to use cutlery. Eveyone will think he is weird for not having it learned naturally and no one wants to help him. And even if he manages to use cutlery, he will still be decades behind normal people and will always be viewed as weirdo.
"Social skills" are simply another buzzword for NTness.
 
You can improve them but it won’t get you a foid
How am i supposed to "improve" my social skills if nobody wants to talk to me in the first place ? Plus like i said i will always be behind
 
Because normies are braindead fucks.
You can't improve something that doesn't exist.
That's why Chad and Tyrone have social skills, because they've been in the middle of social circles since they were kids.
If you aren't Chad, why would people even want to be around you? How can you improve something that you haven't experienced for more than 20 years, and even if for some miracle you just started to magically get social skills, how can you justify them? Chad justifies his social skills because he isn't faking or trash talking, he has tons of stories, tons of money and the looks to prove that he isn't bullshitting, but me? Ok I talk to a girl, I start a conversation with my amazing social skills, she asks "so, what do you do?" what i'm going to answer with my amazing social skills? what? that I'm a fucking wagie? that I'm a NEET? that I'm a failed mentally ill fuck? what?
Now she asks "how many girlfriends did you have?" what I'm going to answer? and the solution for normies and redpilled cucks is faking and lying because your incredible social skills are nothing but BULLSHIT, meanwhile Chad can easily answer those questions because HE ALREADY EXPERIENCED SOCIAL STATUS SINCE HE WAS A FUCKING KID.
Exactly.
 
How am i supposed to "improve" my social skills if nobody wants to talk to me in the first place ? Plus like i said i will always be behind
You are improving them by being here as well. You are socially interacting with others via text
 
What about rice ? Do you also eat it with hands ?
Yes I used to eat with spoon but parents got angry and told me to eat with hands I felt like a total uncivilised subhuman eating with my hands
 
I've learned throughout the years to not say awkward shit and to pretend I'm normal and that I'm interested in normal stuff, that helps immensely when I'm forced to interact with normgroids. I suffer socially a little less since I've learned those "social skills" if you can call it like that.
I guess what I'm saying is yeah, if you're autistic and missed out in your developmental years, you won't be able to make it feel natural, but at least you can fake being NT to save yourself some trouble.
 
All redpill advice is to help LTN become MTN and rarely HTN

It doesnt apply to manlets, autists, and other forms of subhumans.
 
I've learned throughout the years to not say awkward shit and to pretend I'm normal and that I'm interested in normal stuff, that helps immensely when I'm forced to interact with normgroids. I suffer socially a little less since I've learned those "social skills" if you can call it like that.
That's a skill for you, but not really for normies

Being interested in normie shit and conforming is natural to them

Technically NPCs don't have skills just programming
 
I mean, you can improve your social skills. But most people who give this advice haven't actually put much thought about what social skills are. Essentially its just being a likeable person who takes other peoples feelings into account, but there are so many things that can make you unlikeable by others that are mostly out of your control. And a big portion of that is looks.

Yes, you can to an extent change the way you look, there's no question about it. But you can't change your facial bones. Or your height. Or your bones in general.

You can have a heart of gold and yet most people won't give a shit about you. Lets be real, what most women are looking for in a man is: power, whether financial or social or physical and good genes aka good looks.

If you're a spergy, ugly man who got bullied in school, you literally have nothing going for you. You have no social power, as you get bullied in social settings because others perceive you as weak, and you have subpar genes (subpar looks.) You are literally everything that repels other people and especially women away from you.

Meanwhile there are psychopaths and narcissists who have full social lives, good careers and plenty of women who throw themselves at them. And then there's the ugly awkward guys who get bullied, work shitty jobs their whole lives, and women don't want anything to do with you.

Also: if you ever have to even think about quote on quote "improving your social skills" then you are a social reject and its very likely already over for you.
 
That's a skill for you, but not really for normies

Being interested in normie shit and conforming is natural to them

Technically NPCs don't have skills just programming
:yes:
 
The typical advice that is given to socially retarded Aspies like me is that we should just improve our social skills. How exactly do they imagine ? Socialisation is supposed to happen naturally during your childhood and adolescense. If by the time you are 18 and never had a social circle and never had any sort of romanticl/sexual relationships then it never began for you. By the time you are 18 or older, society expects you to have certain skills and abilities. They dont have the time or motivation to teach you whats supposed to happen naturally. Thats like trying to teach a 30 year old man who ate everything with this hands his whole life to use cutlery. Eveyone will think he is weird for not having it learned naturally and no one wants to help him. And even if he manages to use cutlery, he will still be decades behind normal people and will always be viewed as weirdo.
improve my social skills? i have tried and it never worked out well. why continue to humiliate my self. if you finished high school and ur social skills are still shit then you are fucked
 
The typical advice that is given to socially retarded Aspies like me is that we should just improve our social skills. How exactly do they imagine ? Socialisation is supposed to happen naturally during your childhood and adolescense. If by the time you are 18 and never had a social circle and never had any sort of romanticl/sexual relationships then it never began for you. By the time you are 18 or older, society expects you to have certain skills and abilities. They dont have the time or motivation to teach you whats supposed to happen naturally. Thats like trying to teach a 30 year old man who ate everything with this hands his whole life to use cutlery. Eveyone will think he is weird for not having it learned naturally and no one wants to help him. And even if he manages to use cutlery, he will still be decades behind normal people and will always be viewed as weirdo.
You need to join Hamza university
 

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