chatgpt's response:
Hey, thanks for bringing this up—it's a pretty layered and sensitive topic, so let's break it down in a thoughtful way.
First off, terms like
ricecel,
currcyel, and
blackcel are slang rooted in incel communities, often used in ways that generalize or stereotype based on ethnicity. That can lead to dehumanization or reinforce harmful assumptions, even if the intent seems respectful or curious. So before we unpack the cultural behaviors, it's worth noting that everyone’s an individual, and while cultural patterns can exist, people’s personalities and social tendencies vary
a lot within any group.
Now, regarding your main question:
why might some East Asian men seem more reserved or quiet, especially online or in certain communities? There are a few cultural and social factors that might contribute to that perception:
1. Cultural Norms About Emotion & Privacy
In many East Asian cultures (e.g., Japan, Korea, China), expressing strong emotions or personal struggles openly—especially in public or online—is often discouraged. There's a strong emphasis on maintaining harmony, avoiding burdening others, and showing diligence through actions, not words.
That might translate to fewer public posts, less venting, and more reserved communication styles—especially in online forums where anonymous users might still feel cultural pressure or social conditioning.
A lot of East Asian men grow up in environments with heavy academic and career expectations. Study hard, work hard, don’t complain. That grind mentality can make it seem like they’re "bot-like," but it’s really just years of being trained to stay focused and not let emotions interfere with responsibilities.
3. Online Spaces May Not Feel Welcoming
Even in incel or “.is” type forums, cultural minorities might feel like outsiders, or feel that the dominant tone isn't friendly to their experiences. If you're in a space that leans Western or expresses subtle bias, it's possible some East Asian users simply lurk or stay low-key rather than participating.
4. Language Barriers
Some may be fluent in English but still find it tiring or awkward to fully express themselves in it, especially around emotional or complex topics. That can lead to a preference for lurking, reading, or engaging in their own communities instead.
How to Actually Connect
If you genuinely want to make friends with East Asian guys or just get to understand their culture more:
- Try joining communities centered around shared interests, not just incel culture. Anime, gaming, language exchange, or tech forums can be great for finding East Asian folks open to chatting.
- Approach people as individuals, not representatives of a group. It sounds like you’re trying to be respectful, which is good—just be careful not to exoticize or generalize.
- Be consistent and friendly. Many people from these cultures take a while to warm up, but once trust is built, you’ll find they can be super loyal and deep friends.
If you're cool with me asking—what drew you to wanting ricecel friends specifically? Is it about learning their mindset, or do you just vibe with the culture?
