I would like to be able to install various extensions to make her have any kink I like, I don't really understand the question.
Anyway, she should have lots of tactile sensors attached to all over her body so she can react to touch everywhere and is also able to distinguish between "normally" touching, "painful" touching and being tickled. For the behaviour, sometimes I would want to be on top ("maledom", but not rape), sometimes on bottom ("femdom") and sometimes "lovey dovey". Unfortunately only 2 choices are possible so I have selected only "lovey dovey" and "other".
The actual kinks/feature requests, if I could select them, would be: Be able to (differently) react to touch & tickling & "pain", can kiss (with tongue), can react to stimulation and "orgasm" with some fluid coming out and having vaginal contractions, can "struggle" in bondage, can react to getting cum in her vagina/on her face/on her mouth (configurably "good" or "bad"), can adopt both a dominant and a submissive and a hybrid personality. A general function requirement would also be that multiple reactions at the same time should be possible (resulting in a "mixture" of all reactions rather than just having one reaction after the other). For example, the reaction to "pain" could be different while the bot has an "orgasm" than otherwise.
I don't need the others. Feet aren't particularly interesting to me, but I would certainly take the ability to do a footjob as a nice bonus. Being able to tickle the feet would be necessary.
Violent r is probably indirectly covered by all my feature requests anyway but I don't see a reason to pick it when I could have normal maledom.
Femdom is "required" for absolute perfection, but I guess it could be really challenging to make such a bot because I think the requirements would be harder. It's one thing to just move a bit in "arbitrary" directions when e.g. struggling in bondage and having very directed and precice movements required for femdom. So it's definitely not something I would expect of a waifu bot in the near future.
DDLG is not something I am interested in. Might try it out if it's available because I am not appaled by it, but not a factor for making a buying decision.
I don't know what ABDL stands for. I googled it and it could be something with adult diapers, but what exactly is it? Anyway, probably not my cup of tea.
Anal and gore are something I don't care about at all. Gore would also be incredibly hard to implement, I guess body parts would need to be detachable with a lot of effort and you would need to be able to store liquids which come out then? But still, when re-attaching everything would need to work fine again. In principle, anal disgusts me for multiple reasons but tbh I might try it out if available as technically it's not any more disgusting in a waifu bot as normal sex. However, I still associate anal sex with gaydom so I'm not sure if I would really do it.
Lovey Dovey, as I said, would be the main reason to buy it and needs to be supported.
Furry would be a strong negative for me as I guess then the waifubot would also looks like one and I prefer human-like looks and it's probably not just an optional feature.
TL;DR
I need Lovey dovey, maledom - struggling in bondage, react to facials etc., support receiving tickling/pain/orgasms
Would suggest adding "orgasm" as kink because it might be common.