Serious when have you ever heard someone outside of reddit say they had to "work on themselves" or "focus on improving" before they can date?

[cowboy-emoji]

i have never seen this mindset outside of reddit, never. nobody thinks they should exclude themselves from the dating pool until they have somehow improved themselves.

why is this mindset so popular on reddit?

is it just some kind of giga-cope? they cant get women due to something outside of their control(height, face, frame) and have convinced themselves its due to something in their control? and if they work hard enough they can magically get women to want to suck their dick

 

[IamJacksBrokenHeart]

its not just on reddit man , ive heard it countless times irl .

Its just an everyday kind of cope for disposable males .

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

its not just on reddit man , ive heard it countless times irl .

Its just an everyday kind of cope for disposable males .

Pretty much, I had this same mindset before, but now I don't even give a shit. Most these chicks have been rammed by chad dick already and didn't have to improve, meanwhile I'm just ugly and have to use bullshit like having a good career and virtues to and then get a chick that most likely has been plowed countless times. Not worth it.

 

[RREEEEEEEEE]

Some sand lesbian chick said that to my friend that he needs to love himself first before anyone else can.

 

[BITG]

It’s typical blue pilled cope. That’s all. Just like the bull shit advise most men will say “be confident”.