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What Would A World That Doesn’t Center Men Look Like? - AOL
Time for straight dudes to pick up on a practice that’s bolstered our mental health since the beginning of time.
It’s hard to describe the feeling of watching something simultaneously captivating and haunting — like some types of natural disaster you can’t look away from. Yet this is how I’ve felt when talking about Netflix’s “Adolescence,” a series that came out last year, to friends, family, or really anyone who will listen. Witnessing the chilling effects of online manosphere communities, the repackaging of misogyny from generation to generation, and the process of how toxic masculinity gets normalized by peers all struck a chord with both the *** educator and the feminist in me.
While this concept sounds simple enough, it actually requires a deep examination of how heteropatriarchy embeds itself in all of our relationships, decision-making, and opinions, and shifts our self-worth toward the comfort and validation of men.
Because men gain the most from the patriarchy, they are also responsible for dismantling it, says Manijeh Badiee, a queer psychologist in California.
According to Badiee, “Research on men’s gender role conflict demonstrates that men who adhere to traditional masculinity norms face worse mental health outcomes, have lower quality relationships, and tend to be more violent.” By abandoning patriarchal norms that tell men it’s not OK to convey “feminine” emotions, men gain deeper access to themselves and their desires. Men intentionally accessing their emotions could profoundly improve how we all relate to each other. I mean, let’s be realistic. It could possibly prevent wars.
Imagine more straight men claiming their right to engage in the practices of connection and bonding that other identities do. For example, in the social sphere, “men can experience openness and connection when they engage in ‘feminine’ activities like gossip and feelings-sharing,” Shakib says.
Imagine a world where 4b lesbians control every aspect of society, while men are feminised to that of sissies and wimps. Shit would be like Planet of the Apes





