Deleted member 7448
Name is Abdu, live in Laos, born on 24.08.1992.
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Look, we're incels, we're ugly losers bla bla bla.
But even if I wasn't an incel, I know for a fact that I wouldn't let a bitch manipulate and nag me. And I read so many stories online how men are cheated on, lied to, manipulated, used for money, alimony, child support etc...
Spineless fucks so thirsty for pussy and companionship they let themselves be walked over and abused.
But even if I wasn't an incel, I know for a fact that I wouldn't let a bitch manipulate and nag me. And I read so many stories online how men are cheated on, lied to, manipulated, used for money, alimony, child support etc...
Spineless fucks so thirsty for pussy and companionship they let themselves be walked over and abused.
I've been in similar situations, though luckily I never proposed/got married. It goes a lot deeper than that.
Things start out kinda great, they get along with your friends, maybe even your family. They are "into" all your hobbies, and want to learn about you and what makes you tick. Also the sex. Holy fuck! Especially if maybe, your an alright looking person, not great, or maybe a bit chubby, and shy. Always had a hard time with the opposite gender, and this person comes along and Blows. Your. Mind.
Then, maybe a month or two down the road, they start to seem a bit uneasy around one particular friend. Or maybe they aren't quite as comfortable hanging out around your favorite spots anymore. You ask whats wrong, they insist that its nothing, and you should go have fun! They are your friend! Its your game! You feel a bit guilty though- Something is obviously setting them off. You decide to do the noble thing, a small sacrifice for something that seems this real, and reduce the time you spend with/at that person/place. Not stop, but cut back. That ought to help. You pat yourself on the back for being such a good S.O., and you get special sex that night.
Thing is they keep getting a bit more uncomfortable around other people, and you pull back a bit more, until your circle isn't quite as tight as it used to be. Then maybe you hear a story, from her or her best friend, that one of your friends tried to pick her up. You rush to confront them about it, and they can't believe you'd ask them that, maybe they say that this special person in your life isn't so great for you. You get angry, leave in a huff, you don't talk to that person much anymore...
Things get worse, slowly. They start criticizing you, gently at first. You try to get better, make them happy, hell they are the only one who really gets you. The only person you feel hasn't pissed you off lately. They tend to target things you really don't have an aptitude for, so you focus on them, and try to get better and better. They somehow never mention how great you are at other things, those don't matter anymore. Didn't they used to?
That gentle criticism turns to yelling, suddenly you fucking suck at everything. They've called all your friends shit, and your mom is just such a bitch. Part of you agrees, you can't even do that one simple thing right, and its not like anyone talks to you anymore anyways. You must be shit, they say so, and no else is saying anything else. You can't make yourself think otherwise. You replay those last conversations with your friends- those screaming matches. You've changed, not sure your the person that they trusted all those years. That confirms it, your not worth anything.
They keep yelling at you, berating you and anyone who tries to get close. But they spend so much time at their "friends" house. Maybe you drop them off there, give them some spending cash. Buy a pack of smokes, maybe a carton. You don't see them for a weekend, you just go home, alone, staring at the wall.
Time passes, and yeah, part of you knows that your being cheated on. Maybe if you were better it wouldn't happen, and maybe saying it outloud would crush you. You just hope it gets better.
It won't. If your reading this, and it kinda sounds familiar? Maybe your friend went through this, that friend you don't talk to anymore. Maybe its you? Reach out. Grab a cup of coffee. Call a friend when they are at their "friend"'s house. I don't care if its 2 AM, call. Thats what it took for me. A 10 hour talk with a friend I'd abandoned and shit on 4 years prior. They picked up, they listened. They reminded me that I was worth a damn. I ended it with that person a week later. I went back to school, I found someone else.
I'm married, doing pretty well actually. I want the same thing for anyone else in this spot. u/Kateejo88, I want that for your brother. Help him.
Things start out kinda great, they get along with your friends, maybe even your family. They are "into" all your hobbies, and want to learn about you and what makes you tick. Also the sex. Holy fuck! Especially if maybe, your an alright looking person, not great, or maybe a bit chubby, and shy. Always had a hard time with the opposite gender, and this person comes along and Blows. Your. Mind.
Then, maybe a month or two down the road, they start to seem a bit uneasy around one particular friend. Or maybe they aren't quite as comfortable hanging out around your favorite spots anymore. You ask whats wrong, they insist that its nothing, and you should go have fun! They are your friend! Its your game! You feel a bit guilty though- Something is obviously setting them off. You decide to do the noble thing, a small sacrifice for something that seems this real, and reduce the time you spend with/at that person/place. Not stop, but cut back. That ought to help. You pat yourself on the back for being such a good S.O., and you get special sex that night.
Thing is they keep getting a bit more uncomfortable around other people, and you pull back a bit more, until your circle isn't quite as tight as it used to be. Then maybe you hear a story, from her or her best friend, that one of your friends tried to pick her up. You rush to confront them about it, and they can't believe you'd ask them that, maybe they say that this special person in your life isn't so great for you. You get angry, leave in a huff, you don't talk to that person much anymore...
Things get worse, slowly. They start criticizing you, gently at first. You try to get better, make them happy, hell they are the only one who really gets you. The only person you feel hasn't pissed you off lately. They tend to target things you really don't have an aptitude for, so you focus on them, and try to get better and better. They somehow never mention how great you are at other things, those don't matter anymore. Didn't they used to?
That gentle criticism turns to yelling, suddenly you fucking suck at everything. They've called all your friends shit, and your mom is just such a bitch. Part of you agrees, you can't even do that one simple thing right, and its not like anyone talks to you anymore anyways. You must be shit, they say so, and no else is saying anything else. You can't make yourself think otherwise. You replay those last conversations with your friends- those screaming matches. You've changed, not sure your the person that they trusted all those years. That confirms it, your not worth anything.
They keep yelling at you, berating you and anyone who tries to get close. But they spend so much time at their "friends" house. Maybe you drop them off there, give them some spending cash. Buy a pack of smokes, maybe a carton. You don't see them for a weekend, you just go home, alone, staring at the wall.
Time passes, and yeah, part of you knows that your being cheated on. Maybe if you were better it wouldn't happen, and maybe saying it outloud would crush you. You just hope it gets better.
It won't. If your reading this, and it kinda sounds familiar? Maybe your friend went through this, that friend you don't talk to anymore. Maybe its you? Reach out. Grab a cup of coffee. Call a friend when they are at their "friend"'s house. I don't care if its 2 AM, call. Thats what it took for me. A 10 hour talk with a friend I'd abandoned and shit on 4 years prior. They picked up, they listened. They reminded me that I was worth a damn. I ended it with that person a week later. I went back to school, I found someone else.
I'm married, doing pretty well actually. I want the same thing for anyone else in this spot. u/Kateejo88, I want that for your brother. Help him.