Serious Was your father involved in your life heavily? Did he give you guidance and his time?

[Deleted member 1780]

I feel like I would be a lot less socially retarded and happy if my father played a more active role in my life.
My mother was always busy, so I don't blame her much. My father however was always doing his own thing and never seemed to care about me.
When I look back at my life, I can only count 2 or 3 times that I actually spent genuine time with my father.

I remember always telling myself that when I had kids, I would never do what my father did to me. I wanted to create progeny that would not suffer what I did. That's out of the window because I don't plan on being a betabux for some used up western bitch. I can never really correct his mistakes I guess.

On top of inceldom, I have to deal with never really having a childhood. There will never be something in my history that would make me smile.
The past and future are all shit.

 

[Michael15651]

He always took my mother's side.

 

[YoungCurryCell]

Nope never had a postive father role model. Prolly the reason why I am so weak and shy.

 

[Sanpakucel]

both my parents were pretty involved until i was about 10 yo, then some pretty wacky stuff happened and as a result, I just ended up becoming a shut-in playing vidya all day. Then again, it could be worse, like 80% of people my age that i've met claim that they have single mothers

 

[Intellectual NPC]

He was in my life but he didn't give much real guidance or had any real presence. He wasn't a bad parent in general, but when it came to women and socially it's like he was a distant friend.

The only advice from him I can recall is to stop watching porn and that making girls laugh is the way to succeed with them. Not necessarily bad advice, but he also went for extremely short ethnic women, so there's that. I don't think he would've done that well with a white woman.

Edit: My parents are separated, so that played a role too, of course.

 

[HumanTrash]

He pumped & dumped my mom basically and stayed out of my life ever since

 

[NeetSupremacist]

My father is a good person but he's very autistic, that's why he never was involved in my life.

 

[FinnCel]

He used to beat my up a lot.
After becoming a teenager, I beat him up and he stopped beating me

 

[Darth Cialis]

My father is a compulsive hoarder and never liked it when I invited friends to the house and always discouraged me from doing that.

 

[Deleted member 16624]

No,he was working 12 hours a day and spent the rest of the time sleeping.Which is understandable.

 

[PectusManletScarCel]

No he got divorce raped when I was 6 and I never saw him again

 

[Nakuro]

I feel like I would be a lot less socially retarded and happy if my father played a more active role in my life.
My mother was always busy, so I don't blame her much. My father however was always doing his own thing and never seemed to care about me.
When I look back at my life, I can only count 2 or 3 times that I actually spent genuine time with my father.

I remember always telling myself that when I had kids, I would never do what my father did to me. I wanted to create progeny that would not suffer what I did. That's out of the window because I don't plan on being a betabux for some used up western bitch. I can never really correct his mistakes I guess.

On top of inceldom, I have to deal with never really having a childhood. There will never be something in my history that would make me smile.

I had a discussion with him yesterday for being Incel and he is Chad, at the end he said that i should rope and sui

He pumped & dumped my mom basically and stayed out of my life ever since

Chad life

 

[Anoncel123]

No,he was working 12 hours a day and spent the rest of the time sleeping.Which is understandable.

 

[Smallondick]

My father is a good person but he's very autistic, that's why he never was involved in my life.

 

[Blue Squirtle]

My dad would work then come home and stay in the room, the only time I really was him was when he would knock at the door, his excuse was he was "too tired" and the only time he acknowledged my existence was when I fucked up, my mom had to play the mother/father role which is probably why I'm fucked.

 

[ihaveno1]

nothing my parents could have done for me tbh i hid too much from them, i would've liked if they tried to set me up with foid or something but it wouldn't have worked out

 

[Deleted member 1780]

my mom had to play the mother/father role which is probably why I'm fucked.

I've reached the same conclusion. I'm certain that I would at the very least be able to cope better as an ugly male if I had sufficient social skills. I've been robbed of these skills because I was never sure of how to navigate life. Everything was so confusing and still is. This is the role that a father is supposed to take. One of guidance.

Now I'm lost AND ugly. The damage has been done.

 

[Blue Squirtle]

I've reached the same conclusion. I'm certain that I would at the very least be able to cope better as an ugly male if I had sufficient social skills. I've been robbed of these skills because I was never sure of how to navigate life. Everything was so confusing and still is. This is the role that a father is supposed to take. One of guidance.

Now I'm lost AND ugly. The damage has been done.

that explains why I'm socially retarded.

 

[newbiecel]

He used to beat my up a lot.
After becoming a teenager, I beat him up and he stopped beating me

Is that a 4chan greentext? IDK why but it sounds extremely familiar

 

[oldcel75]

No, he died when I was a kid.

 

[Deleted member 1780]

No, he died when I was a kid.

Sorry for your loss bro. I think that is a far worse predicament.

 

[Captain Funny]

Not really. I was actually afraid of him throughout most my childhood. I only really ever saw him whenever he left his room, which usually meant he was in a bad mood. I feel that I’ve developed a timid personality as a result of living this way, I’d usually retreat into my room whenever he left his. He worked all the time and would only ever lay in his room whenever he got home. As a result, most memories with my father are rather unpleasant ones. He would often scrutinize my autistic social skills and a lot of other things I was insecure about. At one point he got so mad at me that he said “ it’s no wonder you don’t have girlfriend “. I don’t hate him, not anymore, but I still find it difficult to be with him sometimes. I don’t believe he truly meant every mean thing he said, and was instead acting on impulse as a result of constant stress but I really feel I missed out on a lot. Whatever, everything’s my fault anyway because I’m incel. Childhood is inconsequential if you have a bad personality

 

[superighteous]

I had a discussion with him yesterday for being Incel and he is Chad, at the end he said that i should rope and sui

Did he really? What were his exact words?

 

[Modafincel]

Same, he provided the physical needs like food and shelter, but provided no emotional development. He also always took my mom's side when she was mean to me. I'm planning to cut contact with my parents in a couple of years.

 

[GameDevCel]

nope, my dad worked 90 hrs a week and i passed 4 weeks with him by year, he also was giga cucked by my mon

Nope never had a postive father role model. Prolly the reason why I am so weak and shy.

probaly the reason i was so autistic and violent

 

[Words2_live_bye]

He pumped & dumped my mom basically and stayed out of my life ever since

 

[Deleted member 16455]

Never had a father that was a role model. Just had anger issues and was controlling and verbally abusive at times. But he did provide basic needs like food and shelter and money. But he thinks that’s all a father needs to do
Never had a father that was a role model

 

[FinnCel]

Is that a 4chan greentext? IDK why but it sounds extremely familiar

Probably I'm not the only one

 

[Deleted member 1252]

Grew up under a single mother. Father was an alcoholic, I saw him a few times a year. My childhood is not a happy story.

My entire life has been shit tbh, and it’s not gonna suddenly get good now.

Pass the rope.

 

[GowkBird]

I feel like I would be a lot less socially retarded and happy if my father played a more active role in my life.
My mother was always busy, so I don't blame her much. My father however was always doing his own thing and never seemed to care about me.
When I look back at my life, I can only count 2 or 3 times that I actually spent genuine time with my father.

I remember always telling myself that when I had kids, I would never do what my father did to me. I wanted to create progeny that would not suffer what I did. That's out of the window because I don't plan on being a betabux for some used up western bitch. I can never really correct his mistakes I guess.

On top of inceldom, I have to deal with never really having a childhood. There will never be something in my history that would make me smile.
The past and future are all shit.

Same. But in the past few years we started to talking and hanging out on fishing, camping etc. It's awkward after years of ignoring but it's better than nothing.

 

[Blacktarpill]

Im not sure tbh, but my mum was involved more than him.

 

[Ticcel]

I might as well have been raised by a single mom tbh.

 

[EyesAreSoCold]

I feel like I would be a lot less socially retarded and happy if my father played a more active role in my life.
My mother was always busy, so I don't blame her much. My father however was always doing his own thing and never seemed to care about me.
When I look back at my life, I can only count 2 or 3 times that I actually spent genuine time with my father.

I remember always telling myself that when I had kids, I would never do what my father did to me. I wanted to create progeny that would not suffer what I did. That's out of the window because I don't plan on being a betabux for some used up western bitch. I can never really correct his mistakes I guess.

On top of inceldom, I have to deal with never really having a childhood. There will never be something in my history that would make me smile.
The past and future are all shit.

No he was very absent and all my upbrining was done by mom, and when I think about it none of my parents ever gave me guidance. All they did was to make me a good child, to be obedient and nice JFL ofc I'm a neurotic loser today

 

[Ticcel]

No he was very absent and all my upbrining was done by mom, and when I think about it none of my parents ever gave me guidance. All they did was to make me a good child, to be obedient and nice JFL ofc I'm a neurotic loser today

Damn bro, this hits home.

 

[virgin4life]

My parents were both drug dealers. My father was paranoid after decades of being chased by the police and would always hide at home and isolate himself and walk around in his underwear when I brought friends home so I avoided bringing friends home as much as possible.

 

[Nakuro]

Did he really? What were his exact words?

You Should killyourself

 

[voiceoftreason]

The most memorable bit of advice I got from my father was "go to hell".
I also remember him uttering how it was "a blessing in disguise that voiceoftreason's playstation broke" to my therapist.
Aside from that I got nothing.

 

[Wonder]

My father is a good man and taught me many things but he's also a bit of a cuck who let his wife walk all over him in divorce and remarried some used up, ugly as all hell 40-something woman. At least he taught me, accidentally it may be, to avoid marriages.

 

[Deleted member 8206]

Nope never had a postive father role model. Prolly the reason why I am so weak and shy.

 

[Deleted member 12355]

my dad was a cock, always yelling at me growing up which made me develop resentment for him, and cling to my mother more. Little did I know my mother was even more of a cock, or perhaps cunt is the proper term

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

he was an angry drunk that got involved as little as possible.
possibly one of the freakiest memories I have is being accompanied by him to a doctor visit while he was totally drunk out of his mind and I had to somehow be the adult in that situation and keep him under control so he wouldn't embarass us too much, that was the most psycho shit ever and a defining, typical experience for my childhood.

btw, most of the guys i have befriended are in a similar situation, i have a lot of trouble making friends with normal, strong, confident men with present/involved fathers.

 

[kvn]

No he was very absent and all my upbrining was done by mom, and when I think about it none of my parents ever gave me guidance. All they did was to make me a good child, to be obedient and nice JFL ofc I'm a neurotic loser today

Story of my life. I was brought up by my mum and female teachers. Couple that with utter shit genetics and its no wonder im an incel

 

[Cuyen]

I like him bro

 

[superighteous]

You Should killyourself

Wow. Fuck him, sorry. Guess I was expecting something more implied.

 

[Braincel14w]

My dad has always had all the time in the world for me. He always gives me advice, however, most of his advice has been catastrophic for me when I followed it. Doing what you want to do, making your own mistakes and learning from it is a much better strategy than listening to others when it comes to your path in life.

 

[incubus]

No. He never intervened much but sometimes did side with me against my mom. Died when I was 12 though.