Trouble going outside again

[Epedaphic]

I have dealt with this before and for a while since then:

I am trying to go outside but it's hard

I'm trying. I've been trying for hours today. It's tough living in isolation.

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Was thinking about bumping that thread, but decided to make a new one instead. Since I posted that in 2023, I've had on and off periods (mostly on) of having difficulty with going outside. Especially in 2024 since about the summer it's been tough. Now the past few weeks I've struggled a lot with it again. I want to go outside, not really to do anything in particular, but just to be in the sun. It's even kind of cold outside. But I get very anxious about it and come up with all these reasons why I can't or shouldn't. So now that I've realized this it should be easy, right? Just don't worry about those things. But I still struggle with this for some reason. I don't like the isolation and want to be outside, but it's tough.

Also, today of all days (v-day) and the possibility of seeing couples isn't any help at all. But if I am going to go outside, now would be the time, since most people would probably be "at work" whether at their workplace or at home working, so I assume there wouldn't be that many couples out and about. I usually get pretty sad seeing couples.

Anyway, just wanted to put this out there. Thanks for reading if you did. Would like to hear what comments people have. Does anyone else deal with this, and what helps you? Also, I hope there isn't too much flaming (or any) in this thread. Thanks.

 

[Grodd]

No point in going outside only suffering awaits us

 

[Epedaphic]

No point in going outside only suffering awaits us

Ah, usually it feels good to take a walk for me (provided I don't pass by anyone who ignores me or any one yelling at me). I also like to buy things sometimes.

 

[Adolf Kitler]

No point in going outside only suffering awaits us

 

[Epedaphic]

@Adolf Kitler can't quote so using user tag

Ah, yeah, there is suffering out there for sure. Especially today. but would like to make it out still.

I think what i'll do is just take small steps towards it. Maybe every 10 minutes I will take one small step towards it. and I'll see if this works. by an hour, I should be able to go outside.

 

[kay']

Can you get a dog maybe? It will force u to go outside to walk it

 

[Adolf Kitler]

@Adolf Kitler can't quote so using user tag

Ah, yeah, there is suffering out there for sure. Especially today. but would like to make it out still.

I think what i'll do is just take small steps towards it. Maybe every 10 minutes I will take one small step towards it. and I'll see if this works. by an hour, I should be able to go outside.

The only reason id go outside is for food or nature

 

[Ahnfeltia]

Sorry to hear it bud. I can't relate at all, so unfortunately I can't help you. I take it you don't have a garden wherein you can apricate?

 

[RuudVanNistelrooy]

Agoraphobia - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[copiummax]

just dont go outside and rot theory.

 

[Grodd]

Ah, usually it feels good to take a walk for me (provided I don't pass by anyone who ignores me or any one yelling at me). I also like to buy things sometimes.

Yeah I do go outside but not in populated public areas

 

[Epedaphic]

Can you get a dog maybe? It will force u to go outside to walk it

Ah, this is a good idea, thanks man. I have thought about this in the past... my fear is that I have too much trouble just taking care of myself and my everyday affairs that if I have a dog on top of that, it would just push things over the top and life would become unmanageable.

The only reason id go outside is for food or nature

Ah yeah, food is important and a common reason for me to make it outside too. Lately i've been surviving on frozen food that I have stored up but it's kinda running low (I can probably go another 3-5 days with this though). nature is also very nice and a good reason for going outside. I always feel kinda like shit walking on nature trails nearby though due to being ignored or walking by couples and shit. Would be great if I could find a nature location I could be alone.

 

[Epedaphic]

Sorry to hear it bud. I can't relate at all, so unfortunately I can't help you. I take it you don't have a garden wherein you can apricate?

Thank you. I don't have a garden nearby although now that I think about it there is a park nearby with a garden that I can go to. It costs money to enter but I can see if they have long term passes or something, I think it'd be worth it to have a place to walk around.

Agoraphobia - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Ah, yeah, I have thought a lot about this and I think this may be it. Once things reach a breaking point however, like with food for example, I can usually make myself go outside. So, I'm not sure if I qualify for this, or maybe just a milder form of it.

just dont go outside and rot theory.

Ah, yeah, I am familiar with that. I really hate full-on rotting like this.

Yeah I do go outside but not in populated public areas

Ah I see. I get that man. I like the less populated areas, OR the crowded areas (not packed though where you can't move) where everyone basically ignores everyone else. But ngl, i have a yearning to fit in with just general atmospheres, like a cafe, or a store, or something like that. I believe some people call these "third places." But, I just never feel like I quite fit in with those places, always feel uncomfortable. No that for my face i guess.

 

[dextercel]

to be honest going outside isn't really ideal either

leave your house just to get mogged by everybody

 

[Epedaphic]

to be honest going outside isn't really ideal either

leave your house just to get mogged by everybody

ah yeah, this is true too. it's rough out there.

 

[Ahnfeltia]

Thank you. I don't have a garden nearby although now that I think about it there is a park nearby with a garden that I can go to. It costs money to enter but I can see if they have long term passes or something, I think it'd be worth it to have a place to walk around.

If you don't have a forest nearby, that might be nice yeah.

i have a yearning to fit in with just general atmospheres, like a cafe, or a store, or something like that. I believe some people call these "third places." But, I just never feel like I quite fit in with those places, always feel uncomfortable. No that for my face i guess.

I don't think a store quite counts as a third place, but it might be hard getting comfortable at a third place without knowing someone who frequents said third place and easing in via them. Have you ever felt comfortable at your second places? Personally I've never even felt truly comfortable at my second places.

 

[JKlancecaster069]

I don't even try to go outside for walks anymore I've completely given up.

 

[Karakol96]

I want to go outside aswell but have nowhere to go. no nature other than a tiny forest and some fields and too many normies there aswell

 

[Epedaphic]

If you don't have a forest nearby, that might be nice yeah.

I don't think a store quite counts as a third place, but it might be hard getting comfortable at a third place without knowing someone who frequents said third place and easing in via them. Have you ever felt comfortable at your second places? Personally I've never even felt truly comfortable at my second places.

Ah man, after reading that article, I was way off with third places, and actually I don't think I've ever been to one before.

I have had some second places that I became somewhat comfortable in. Sadly the cons have outweighed the pros most of the time though.

I don't even try to go outside for walks anymore I've completely given up.

Ah man. I stopped as well, when the weather got cold. Even though I could use a treadmill or something.

I want to go outside aswell but have nowhere to go. no nature other than a tiny forest and some fields and too many normies there aswell

Ah yeah, same here. Although maybe I'll see if I can make it to a nearby park with some regularity. Sometimes I go to a store.

 

[psyop]

Have you tried going out early in the morning? Usually less people about

 

[j10009504]

agoraphobia

 

[Knajjd]

I have you tried wearing a baseball cap and/or a hoody?

 

[RandomGuy]

agoraphobia

View: https://youtube.com/shorts/9Fyj_yDWFOQ?si=aZSN7gKir_k2_OwB

 

[Todd Thundercock]

I am also lately, only because this winter has been brutally cold and will be for at least another 2 weeks.

 

[Epedaphic]

Have you tried going out early in the morning? Usually less people about

Ah, maybe I will try that. Although I gotta start waking up earlier to do that, sleep is a whole other story too. Usually struggle sleeping although one of the issues I have IS that I wake up early in the morning, but maybe I can use that to my advantage in this case what I usually do is toss and turn for a while but I will try to get out of bed now. Thanks for the suggestion.

agoraphobia

Ah, yeah, maybe mildly.

I have you tried wearing a baseball cap and/or a hoody?

Ah, I haven't. Maybe I will try this though. Might help to be less conspicuous. Thanks for the suggestion.

View: https://youtube.com/shorts/9Fyj_yDWFOQ?si=aZSN7gKir_k2_OwB

I am also lately, only because this winter has been brutally cold and will be for at least another 2 weeks.

Ah man, it's been really cold here too. That's a big barrier to going out as well

 

[j10009504]

wear sunglasses with the hoodie then you can hide right in public

 

[Epedaphic]

wear sunglasses with the hoodie then you can hide right in public

Ah, yeah, I could try this. Thanks for the suggestion. I may even try masking up again despite how much I dislike wearing that thing.

 

[j10009504]

Ah, yeah, I could try this. Thanks for the suggestion. I may even try masking up again despite how much I dislike wearing that thing.

not bad idea if anyone says anything you can say you're sick

 

[Hoppipolla]

For some reason I prefer the night time.

Even when it's still pretty much day but just dark (like in winter oftentimes) I prefer it.

It's just nice when I don't feel so highly visible to everyone so I feel less self-conscious.

Does that help you too?

 

[glutty]

For some reason I prefer the night time.

Even when it's still pretty much day but just dark (like in winter oftentimes) I prefer it.

It's just nice when I don't feel so highly visible to everyone so I feel less self-conscious.

Does that help you too?

Night time is nice especially in the summer but like the romantic air sometimes ruins it when you get constantly reminded of your loneliness it's very bittersweet, winter nights on the other hand tend to feel bitter and cold like your whole body is just numbing as the wind blows over you.

 

[starcrapoo]

i dont go outside in the weekends except at night to go pickup my food or go grocery shopping

 

[DeadOnArrivalCel]

I only go outside at night it's so grim everywhere during the day even if it's sunny.
When I just see how society is and how people are I just wish there was another disease a million times worse than COVID or that something would burn this entire fuckin planet

 

[Hoppipolla]

Night time is nice especially in the summer but like the romantic air sometimes ruins it when you get constantly reminded of your loneliness it's very bittersweet, winter nights on the other hand tend to feel bitter and cold like your whole body is just numbing as the wind blows over you.

Yeah it can be a bit chilly! Layering and gloves helps lots ^_^

Did you know that in medieval times they thought night air was toxic! I think the real reason was the mosquitoes though.

Kinda wild

 

[glutty]

Yeah it can be a bit chilly! Layering and gloves helps lots ^_^

Did you know that in medieval times they thought night air was toxic! I think the real reason was the mosquitoes though.

Kinda wild

Or you could just have another person to help warm you up, so over....