You were born in a deeply abnormal time period when it comes to dating. A time period that asks of physically unattractive males the impossible. There is no shame in not succeeding in a rigged game.
A defining characteristic of teenagehood is lack of knowledge, especially historical knowledge, and the perspective that comes with it. So let me accelerate everything for you.
1) Before the 1960s (so, at most, sixty years), those who were publicly shamed, including in the USA, were the non-virgins. Premarital sex used to carry a great social stigma well until the end of the 1950s. Sexually active Stacies and Chads were made to feel inferior to virtuous virgins. Yes, "lad banter" has always existed, notably in the Army, but you should also know that when a military chaplain objected to the distribution of condoms to American troops before the Normandy landing, most of the troops threw their condoms to the ground out of fear of committing a capital sin in fornication. (source: Beevor, D-Day: The Battle for Normandy). Just imagine that.
It goes also without saying that nudity / sex acts in movies or television were completely censored.
What changed everything: the contraceptive Pill (approved by the FDA in 1960), Hollywood movies (once censors were no longer willing to fight the mountains of "degeneracy" coming from L.A.), and the death throes of Christianity.
2) Before the Roaring Twenties (1920s), there was no true concept of "girlfriend", and romantic kisses or public displays of affection were still taboo / source of scandal.
3) Before the 1880s, marriages were all arranged to a large extent, and premarital relationships with the opposite sex (including strictly platonic relationships) were strictly forbidden.
You can look up all these facts in wikipedia, or books and artworks produced in these periods.
My assessment is that you were born in a very unlucky, very rare and very bizarre time period. Your genes probably won't survive because of this severe lack of luck. I'm sorry. But you shouldn't feel guilty about it. You're just victim of a particularly unlucky phenomenon of natural selection.
A defining characteristic of teenagehood is lack of knowledge, especially historical knowledge, and the perspective that comes with it. So let me accelerate everything for you.
1) Before the 1960s (so, at most, sixty years), those who were publicly shamed, including in the USA, were the non-virgins. Premarital sex used to carry a great social stigma well until the end of the 1950s. Sexually active Stacies and Chads were made to feel inferior to virtuous virgins. Yes, "lad banter" has always existed, notably in the Army, but you should also know that when a military chaplain objected to the distribution of condoms to American troops before the Normandy landing, most of the troops threw their condoms to the ground out of fear of committing a capital sin in fornication. (source: Beevor, D-Day: The Battle for Normandy). Just imagine that.
It goes also without saying that nudity / sex acts in movies or television were completely censored.
What changed everything: the contraceptive Pill (approved by the FDA in 1960), Hollywood movies (once censors were no longer willing to fight the mountains of "degeneracy" coming from L.A.), and the death throes of Christianity.
2) Before the Roaring Twenties (1920s), there was no true concept of "girlfriend", and romantic kisses or public displays of affection were still taboo / source of scandal.
3) Before the 1880s, marriages were all arranged to a large extent, and premarital relationships with the opposite sex (including strictly platonic relationships) were strictly forbidden.
You can look up all these facts in wikipedia, or books and artworks produced in these periods.
My assessment is that you were born in a very unlucky, very rare and very bizarre time period. Your genes probably won't survive because of this severe lack of luck. I'm sorry. But you shouldn't feel guilty about it. You're just victim of a particularly unlucky phenomenon of natural selection.
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