Miss, I understand your intent, but you must understand. The reaction to such a method varies from person to person. The only constant we have to rely on is our appearance. A good looking guy can bumble his way through a proposal and land a date with a funny story to tell later. Guys like myself, as personal experience tells me, can get everything right and cry themselves to sleep for a week. I bought a coastie girl an early Christmas gift one year. It was a pair of RayBans, she worked on airplanes. I had asked her out before but she had said she was busy that weekend. Apparently, what she actually meant was "I'm not interested, leave me alone", but since she didn't actually say that, I didn't know. I figured I'd get her something for Christmas, and change the script to "I'd love to take you out sometime, when are you free and we'll go from there? If you'd feel more comfortable bringing a friend along, I totally don't mind." I got the RayBans, got the okay from the NCO on duty to give it to her the next day, so I went home and wrapped it in brown paper and tied it with string to give it a rustic look. I plopped a faux pink rose on the top where the knot of string was and went down to give it to her. Guys knew I was coming, told her, and I waited. Then I waited some more. And some more. Then someone comes in, real awkward tone, and tells me I need to leave. I don't even remember what else was said, i just remember going to my car, crying the whole way home, and that the only thing that kept me from veering into oncoming traffic was fear of hurting someone else. I lost my job over that. I lost my job because I wasn't able to read her mind and realize "I'm busy this weekend" meant "please leave me alone". Because someone didn't have the decency to tell the truth, and I went an acted upon the lie that was told to me. Girls, tell him the truth. We want to cling to some glimmer of hope. If you don't flat out tell us no, most of us will believe the excuse and think we still have a chance as I did. Dammit I hate this whole situation. I hate that I'm not attractive, because it is without a doubt the root of my problems with women.