Governments, media, and the rabid left (archetypally redditors and similar useful idiots) have been trying to push the narrative of an "incel ideology" and pin the violent extremist label on us for years. Some countries, like Canada and the UK, go so far as to label us terrorists. They have a category of security risk called IMVE (ideologically motivated violent extremism) within their own intelligence communities. The problem (for them) is that there is no incel ideology - no cause - and so they desperately need that to be true. They need there to be an incel ideology, else they won't be able to justify using the IMVE label on us whenever a lone killer goes on a spree and it turns out he was incel (like general Cho).
When you use a phrase like "our cause" you're lending credence to these entities using the IMVE label on us, because from their point of view if we're saying that there's a cause, then there must be an ideology behind it. You might be completely out of your depth here and fail to understand or appreciate the gravity of this. When a government throws the "terrorist" label on you it's open season for them. That's it, it's over, ggwp. This is why I'm very hostile to any mention or hint of any ideology behind inceldom.
So unless you're a fed, infiltroon, or any other bad actor who's trying to COINTELPRO the forum and shift the Overton window, then stick to shitposting and stop using these phrases.