I have very very big labia, I have seen porn, I have seen amateur porn with real bodies, I know I'm not broken, but I also know I am very outside of the norm. The only time I've seen women that look like me down there is when it's a fetsh for that specifically.
I am feeling a bit frustrated at the hate I've seen for women not wiping front to back and the quite frankly ableist discourse, because I feel like no one is mentioning this?? It's making me feel like maybe I really am a lot further out of the norm than I thought or I'm not trying hard enough.
Like I physically cannot wipe that way. In order to do that I'd literally have to get on my back, get spread egal, hold myself apart with one tiny hand against all that flesh, then wipe with the other.
