Parental Treatment and Behaviour
While mothers were still in the hospital with their newborn girls, infant attractiveness was significantly and negatively correlated with a factor of maternal behavior labeled Interest in Others. The less attractive the baby, the more the mother directed her attention to and interacted with people other than the baby. This pattern was quite pervasive, occurring during both the feeding and the play situations.
By 3-months, infant attractiveness and the mother's interest in others were also significantly correlated for mothers of boys. And again, the pattern occurred in both the feeding and the play contexts. For 3-month-old girls, attractiveness was related to factors of maternal behavior involving positive affect. Mothers of more attractive girls, relative to those with less attractive girls, more often kissed, cooed, and smiled at their daughters while holding them close and cuddling them.
To further explicate the behavior of the mothers in this study, maternal attitudes toward their newborn infants were examined by computing the correlation between infant attractiveness and a factor reflecting concern and disappointment from the Parental Attitude Questionnaire (Parke & Sawin, 1975) on a subset of the sample. Sample items from this factor include: disappointed in baby's behavior, doesn't enjoy feeding baby, prefers not to hold baby, worries that baby is hard to calm, feels like spanking baby. The significant correlation (r = .43) indicated that the mothers of less attractive infants were more concerned about and disappointed in their infants, at least at the newborn period of the infant's life.
The attitudinal and behavioral data are thus both consistent and complementary and suggest that an unattractive appearance in an infant may elicit maternal concern and anxiety about the infant's health, behavior, and future development. These attitudes may then be expressed by mothers by the way in which they behave toward their infants.
An alternative explanation, however, for the differential behavior and attitudes exhibited by mothers of less attractive infants is that there may be some behavioral difference between attractive and unattractive infants. Rather than attractiveness per se eliciting differential treatment, behavioral differences associated with attractiveness could serve as the eliciting stimuli. To examine this possibility, the correlations between infant attractiveness and infant Apgar scores (a rough index of newborn health and physiological functioning) were computed, again, on a subset of the sample.
My Thoughts
If you received less love from your parents, this spills over into every other area of your life. More mental health issues, more trust issues, more issues with socialising and relationships etcetra. It’s not our fault really. Shitty parents really do ruin lives too.
It could also be a behavioural thing too. Because people hate ugly people, the ugly people fall into a negative social feedback loop and then that reflects in their behaviour like being severely introverted or something.
If you never received love, how could you give love? How could you embody love? Love is a privilege.
And then people do autistic clown jestermaxxing type shit to try and get the attention they never got. And that goes bad.
So sometimes you’re probably not even autistic or retarded or any of this, people have just labelled you with that based on how others have treated you, how you behaved as an consequence to that and also your appearances.
All of this ultimately accumulates into forced loneliness and loneliness is bad for EVERYTHING. It’s literally as bad as smoking multiple packs a day. We missed out on crucial experiences and feeling the love. We existed outside the positive social feedback loop and have rotted our lives away involuntarily. I don’t think it’s really our fault. I have enough compassion to not blame myself.
People with bad family and no social circle have essentially been dumped in the gutter to rot. Socially, mentally and even physically (LDAR)
This excerpt essentially says, even the mother knows it’s over for the child during the early stages of development.
Source
This excerpt is from the book Physical Appearance, Stigma, and social Behaviour (The Ontario Symposium Volume 3).
Chapter 2 Page 37 (Parental treatment and behaviour)
TLDR
While mothers were still in the hospital with their newborn girls, infant attractiveness was significantly and negatively correlated with a factor of maternal behavior labeled Interest in Others. The less attractive the baby, the more the mother directed her attention to and interacted with people other than the baby. This pattern was quite pervasive, occurring during both the feeding and the play situations.
By 3-months, infant attractiveness and the mother's interest in others were also significantly correlated for mothers of boys. And again, the pattern occurred in both the feeding and the play contexts. For 3-month-old girls, attractiveness was related to factors of maternal behavior involving positive affect. Mothers of more attractive girls, relative to those with less attractive girls, more often kissed, cooed, and smiled at their daughters while holding them close and cuddling them.
To further explicate the behavior of the mothers in this study, maternal attitudes toward their newborn infants were examined by computing the correlation between infant attractiveness and a factor reflecting concern and disappointment from the Parental Attitude Questionnaire (Parke & Sawin, 1975) on a subset of the sample. Sample items from this factor include: disappointed in baby's behavior, doesn't enjoy feeding baby, prefers not to hold baby, worries that baby is hard to calm, feels like spanking baby. The significant correlation (r = .43) indicated that the mothers of less attractive infants were more concerned about and disappointed in their infants, at least at the newborn period of the infant's life.
The attitudinal and behavioral data are thus both consistent and complementary and suggest that an unattractive appearance in an infant may elicit maternal concern and anxiety about the infant's health, behavior, and future development. These attitudes may then be expressed by mothers by the way in which they behave toward their infants.
An alternative explanation, however, for the differential behavior and attitudes exhibited by mothers of less attractive infants is that there may be some behavioral difference between attractive and unattractive infants. Rather than attractiveness per se eliciting differential treatment, behavioral differences associated with attractiveness could serve as the eliciting stimuli. To examine this possibility, the correlations between infant attractiveness and infant Apgar scores (a rough index of newborn health and physiological functioning) were computed, again, on a subset of the sample.
My Thoughts
If you received less love from your parents, this spills over into every other area of your life. More mental health issues, more trust issues, more issues with socialising and relationships etcetra. It’s not our fault really. Shitty parents really do ruin lives too.
It could also be a behavioural thing too. Because people hate ugly people, the ugly people fall into a negative social feedback loop and then that reflects in their behaviour like being severely introverted or something.
If you never received love, how could you give love? How could you embody love? Love is a privilege.
And then people do autistic clown jestermaxxing type shit to try and get the attention they never got. And that goes bad.
So sometimes you’re probably not even autistic or retarded or any of this, people have just labelled you with that based on how others have treated you, how you behaved as an consequence to that and also your appearances.
All of this ultimately accumulates into forced loneliness and loneliness is bad for EVERYTHING. It’s literally as bad as smoking multiple packs a day. We missed out on crucial experiences and feeling the love. We existed outside the positive social feedback loop and have rotted our lives away involuntarily. I don’t think it’s really our fault. I have enough compassion to not blame myself.
People with bad family and no social circle have essentially been dumped in the gutter to rot. Socially, mentally and even physically (LDAR)
This excerpt essentially says, even the mother knows it’s over for the child during the early stages of development.
Source
This excerpt is from the book Physical Appearance, Stigma, and social Behaviour (The Ontario Symposium Volume 3).
Chapter 2 Page 37 (Parental treatment and behaviour)
TLDR
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No one can fuck you up as much as bad family. You are in their mercy.
