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Single men in most societies are very similar to feral animals; They are at best tolerated but always seen as a threat that need to be managed.
The biggest thing that separates men and women is that on average, women have extensive support groups that they can draw upon for social, emotional, physical, even sexual support. And this is on a level I don't think most single men can fathom.
You're a woman and want to do something fun for the weekend? There are many people who want to invite you there. Want to get into a sport or hobby? There are lots of men who will help you get started just to spend time in your company. You're feeling sad because Chad dumped you or didn't call back? Plenty of women and even men will listen to you. Feeling horny? You don't even need Tinder, there are likely some attractive guys in your social circle that other women go to for their sexual needs, and you would rather sleep with him.
As a woman, you can enter a new city, open up a Tinder account and make a profile saying that you're new to the city and need some help settling in. You'll get hundreds of guys who want to be your tour-guide and tell you everything you need to know. The same thing doesn't really happen for men.
Every part of society wants women to succeed and wants women involved in their lives. Women are seen as intrinsically valuable just by existing. From the low meat-market of clubs to even social groups catered towards hobbies or athletics, there is always an effort to increase the number of women participating. Nobody wants to be in a sausage-fest, so women will frequently get invited to social events. Also because of their social value, women are more likely to be helped with education and throughout their career. Every guy wants to be that guy who helped out a damsel in distress in her school project, or helped the damsel get better at her job.
Most men don't get this extensive social support. Opposite to women, society doesn't want other men to succeed. Naturally, as a single male, most other males see you as a competition, and most females see you as a threat. As a result, most men end up having to learn how to manage everything on their own, and deal with their emotional and sexual needs in ways that don't involve others. Men are much more resilient when it comes to social isolation than women.
As a man, you are not wanted in any social circle unless you're either exceptionally talented in something, you're an athlete, or you're exceptionally good-looking. You can also get acceptance into a social circle by being the jokester or the simp, but again you're always seen as a liability, and you are only wanted for what you can provide (emotionally, financially, etc.), and as soon as you express that you have a sexuality the group no longer wants you involved.
If you aren't any of those, the easiest way to be accepted into a social circle is to get a girlfriend. Why? A girlfriend is social proof. It proves to the men that you are no longer competition to them, and proves to the women that you are safe because a woman other than them has selected you.
Men with girlfriends consistently have more vibrant social lives than single men. They get easy access to his girlfriend's support group filled with men and women. It can almost be night and day.
I've talked to any guys who have been single for a while and finally got a girlfriend, and they told me that after they got a girlfriend, other girls started to talk to him more and be more comfortable around him. He's invited to more places and is generally accepted into a social circle. I've also seen how the lives of men who had girlfriends suddenly became more dull when they break up. He loses access to his girlfriend's support group, so suddenly the girls who were friendly to him aren't friendly anymore, guys in that social circle see him as a threat again, and he essentially regresses back to being on the fringes of society.
So when men talk about tfw no GF, they are talking about more than just sex. Having a girlfriend does provide access to sex, love and intimacy, but it also is the easiest way for a man to get social acceptance and to inherit the social benefits of the woman he is dating.
The biggest thing that separates men and women is that on average, women have extensive support groups that they can draw upon for social, emotional, physical, even sexual support. And this is on a level I don't think most single men can fathom.
You're a woman and want to do something fun for the weekend? There are many people who want to invite you there. Want to get into a sport or hobby? There are lots of men who will help you get started just to spend time in your company. You're feeling sad because Chad dumped you or didn't call back? Plenty of women and even men will listen to you. Feeling horny? You don't even need Tinder, there are likely some attractive guys in your social circle that other women go to for their sexual needs, and you would rather sleep with him.
As a woman, you can enter a new city, open up a Tinder account and make a profile saying that you're new to the city and need some help settling in. You'll get hundreds of guys who want to be your tour-guide and tell you everything you need to know. The same thing doesn't really happen for men.
Every part of society wants women to succeed and wants women involved in their lives. Women are seen as intrinsically valuable just by existing. From the low meat-market of clubs to even social groups catered towards hobbies or athletics, there is always an effort to increase the number of women participating. Nobody wants to be in a sausage-fest, so women will frequently get invited to social events. Also because of their social value, women are more likely to be helped with education and throughout their career. Every guy wants to be that guy who helped out a damsel in distress in her school project, or helped the damsel get better at her job.
Most men don't get this extensive social support. Opposite to women, society doesn't want other men to succeed. Naturally, as a single male, most other males see you as a competition, and most females see you as a threat. As a result, most men end up having to learn how to manage everything on their own, and deal with their emotional and sexual needs in ways that don't involve others. Men are much more resilient when it comes to social isolation than women.
As a man, you are not wanted in any social circle unless you're either exceptionally talented in something, you're an athlete, or you're exceptionally good-looking. You can also get acceptance into a social circle by being the jokester or the simp, but again you're always seen as a liability, and you are only wanted for what you can provide (emotionally, financially, etc.), and as soon as you express that you have a sexuality the group no longer wants you involved.
If you aren't any of those, the easiest way to be accepted into a social circle is to get a girlfriend. Why? A girlfriend is social proof. It proves to the men that you are no longer competition to them, and proves to the women that you are safe because a woman other than them has selected you.
Men with girlfriends consistently have more vibrant social lives than single men. They get easy access to his girlfriend's support group filled with men and women. It can almost be night and day.
I've talked to any guys who have been single for a while and finally got a girlfriend, and they told me that after they got a girlfriend, other girls started to talk to him more and be more comfortable around him. He's invited to more places and is generally accepted into a social circle. I've also seen how the lives of men who had girlfriends suddenly became more dull when they break up. He loses access to his girlfriend's support group, so suddenly the girls who were friendly to him aren't friendly anymore, guys in that social circle see him as a threat again, and he essentially regresses back to being on the fringes of society.
So when men talk about tfw no GF, they are talking about more than just sex. Having a girlfriend does provide access to sex, love and intimacy, but it also is the easiest way for a man to get social acceptance and to inherit the social benefits of the woman he is dating.
