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The confidence advice is especially toxic

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From experience, telling insecure ugly incels to "be confident" or "act confident" tends to lead them to a path of narcissism / arrogance, because that's often the form confidence takes when it has no authentic roots and is summoned from nowhere.

Contrary to popular redpill belief, arrogance is not confidence and is repulsive to most women, not merely your grandma.

I have no idea where this meme of confidence came from but it must stop.
 
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true confidence is only derived from a high self esteem.
 
Then they say just be yourself. What if im a shy autist?
 
Everytime I gain little bit of self esteem or condifience and I shit you not everytime I get put down to my own place and 0 confidience again, that's why I stopped trying to better my confidience.. Because strangers 99.99% of the time girls would say some shit that ruins my whole week and esteem.
 
That's why PUAs have gained notoriety in public areas. People don't appreciate synthetic confidence
 
true confidence is only derived from a high self esteem.
Or a true high position in society. You can't expect a slave to be as confident as his lord. If he were, he would be considered too proud.
 
"Contrary to popular redpill belief, arrogance is not confidence and is repulsive to most women."
Not really. There are studies implying that women prefer narcissistic personalities. It doesn't trump looks but, being a cunt>being a nice guy.
 
Not really. There are studies implying that women prefer narcissistic personalities. It doesn't trump looks but, being a cunt>being a nice guy.
They like strong men but not narcissists. Narcissists are often, ironically, weak. Eg Commodus in the movie Gladiator.
 
Confidence is only attractive on attractive people.
 
They like strong men but not narcissists. Narcissists are often, ironically, weak. Eg Commodus in the movie Gladiator.


How does this square with your thread about muscles yesterday? The only strength women care about is the ability to pull social rank. If a gymcel can't humiliate another man with his purely physical strength, it's useless.

It's my experience that women, as narcissists par excellence, usually love to see most of the qualities that they embody present in their bedmates as well, inclusive, of course, of this same narcissism.
 
If you can't even say, 'hey I'm xxxx, how's it going?' to a girl, yup you guessed it you do need confidence
 
If you can't even say, 'hey I'm xxxx, how's it going?' to a girl, yup you guessed it you do need confidence
Of course you do. The problem I'm pointing out is telling ugly men this. Ugly men have no reason to be confident with women (unless they are famous or rich), so when they try to act confident, it usually ends up looking like narcissism or a weird sperging out.
 
It's my experience that women, as narcissists par excellence, usually love to see most of the qualities that they embody present in their bedmates as well, inclusive, of course, of this same narcissism.
I find you a bit harsh in dismissing all women as narcissists. Young women in Western countries tend to be, but once they start working or pop out a child, they're not as obnoxious as sheltered college girls.
 

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