LifeFuel The blackpill can be liberating

[Aventador]

Up until the last year, I used to blame myself for not finding a partner.

Examples:

"Im not being social enough,"
"Im not trying again after multiple failures, Im weak."
"I didnt approach right"
"My bio, isnt funny enough"
Etc..

I knew about some parts of the blackpill, even before i stumbled this forum. The difference is accepting it.

But after accepting the blackpill, the weight of failure stopped hurting as much- because I understand that its not entirely my fault.

Its not just about accepting blackpill as a truth, its digesting it, and fully understand how it comes into your life personally.

Accepting it is depressing sure, some never do.
But once you will, your life will become more clear, and maybe give you some comfort in this toxic world.

 

[ConservativeCel]

Yes, makes sense, I've experienced the same. When I was young (decades ago!), I was essentially a redpiller, so I blamed myself needlessly for "being shy" (mostly untrue anyway), for "not approaching" (also wrong, because cold approaching doesn't even work for normies, let alone incel tier guys and in fact I did initiate conversations with college sluts whenever actually possible, such as doing team work tasks together when ordered). Therefore, accepting the reality that a guy can be essentially undatable for no other crime than being physically unattractive can be liberating, even if simultaneously also damning.

 

[Aventador]

Yes, makes sense, I've experienced the same. When I was young (decades ago!), I was essentially a redpiller, so I blamed myself needlessly for "being shy" (mostly untrue anyway), for "not approaching" (also wrong, because cold approaching doesn't even work for normies, let alone incel tier guys and in fact I did initiate conversations with college sluts whenever actually possible, such as doing team work tasks together when ordered). Therefore, accepting the reality that a guy can be essentially undatable for no other crime than being physically unattractive can be liberating, even if simultaneously also damning.

True, we werent born to accept defeat. Its something so subconcious, our mind never truely accept it - just learn to live with it.